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It is a page in the history book, just turn the damn page.

i think it really hard just to turn the page ...but the true is u have to do it...or better u have to find someone who can replace the pain into hapiness...basiclly u have to find someone new...it usually works

Yeah I have to agree.

Think about healing before placing yourself on a site.

I met a man that I started having feelings for - come to find out he had horrible issues that stemmed from his mothers horrible ways of raising him to his ex wives cheating on him - in essence he turned to hurt me emotionally.

It's not fair to others that are able to heal fast or have no pain - to be among those that dwell and can't move past.

We've all hurt, we've all received bad news, pain - you have to remember who's in charge. You. Not the pain, not the person that caused pain. Whatever situation it was - you technically allowed this pain in your life. Our minds and bodies are capable of taking a lot.

With everything I've been through - I always say "my glass is full."

I'm just a happy optimist. You should not allow anything to bring you down.

you can't measure it.

you can't look at the ups and downs and predict what tomorrow's going to bring.
the heart is rather surprising like that. you can be so full of pain and misery and feel like your never going to get over it and move on, then lo and behold you walk around a corner and witness something or experience something that you never thought you would again.
it's something new but just as valid and filled with love as anything else was in your life. but it's just that, NEW. and different, you just gotta be able to see that.

You all know that you the next person in your life has to go through more tests so you don't get hurt again...

You all know that you the next person in your life has to go through more tests so you don't get hurt again...

You all know that you the next person in your life has to go through more tests so you don't get hurt again...

It's called get over it and move on.

a little harsh, and some people will. but others are 'happy optomists' and chose to see the good in everything before the bad. or sometimes you just nieve by choice also.

I just want to tell you all I'm not like that....I also think that the people that have answered this are older like me and know not to be that way.....but then again I did ask a question that none of you answered....Maybe it wasn't for the people that thought my way?

I was hurt so bad that I thought my heart would never heal again. It has healed and is full again with love to share...

Thank you very mush for posting that....and I'm glad it's full again....

I'm widowed cause my husband passed a way 2 yrs ago.When he died it felt like my heart had been torn out of me and like my whole world had ended.I did an awful lot of grieving/mourning during that time.But since then I figured it was time to move on. I've since begun a brand new chapter in my life cause I know in my heart that he would've wanted me to do that.His memory will always be with me.

My wife also passed and it killed me....I coded twice in the hospital...I took me 2 years of soul searching to understand that same feeling inside.. My wife had a conversation about a month before she died... She said if anything happened to her that she wanted me to go on and find love again and live for both of us.... I told her that I would die first because I smoked since I was 15...I just blew it off and didn't give it another thought until that day.... Thank you for re posting

You're welcome.

It depends on where you are in the process of healing. When my husband first died, I was in full denial, but definitely half empty for the first time in my life. A part of me had died too, and my identity as his wife and lover. I was lost and alone, and it hurt like hell.

A year later I finally started to grieve, and it hurt worse...I was more than half empty for a while, until the tears started to heal my pain.

Now, I'm full. I love my life, and am surrounded by a lot of love from good friends, my family, my sons, and my dogs. Life is wonderful, and I'm ready to live the rest of it.

It takes time to get through this process, and how much time depends on the individual. It took me almost two years.

As to being hurt by others before and after in my life, I've never been hateful. I just forgive and let it go...life's too short to dwell in negativity, and not all of any gender or race can be judged by one member of it and their actions.

Ditto, Anna. Nobody can take away the memories you have, and the fact that you once loved like that...nor the love you still have for him. But there is always room to love again once we've healed from the loss.

we should be hopeful and passionat to find someone,Hate is not in my blood