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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:47 AM CST : Unconditional Love
Do you think it's possible in a romantic relationship?
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bodleing Greater Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:48 AM CST : Unconditional Love
Only if you're stupid.


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lrrh77 college station, Texas USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:51 AM CST : Unconditional Love
I think it's possible. I've seen it in other couples. But very difficult find in a romantic partner.sad flower
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photoguy green bay, Wisconsin USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:51 AM CST : Unconditional Love
In response to: Do you think it's possible in a romantic relationship?
love has rules.NO.
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:52 AM CST : Unconditional Love
bodleing: Only if you're stupid.


Can you elaborate?
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:54 AM CST : Unconditional Love
lrrh77: I think it's possible. I've seen it in other couples. But very difficult find in a romantic partner.


I don't think it's difficult; I think it's impossible, but I see others looking for unconditional love in a romantic partner and wanted to know why they thought it was.
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ladyfingers clovis, New Mexico USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:54 AM CST : Unconditional Love
Yes, I believe in unconditional love. I also believe that you get burnt when you give it. blues
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:55 AM CST : Unconditional Love
photoguy: love has rules.NO.


I happen to agree. I give my children unconditional love, but no one else. I wonder if those looking for unconditional love are confused about the definition of it or have overly romanticized notions of it.
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:58 AM CST : Unconditional Love
ladyfingers: Yes, I believe in unconditional love. I also believe that you get burnt when you give it.


Maybe. I know I love my children unconditionally, and extended myself financially in the divorce to provide them with their childhood home. They just decided recently to move in with their dad, and I am feeling sad and bereft and maybe a bit 'burnt,' but I wouldn't do it again any differently because they are my children, and I love them unconditionally.
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bodleing Greater Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK
Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:58 AM CST : Unconditional Love
longhairedwoman: Can you elaborate?


So...unconditional love???

I would say think about what that means.

More for the love of a dog for its doting owner.

Or a green light to be taken for a ride.

All relationships are conditional, by the very nature of them.
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Conrad73 Lonesome Town Zurich, Zrich Switzerland
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:00 PM CST : Unconditional Love
bodleing: Only if you're stupid.
rolling on the floor laughing
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rizlared ., Shanghai China
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:04 PM CST : Unconditional Love
longhairedwoman: I happen to agree. I give my children unconditional love, but no one else. I wonder if those looking for unconditional love are confused about the definition of it or have overly romanticized notions of it.

I agree with giving unconditional love to one's children, but not to a partner, there will always be some conditions, even if it's just personal hygiene, or the way they interact with you etc, There will always be a condition that they and I remain faithful.
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ladyfingers clovis, New Mexico USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:04 PM CST : Unconditional Love
longhairedwoman: Maybe. I know I love my children unconditionally, and extended myself financially in the divorce to provide them with their childhood home. They just decided recently to move in with their dad, and I am feeling sad and bereft and maybe a bit 'burnt,' but I wouldn't do it again any differently because they are my children, and I love them unconditionally.


I wouldn't change anything either. I always give unconditional love. To me, it means sticking with someone no matter what, understanding, forgiving, etc.

However, once burnt, twice cautious so it usually doesn't work out because one is always on one's guard for the next thing to happen.
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ladyfingers clovis, New Mexico USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:06 PM CST : Unconditional Love
rizlared: I agree with giving unconditional love to one's children, but not to a partner, there will always be some conditions, even if it's just personal hygiene, or the way they interact with you etc, There will always be a condition that they and I remain faithful.


Those 'conditions' can be changed. I don't consider those things in unconditional love..Faithfulness and understanding are unconditional to me.
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lrrh77 college station, Texas USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:06 PM CST : Unconditional Love
ladyfingers: I wouldn't change anything either. I always give unconditional love. To me, it means sticking with someone no matter what, understanding, forgiving, etc.

However, once burnt, twice cautious so it usually doesn't work out because one is always on one's guard for the next thing to happen.


well said ladyfingers. And hello...haven't seen you around much lately. wave
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ladyfingers clovis, New Mexico USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:09 PM CST : Unconditional Love
lrrh77: well said ladyfingers. And hello...haven't seen you around much lately.


Hello, I've been to NY. My mom was very ill and is in a nursing home now.
Thanks for noticing.
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somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:18 PM CST : Unconditional Love
longhairedwoman: Do you think it's possible in a romantic relationship?



Anything is possible in a relationship when two people really and truly want something to happen.That would involve no criticism,no blaming each other,no judgements no controling from either side.
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:18 PM CST : Unconditional Love
bodleing: All relationships are conditional, by the very nature of them.


Agreed.
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:21 PM CST : Unconditional Love
rizlared: I agree with giving unconditional love to one's children, but not to a partner, there will always be some conditions, even if it's just personal hygiene, or the way they interact with you etc, There will always be a condition that they and I remain faithful.


Yes, the monogamy condition is a basic one, but some continue to love their partner after being betrayed. I maintain that in itself does not portray unconditional love; rather, it indicates that person's conditions have not been breached.
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longhairedwoman Calverton, New York USA
Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:25 PM CST : Unconditional Love
ladyfingers: I wouldn't change anything either. I always give unconditional love. To me, it means sticking with someone no matter what, understanding, forgiving, etc.

However, once burnt, twice cautious so it usually doesn't work out because one is always on one's guard for the next thing to happen.


Are you saying you always give unconditional love to a romantic person? Once given, unconditional love is permanent, and doesn't die. If one is on guard for the next thing to happen, the love is not unconditional.
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