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Were Not God..

Only he can make that decision..

total buzz kill, don't wanna get all judgy tonight.

what those poor women will do if men run and chase after them like some dog?lol....i mean, seriously, under no circumstances, children are the responsibility of women as far as financial oblingation is concerned. if a man gets a woman pregnant, it is the MAN..i repeat MAN...who should and MUST pay for everything for the child.

it is just a terrible, terrible unjust to a woman if she is made to pay for her children.

Yup i bare the responsibility and raised my 2 on my own..

Where were the father...

i am so sorry dear...a terrible unjustice has been made to you dear...and i apologize on behalf of that man(a disgrace to man if i am allowed to say)

wow, kind of a hot topic there.

i can only give a personal opinion based on me and what i've done.

My ex and i discussed marrage and children for a while. We were both working, had a savings acct for 'what if's ' and planed our wedding day. He is older than me and was at a point where he was ready for kids, i wasn't yet. But fate and poor planning won that debate for him and along came our first.
I was on doctor's orders not to work because i was an 'at risk' pregnancy and because it was earlier than expected, what we'd managed to save didn't go as far as it could have.

Skip a few years, we have two kids and he's working crap jobs that barely got us thru paycheck to paycheck, i'm looking for work but we can't even afford a babysitter so i have to take less paying jobs to work around his schedule.

skip a few more yrs and i'm a single parent and sole supporter working two jobs and missing seeing my girls grow up.

Personal op? Women shouldn't have kids until THEY are good and ready, and have steady funds weather they work for them or not.

Its ok..they are fine young boys..

well one is 19 and the other 11..

not all men are like that..but the ones are its not fair for the kids nor the women they gotten pregnant

Women who cannot support their children should give them up for adoption. Women who want to become pregnant will do so regardless of her mental and financial status, even though it is not right that she disregards being a healthy mother with income.

i agree with everything you said above there except that i fundamentally disagree with "healthy mother with income" part. Where i come from tells me that a woman can have millions of dollars but still she is OBLIGED to pay a dime for her children..it is the man's job to pay for his kids.

i mean she is NOT OBLIGATED.

Don't you mean that happening in divorce cases? And what about abandonment cases where the father cannot be found? The OP didn't meantion anything about the man, only the woman's responsibility to her child.

WOW.Is that a real picture on your profile?
I will respond to your post asap.

you are right. But this is how i see it. the moment a man chooses to release his sperms inside the uterus of a woman gettign her pregnant, it becomes HIS responsibility to take care of that child no matter even if the decision to get pregnant was taken my the woman.

i guess what i am trying suggest is that men MUST be more thoughtful and responsible when undertaking such a 'huge' task.

first of all no woman out there in their right frame of mind would allow their child to go with out
second: the world aint perfect and we're not either
third:if she wasnt meant to have kids she wudnt

what's wrong with you avecaim! when you became a HE!?