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DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
I find it weird that when you find a "connection" with someone that most men on this site get freaked out. I wonder what the real purpose behind these profiles really are. I've been around this site (and forums) for over a year and without fail every single time I talk with someone that is capable of a decent conversation they get freaked out if they "feel" anything more than just a friendship. Why are people really here? I truly believe that it doesn't have anything to do with the person on the receiving end (IN MY CASE... unless I am just in some weird little sheltered world). I'm starting to believe that guys seek out "GOOD" girls and then once they get them they run.

My question is why??

For over a year I have had my profile saying that I am strictly here for forums and friends. That has changed within the last month, I'm tired of focusing only on school. I thought I was ready for something more... until I've had a few experiences of men not being able to handle a decent "intelligent" conversation. It's like everything goes great until they realize how compatible we could actually be and that I am not willing to "play games." I consider myself to be on the high end of "good girls." I am working hard in school (as many of you may know). Is it possible that men aren't willing to share my time? (I have to put schoolwork and studying first. At 32 years old it's time to build a future and career for myself regardless of any relationship). This does not mean that I am not willing to share this life with someone else. This just means that I must find someone that understands that I need more than someone to love. I must love myself too! (And be happy with the choices I make in life.)

Any thoughts on this? Could it intimidate people?



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
Lets get marrid......

how`s that???.......grin


bouquet
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
BOBANBOBAN: Lets get marrid......

how`s that???.......


Haha!! kiss
Let's go!! ;)
bouquet
DryKnickers vancouver, British Columbia Canada
Im here until I get out of jail......and for the free chips and dip!!peace
Are you My Type, as i can hold somewhat of a conversation, Tho I dont know if it woulsd be intelegent or just smart. After all I an a Man u knowrolling on the floor laughing tongue yay



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
DaisyChick: I find it weird that when you find a "connection" with someone that most men on this site get freaked out. I wonder what the real purpose behind these profiles really are. I've been around this site (and forums) for over a year and without fail every single time I talk with someone that is capable of a decent conversation they get freaked out if they "feel" anything more than just a friendship. Why are people really here? I truly believe that it doesn't have anything to do with the person on the receiving end (IN MY CASE... unless I am just in some weird little sheltered world). I'm starting to believe that guys seek out "GOOD" girls and then once they get them they run.

My question is why??

For over a year I have had my profile saying that I am strictly here for forums and friends. That has changed within the last month, I'm tired of focusing only on school. I thought I was ready for something more... until I've had a few experiences of men not being able to handle a decent "intelligent" conversation. It's like everything goes great until they realize how compatible we could actually be and that I am not willing to "play games." I consider myself to be on the high end of "good girls." I am working hard in school (as many of you may know). Is it possible that men aren't willing to share my time? (I have to put schoolwork and studying first. At 32 years old it's time to build a future and career for myself regardless of any relationship). This does not mean that I am not willing to share this life with someone else. This just means that I must find someone that understands that I need more than someone to love. I must love myself too! (And be happy with the choices I make in life.)

Any thoughts on this? Could it intimidate people?




Some of us are just bored... and we need just to kill some time

some of us are surching for the ultimat soulmate...but has nothing to offer in return

som of us are just players

some of us are scammers in a deepr mining

some of us dont speak English

and some of us are serios abo9ut a relacionship, but verry carfuly



pebblesbamban Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania USA
Hey!!.. 10'y alone... the same here.... I try.. I do my best.. but this can't help me.... my profile say only what I want.... if somebody are interesting... they know where is my office.... for any complain.... wink

Who next....??...bouquet
DryKnickers vancouver, British Columbia Canada
LethalLove: What day????? Officially I can give it another go tomorrow...
July 13......hollllllllllly crap!!! This has been the longest!!! Ive kinda stayed away from it too mostly..........the bs is PIZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZING ME OFF!!!very mad
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
Honestly, I guess it doesn't really matter as much why one is "here" but that they are upfront about why and they know what it is they want to get out of this experience.
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I've never been one to judge or discard because someone didn't seek the same outcome as me. I just like to understand intentions.
cheers
I appreciate your replies!!
DryKnickers vancouver, British Columbia Canada
LethalLove: What day????? Officially I can give it another go tomorrow...
Actually Ive been banned more this year than any other year.........CO INKY DINK???very mad I THINK SSSSSSSSSSSNOT@@@
saucypup cork, Cork Ireland
BOBANBOBAN: Some of us are just bored... and we need just to kill some time

some of us are surching for the ultimat soulmate...but has nothing to offer in return

som of us are just players

some of us are scammers in a deepr mining

some of us dont speak English

and some of us are serios abo9ut a relacionship, but verry carfuly

i think bobanboban has covered the whole gambit there lol

if the men up and run at least you know they are not for you
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
pebblesbamban: Hey!!.. 10'y alone... the same here.... I try.. I do my best.. but this can't help me.... my profile say only what I want.... if somebody are interesting... they know where is my office.... for any complain....

Who next....??...


hug hug
All you can do is be you and try your best.
It's up to the good ones in the world to appreciate it!
DaisyChick, I have been wondering the exact same thing.... (wow!) And I can sign under every point you made in your post. handshake It will be interesting to hear some of the more serious replies (as this is a topical issue for me and apparently someone else too!).



Roxaan Some where in Europe, Lappi Finland
Just Chill out Honey and be youself.......we are all in the same boat here.....


Stay Positive and just have some fun......

teddybear cheering cheering



pebblesbamban Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania USA
DaisyChick: All you can do is be you and try your best.
It's up to the good ones in the world to appreciate it!


have fun girl...hug ... and be careful with the piranhas....Tilapias... monkey.. parrots...and pirates......hug cheers
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
AudrysSis: DaisyChick, I have been wondering the exact same thing.... (wow!) And I can sign under every point you made in your post. It will be interesting to hear some of the more serious replies (as this is a topical issue for me and apparently someone else too!).


hug Good to see you AudrysSis. It's been a while.
I felt silly for the "rant" tonight and it's really nice --and not so nice :( --to hear someone understands how I feel.
BOBANBOBAN: Some of us are just bored... and we need just to kill some time


"Do not squander time for that is the stuff life is made of." professor laugh

As for being "very careful", there is "careful" and then there is "passive". No one is dragging them down the isle yet, but at some point it would make sense to take the "relationship" out of the computer into the real life, no?



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
AudrysSis: "Do not squander time for that is the stuff life is made of."

As for being "very careful", there is "careful" and then there is "passive". No one is dragging them down the isle yet, but at some point it would make sense to take the "relationship" out of the computer into the real life, no?


Excelent point...thumbs up


and you have noticed that most of us (people on this site) are talking about beeing hurt in the past

so we are scared of "the real life"

pozdrav za tebe...bouquet
DryKnickers vancouver, British Columbia Canada
LethalLove: Ok...I'll wait until you do....and well...maybe I wont post anywhere near you...so you dont get the electric chair with me...
lol you can go there.......dont worry!!!laugh
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
Roxaan: Just Chill out Honey and be youself.......we are all in the same boat here.....Stay Positive and just have some fun......


Thank you Roxaan hug
For the most part I am... Then I have these nights where I just try to figure out the world grin




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