DaisyChick: Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring!
I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.
In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!
Thank you Daisy.
I had to smile at the highlighted statement. Because I often wonder about people too, just you know, when you wake up in the middle of the night and you think, 'I wonder what is happening in their mind' Or when I am in a traffic jam. In the bath, anywhere. People for thousands of years have tried to work it out and I am sure we will still be trying for many thousands of years.
I think it is absolutely fine to be picky, I think online dating affords us that, we can write down what we want, and that seems to brainwash into thinking that is what we want. I know my 'what are you looking' read like a shopping list. 'Must be a golfer' Must not bite his nails, must be tall, groomed and have some self control, but in all honesty, Daisy, it can never be like that can it? What we write in words and who blows our skirt up, are often two different things. I ended with up a football loving, tall man, who has never played golf, yet would be excellent at if he played.
So many people state they are too busy with careers for a relationship, and some are, this is no reflection on any person that is, but I do sometimes think, when a person makes us stop and sit up, and we think 'I like this' we will always find room. I equate that to when I was pregnant with my second child, at a young tener age, I often used to think, how will I love this child as much as the first one, how will I fit him/her into my life, I managed it, I found the room. So I do think I do.
I found it hard to connect with any man here on a romantic basis, not because of any particular reason, I think it was more where I was at.
Good thread....