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DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
Witchaywoman: Well I hope you find someone good, and I think you have a chance.


As you too sweetie hug



pebblesbamban Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania USA
Sommerauer71: Hi Daisychick

What an interesing thread. Oh the reasons why people are here. One topic where many people think they know why other people are here.

I cannot speak for me. But I can tell you why I came here. I came on the recommendation of a friend, when another forum closed down that was a relationships forum and at that time I was going through a rather spectacular break up. I joined here, in what was a fragile state. I posted once, then I never returned for six months to the forums, as I could not face it and was in all honesty seeking the safety of my old forum. I came back again around 18 months ago. To the forums and I never used it as a dating site, I used it as a way of filling time, my children had left home, and the long winters in Austria, made it a place to come and chat and get to know people. I was never here for dating, even though I had a profile completed and the dreaded 'What you are looking for# filled in. I would become frustrated at people over IM who I could not have a conversation with and set my IM to switched off. Then I began writing in the forums, firstly over in the EU then I had a browse in these ones and I liked them.

Being in a school myself, I find the adult interaction is good for me, especially as I do live alone, I am only here for the forums. I have not made so many friends, because I don't want a huge long list of online friends, I have the ones that know me personally and we meet who are also members here, and a couple that I chat to outside of here.

I did not use this site as a sole avenue for meeting a person. I did in the end, meet a person from here and we are in a happy, stable relationship.

I do not even begin to speculate why other people are here, but it will be interesting to see why people really are here.... I know from other threads that people have written why they are here, but I like it when people write about themselves. So it will be interesting.



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lifeis2good77 brooks,alberta, Alberta Canada
Witchaywoman: Ok, women are geared to want to get married. Most women snap up anything that will say "I DO." The men here are men who have not been snapped up. That means that you are rooting through all kinds of guys who are single for a reason. The best you can do is to figure out what that reason is. Did his wife die, or does he consider himself a player, or is it fear of commitment? I feel that if a guy has not been snapped up, that's suspicious, and the men here should be approached with caution.


sorry but I don't think thats fair too say maybe we just hide well and the same goes both ways.



pebblesbamban Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania USA
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Sweet_And_Sassy Lake Elmo, Minnesota USA
DaisyChick: This is true for some and I agree. I think there is a "mindset" though and some women get past that "I Do" stage. I've been married (and separated and now widowed) and am ready to meet people that are looking for the same things in a ""Relationship"" as I am (whether it be romantic or friendship based). Some people may just have sh*tty luck, as I have. I strongly believe that all the ones "not snapped up" aren't because of their lack of character or personality but because it was someone elses poor judgement (which in turn equals my gain).


So true! Because if we go around assuming all available men here are losers, then they can think that about all available women are too. I happen to know I am not a loser. I have lots to offer, and am looking for a worthy man to give myself to, and he to me. Not looking to drag or be dragged down any isle. Just looking to love and be loved. It's pretty basic really.

Before anyone attaches the "she's desperate" label to me because I dare to say I am looking for love, you should know that my search has been going on for over ten years so far, and could be another ten years. Which is fine with me. As long as in the end I find the man I am meant to be with.

Not here just to kill time. Not here to play or be played. Not here to see how many dates I can get. Not here to hook up either. Here in hopes of meeting someone special, some day. Whenever that may be. In the mean time, I enjoy forums very much. comfort
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
Sommerauer71: Hi Daisychick

What an interesting thread. Oh the reasons why people are here. One topic where many people think they know why other people are here.

I cannot speak for me. But I can tell you why I came here. I came on the recommendation of a friend, when another forum closed down that was a relationships forum and at that time I was going through a rather spectacular break up. I joined here, in what was a fragile state. I posted once, then I never returned for six months to the forums, as I could not face it and was in all honesty seeking the safety of my old forum. I came back again around 18 months ago. To the forums and I never used it as a dating site, I used it as a way of filling time, my children had left home, and the long winters in Austria, made it a place to come and chat and get to know people. I was never here for dating, even though I had a profile completed and the dreaded 'What you are looking for# filled in. I would become frustrated at people over IM who I could not have a conversation with and set my IM to switched off. Then I began writing in the forums, firstly over in the EU then I had a browse in these ones and I liked them.

Being in a school myself, I find the adult interaction is good for me, especially as I do live alone, I am only here for the forums. I have not made so many friends, because I don't want a huge long list of online friends, I have the ones that know me personally and we meet who are also members here, and a couple that I chat to outside of here.

I did not use this site as a sole avenue for meeting a person. I did in the end, meet a person from here and we are in a happy, stable relationship.

I do not even begin to speculate why other people are here, but it will be interesting to see why people really are here.... I know from other threads that people have written why they are here, but I like it when people write about themselves. So it will be interesting.


Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring! hug

I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.

I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days laugh ) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.

In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!

hug
gtthomas Towson, Maryland USA
DaisyChick: As you too sweetie
Heart of Gold!!dancing



rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands
maybe its because all the girls i talk to in private wanna marry me?cool



pebblesbamban Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania USA
this is a good one....laugh


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dirko63 brussels, Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium
rodolpho: maybe its because all the girls i talk to in private wanna marry me?


you got the scammers again grin



rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands
dirko63: you got the scammers again
No i got the runslaugh



rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands
dirko63: you got the scammers again
thats an insult im cute and adorablecool laugh



rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands
rodolpho: thats an insult im cute and adorable
no kids and filthy



rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands
rodolpho: no kids and filthy
richgrin



pebblesbamban Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania USA
rodolpho: thats an insult im cute and adorable


Yes Baby.. Very cute Alien.....hug kiss



Take the pic bouquet



rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands
pebblesbamban: Yes Baby.. Very cute Alien.....
Take the pic
yes IM Extra Testicalgrin



Sweet_And_Sassy Lake Elmo, Minnesota USA
DaisyChick:
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should.


OMG. I am RIGHT there with you sista! If you're anything like me, there will be lots of frustration. But for some reason I can't give up. I don't think we are meant to go through life alone.

Stay strong, and try your best to think positive. (let me know if you come up with any pointers too, as I am certainly no expert) I don't think I ask for a lot, but apparently it must be. doh



dirko63 brussels, Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium
rodolpho: No i got the runs


Hope they get better laugh



Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria
DaisyChick: Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring!

I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.

I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.

In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!
Thank you Daisy.

I had to smile at the highlighted statement. Because I often wonder about people too, just you know, when you wake up in the middle of the night and you think, 'I wonder what is happening in their mind' Or when I am in a traffic jam. In the bath, anywhere. People for thousands of years have tried to work it out and I am sure we will still be trying for many thousands of years.

I think it is absolutely fine to be picky, I think online dating affords us that, we can write down what we want, and that seems to brainwash into thinking that is what we want. I know my 'what are you looking' read like a shopping list. 'Must be a golfer' Must not bite his nails, must be tall, groomed and have some self control, but in all honesty, Daisy, it can never be like that can it? What we write in words and who blows our skirt up, are often two different things. I ended with up a football loving, tall man, who has never played golf, yet would be excellent at if he played.

So many people state they are too busy with careers for a relationship, and some are, this is no reflection on any person that is, but I do sometimes think, when a person makes us stop and sit up, and we think 'I like this' we will always find room. I equate that to when I was pregnant with my second child, at a young tener age, I often used to think, how will I love this child as much as the first one, how will I fit him/her into my life, I managed it, I found the room. So I do think I do.

I found it hard to connect with any man here on a romantic basis, not because of any particular reason, I think it was more where I was at.

Good thread....
DaisyChick Portland, Oregon USA
gtthomas: I will say this once...I have never been married and do not have kids ....


hug hug
Being "loveless" happens in all shapes and forms dear sweet Thomas. We just have to decide what we want and go after it. I've been married and now widowed (as you know) and none of it is pleasurable at all (except for my lovely boy). DON'T give up, even if we shall have days we want to. Eventually we will connect with someone and some of the best days of our lives will be in store.

teddybear




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