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Marraige is Necessary
for our generations
for our sex requirments
for our family

The tradition in which i was raised forced me to believe that it was the ultimate sin to live with a man without marriage, so i grew up thinking that every guy i had a fancy for i couldn't have a relationship with unless i was married to him. Thank god i rebelled and moved away from that although unfortunately not escaping the traditional Indian custom of being married (an arranged one ) at a very young age (16)........... based on my experiences and the wisdom i now have i am not sure i would want to marry again. Why do people get marry? we get marry because we fall in love, we meet someone and we think that person is our soul mate, a lot of times, I think that when people get married they are so excited about the romance of being in a committed relationship and all the so called perks of marriage they don't realize they have signed on for a life sentence of work. Day in and day out work, it takes a lot of time, effort and sacrifice to make a marriage work and last for years.Marriage is about compromising and it's about commitment to the new family you are creating and communicating all the time about everything the good, the bad, and the ugly. We may want to say that a marriage union between an honorable man and a virtuous woman protects a man and woman from the impurities of casual and illicit sex.....personally BS !!! ........that exactly why we have so many divorces in the world today and i am speaking from my own experiences...........
I believe the concept of marriage originated solely from mankind (some may want to argue this saying its based on God) and say that mankind had absolutely nothing to do with the institution of marriage, the majority of men and women who closed their eyes and tried to pull off the marital stunt, opened their eyes and found themselves being dragged through the nightmarish blood sucking divorce court mill. If not the divorce court mill, through the brutal family court if not the family court, they found themselves enmeshed in abuse or domestic violence and their lists of problems are never ending so i think its important to understand and the point that choosing the wrong mate is one of the primary reasons people end up in marriages besieged with internal marital problems. It is not because every marriage is destined to have problems.

Do i think its old fashioned ...........yes !! would i do it again...........it depends on a number of things but to me its absolutely no big deal.....i have no problem living with a guy .........marriage cannot make a person what that he/she already isn't as an individual !!JMO

Noooo thats how you feel and thats great, but i feel i can do all the things people are talking about within a relationship without getting married again.

yes of course I do as well ...but there is still something to be said about standing up and being counted ...IMO

It is important revenue for the church, the jewelers, the gift shops and many more then finally the solicitors.

were just tooo cynical

Hindsight Morg

I respect your opinion, but to me as long as he knows how i feel and i show that everyday in some way, thats all thats important

Yep,

People start living together after 2 dates now adays. To marry....there is more thought. And then there is the toasters!!!

One out of three ain't bad... Or is it???

My observation - marriage is a sure fire way to kill romance.

You said it.......

I would think that would be true if you went into it with that outlook ....a bit negative don't you think...

Well just my expierence......Ever marry a dead door knop?

well I can understand that ,but to close your mind to a insitution such as marrage just because of one person hardly seems like a fair shake to me .....My wife cheated our whole marrage and if I had the same out look as this I would asume all women are cheaters.

Well this has nothing to do with cheating.. Believe me....but after 30 yrs,I gave it all I could give, and its just bled dead.....No more to be said....It always take 2 to tango....

of course