Why do people ** write to anyone and then not answer
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MountainMan
Soldotna, Alaska USA
I'm just wondering why people like the above named lady bother to write anyone . She wrote me a very nice letter . I replied , then heard nothing for several weeks . She was an interesting person , so I wrote to see if she had gotten my letter . She had , and proceeded to write me another long letter , saying she was very interested in getting to know me . I wrote her several more letters and got several more , saying she could see us getting together. Then today she wrote me , all bent out of shape because I hadn't used her full name ,then she gave me the "kiss off" and put a blocker on , so I couldn't reply to her not so nice letter . So , what makes people do things like that . I think she's just a game player , and I'd like to warn any guys who are thinking about writting her , don't waste your time writting a woman listed as **, from North Carolina
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Sorry about your experience. I read your profile and you sound like a nice man. ** sounds like she got cold feet and used any excuse to stop chatting with you.I hope you continue trying.good Luck
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bonaircat
Richmond, Virginia USA
Ditto what develsmom said!
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Ditto what Bonaircat said. It's one thing to say whats on her mind, but it's another to ignore you where you can't defend yourself. Keep on keepin on!
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thephoenix7777
i havee had the same thing happen not once but threee times in the last few months.I gave up on her
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LL187
Nanaimo Canada
Yes, true, all of that, but is it entirely fair to single out your ** in a forum topic like this?
It could be very embarrassing for her, and though you
may feel she deserves it, that is just your view.
I don't know if she is still using Connecting Singles and is likely to run across it. She may still be lookinig for someone, of maybe not. Who know, maybe,
(sorry), maybe ** got married.
dpw
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thephoenix7777
good call on your part,that was rude of us
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acurangel
Jesolo Italy
Singling out one person to pick on isn't fair I agree, but I can safely say that we all have our stories on receiving an email sending a reply and then nothing. Just chalk it up to they were not the one and get back in the groove.
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MountainMan
Soldotna, Alaska USA
I'm not singleing this woman out , like some seem to think . She was listed under "Most popular women" , so I'm thinking she's getting a lot of replies . I just wanted to warn guys who might be thinking of contacting her , what they may be getting themselves into . Some people on this site really are seriously looking for someone to spend their lives with .When people like this reply to their letters, and give positive rplies ,and have someone get their hopes up , that they may have found the person they are searching for... It hurts , and makes you feel like a fool for opening yourself up to them . To some of us , this is serious, not some childish game....
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LL187
Nanaimo Canada
Oh, yes, I know, I'm one of the ones for whom this is
serious, not at all some childish game. At first I didn't get any replies, and it was that way for a long time, but finally on another site I did, and two or three times I got a couple of replies, then silence.
I does hurt. It is a rejection. But I still believe that the popular women here get their mail boxes stuffed and find themselves answering lots of messages. They have a hard time keeping up. So I can see how it can happen. I still don't like it at all. But it was better than being ignored.
dpw
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tphts
roanoke USA
I have had the pleaser of wonderful letter from miss **,an email that almost beggs you to answer.I too did not recieve an answer from the lady for my responce.I didn't let this bother me though, because I believe for me they are just looking for the chemistry to be rite.
It is rude in my opinion,but it is a fact of life that I except.
I have also been contacted buy two ladies who led me to believe they were in the U.S..That are (1)Africa and the other in the Philippines.
Don
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thephoenix7777
I was made aware that to single out a person for negative feedback was in poor taste so i backed off.I have yet to see this thread end.I am asking the for the hand of mod to hit the delete and make this history.If the women in question was to see this it would hurt her feelings and that ought not be.
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LL187
Nanaimo Canada
I kinda appreciate their hands off attitude, and
almost hate to set a precedent here, Phoenix, but,
you know, they are available through the Contact Us
thing at the bottom of the page, or
support@ConnectingSingles.com
dpw
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MountainMan
Soldotna, Alaska USA
You worry about this woman getting her feelings hurt , what about the peoples feelings she's hurting .Don't their feelings count; and since another guy replied and said she had done the same thing to him ; it only confirms what I said in the first place .. She plays with people ; and that's not right .You're entitled to your opinion , but so am I.....
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LL187
Nanaimo Canada
I am sure there are some disturbed people on Connecting Singles, as on all singles sites and in real life. I done condone her behaviour, but I just
don't like exposing her username openly as the name
of a thread. Maybe it is OK, maybe not, I just raised
the issue. If she really is sufficiently disturbed or is abusing the system, she should be removed from
Connecting Singles, have her profile deleted, so she
could not bother people, but I don't think she should
be exposed to public ridicule. Anyway, the moderators
will probably take a look at this thread and decide
whether it is legit or not. I don't know what I would
like them to decide, because I so much prefer their
hands-off attitude. I just wish there was another
way to do what you are trying to do.
dpw
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thephoenix7777
2 wrongs dont make a right
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LL187
Nanaimo Canada
How about we just get the moderators, if they are
listening (and I asked them to listen, just listen) to edit the very conspicuous title line of this forum to remove her name, but allow MountainMan and others their say inside the thread?
dpw
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thephoenix7777
thats cool as i can see taliking about such a thing if no names are mentioned and LL187 you are the one who pointed oout the error of our ways
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LL187
Nanaimo Canada
Yes, I did, but as so often happens there is a conflict
between free speech and the other human rights, rights
to privacy, and concern for people's feeling. There is
some truth in MountainMan's cause. I think just taking
the woman's name out of the thread's headline is a good
compromise, but the moderators may not agree. Taking
names out of individual posts is a bit too invasive,
so the woman might stumble across her name, and I would
regret that, but at least if it is out of the headline
the chances are reduced and it would not glare at her.
It's the best solution I can think of.
dpw
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thephoenix7777
it is a good solution and i really beelieve in free speach but only when it causes no damage.I feel no human has the right to hurt or otherwise do bad under the free speach label and this includes,hate,sexism,racist slurs and such.I have seen mods on other sites omit key info so it can be done.
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