singleohioguy: Ok this is my questions / opinion. Does anyone other than me feel that talking to someone on here for weeks / months at a time, then deciding to trade phone numbers or go on that nerve racking first date, just to find out that there is absolutely NO attraction, is a complete waste of time? Wouldn't it be better to talk to them a few days to get some kind of ground work established then meet in a very public place to see if you even WANT to go out on that first date?
I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!
More times than I care to remember.....
