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Sweet_And_Sassy: First off, I just joined this site. I had a man contact me. He told me about his JOB and his KIDS. He didn't tell me about HIM. So I was trying to get to know HIM. I asked him questions like - how would you describe your personality, what do you look for in a relationship, what do you look for in a woman, and what types of things would you like to do for dating?

Before I asked these questions, he had told me we had a LOT in common. He never answered my questions. But he did reply in a manner that made me feel like I am some horrible person for asking about dating and relationships.

I realize now that he was just looking for a woman to raise his kids. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE kids! But I have raised my own ALONE for over 17 years, and no one has wanted to help me.

I would gladly love and care for another man's children, as long as we have a good relationship between him & me. I mean we would date and do things other than just raising the kids.

Am I wrong???

Sweet_And_Sassy: First off, I just joined this site. I had a man contact me. He told me about his JOB and his KIDS. He didn't tell me about HIM. So I was trying to get to know HIM. I asked him questions like - how would you describe your personality, what do you look for in a relationship, what do you look for in a woman, and what types of things would you like to do for dating?

Before I asked these questions, he had told me we had a LOT in common. He never answered my questions. But he did reply in a manner that made me feel like I am some horrible person for asking about dating and relationships.

I realize now that he was just looking for a woman to raise his kids. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE kids! But I have raised my own ALONE for over 17 years, and no one has wanted to help me.

I would gladly love and care for another man's children, as long as we have a good relationship between him & me. I mean we would date and do things other than just raising the kids.

Am I wrong???

dirko63: no! but will you raise mine for me

mbcasey: You did nothing wrong.

Finding out about a person takes time. If he is not willing to talk about himself and who he is, maybe he is hiding something.

But maybe he doesn't want to open up just yet. You will have to judge over time if he wants more than a babysitter for his kids.

Good luck to you.

dirko63: no! but will you raise mine for me

caspatch: no nothing wrong and if it is who i think it is run

Sweet_And_Sassy: Oh his reply made it clear I would not be part of his life...ever. It was like "we are from different worlds...I don't want YOU to raise my kids...good luck".

Sheesh! So much for all those things we had in common!

I'd say dating sucks. But honestly it's been years since I've even HAD a date. Finding someone to date...sucks.

Sweet_And_Sassy: First off, I just joined this site. I had a man contact me. He told me about his JOB and his KIDS. He didn't tell me about HIM. So I was trying to get to know HIM. I asked him questions like - how would you describe your personality, what do you look for in a relationship, what do you look for in a woman, and what types of things would you like to do for dating?

Before I asked these questions, he had told me we had a LOT in common. He never answered my questions. But he did reply in a manner that made me feel like I am some horrible person for asking about dating and relationships.

I realize now that he was just looking for a woman to raise his kids. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE kids! But I have raised my own ALONE for over 17 years, and no one has wanted to help me.

I would gladly love and care for another man's children, as long as we have a good relationship between him & me. I mean we would date and do things other than just raising the kids.

Am I wrong???

sylvana: no you are not wrong
usually men want
sex
someone to cook and clean
someone to rise up their kids

only very few can open themselves
and are really interested
who we are
and what we want in this life

your choice

Sweet_And_Sassy: Oh his reply made it clear I would not be part of his life...ever. It was like "we are from different worlds...I don't want YOU to raise my kids...good luck".

Sheesh! So much for all those things we had in common!

I'd say dating sucks. But honestly it's been years since I've even HAD a date. Finding someone to date...sucks.

Sweet_And_Sassy: WOW! I wonder who you think it is! (you can email me if you like)

P.S. He is a widower. Hmmm. Just sayin'

virgiomonkey: ....... .Very Good..Was waiting for comment like that to be posted......And this time,'surprise', it wasn't me been a 'Smart Ass'..

J.D....E.M.C.P

Sweet_And_Sassy: Sure! If you date me, and treat me special!

OneKitty: Geeze....
Lame for him to say that to you. What a childish response and without him even bothering to talk with you about your questions and stuff.

You deserve better! :)

Good thing you found all this out before things got too far down the road!