blissfull: thanks all!
your suggestions are very helpful. i won't be such a shy baby next time. you all are hitting the nail on the head.
as i read in another forum (i think i'm quoting you cuspomagic) women like confident men, i'm sure that works both ways. keep the suggestions coming and thanks again.
grab a black marker and write: "single and looking" on your forehead....
any guy that misses that needs to jump out of the gene pool or go back to gradeschool !!!!