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some guys can be so confused sometimes... and some are also just going for their ego hit. im not saying this only happens with guys as im sure there are some girls out there doing the exact same thing. take heart, i've been put through the same. you just flick em off and not think about it no more. it's their loss.

its so they dont hurt you . but you shouldnt let that bring you down and you shouldnt wait around . just enjoy your life and you'll be fine .

sawadee ka,yes i agree,in many cases they rather just walk away than to say'youre not the person im looking for'& it happens vice versa to..

this is internet dating and many are flaky; people in todays internet generation have become self absorbed and cant' deal with confrontation or stress of any kind.

Instead of being a people person, respecting the other person and being honest, many disappear or just lie or avoid telling the truth.

If you dont have thick skin then one should not be internet dating. It's not easy; good luck

I adore a woman who says:

'You're the man I'm looking for!'

yes robert,when woman say this it is BONUS!

it goes both ways honey, women do the same thing.

yes this is true too

Yes they do, dates are easily broken.

Sometimes we have to face the cruel reality ,,,,,, it is nt always somebody's fault ... sometimes its us

It goes sort of like this. You have fun... you communicate. Feeling good at the time. Make agreements. Then the mind starts to work. Reality sets in. Little things that were said or not said crop up in the mind. Doubt creeps in. Life happens. Then feelings get hurt. How about this idea? If you went on a long time with someone and then they dumped you, would that not hurt worse?

Thank goodness that you have so little invested before either of them cut you loose. Think about it. So much less grief and you learned something about them. Better to bail now than after you change much of your life to fit theirs. Feel grateful for such a low cost lesson.

It happens. But did you exchange pictures or chatted on webcam before you met?

You know, one thing is when you speak to a person on the phone or in chat, and meeting in person is often something different.

meditator501

don't feel bad honey I think when you don't expect too much, that way you protect yourself from being hurt that's my advice
but if you see that the guy got interested in you, then go ahead
good luck!

Well maybe he got distracted and forgot, some men do but if you have still not heard then I agree that's bad. But whatever you do DO NOT phone him.

With the other man, maybe he was uncertain by the sounds of it, but not your problem, but at least he told you how he felt, some men don't bother. He could have said nothing and you would not have heard from him again wondering why. How about saying next time 'you know what your'e right I think so too but thanks for a nice time anyway' and walk away head up smiling.

At least they didn't try and get their leg over and then say, don't think this is gonna work !!

well... lets see...

and btw.. im not saying this was the case here...

you see a few pics, angled shots, with clothes (of course), some either "professional" shots or at least showing the "good" side and hiding the not so good (like face shots only for example).... but hey, she "claims" to be Athletic and toned... and her profile appears to be "compatible"... so you tell yourself... ah what the hell she seems like a winner... so you email which leads to phone calls and the eventual date...

now you get there and suddenly athletic can best be described as an activity as clearly it has to be a hell of a workout for her to just get up from a sitting position, then she opens her mouth and suddenly you realize that she clearly had someone else write her profile and she obviously was good to hide that during the phone conversations....

... and here is where you are screwed if you do and screwed if you dont.... cos if you are nice and at least finish the date but then dont call back, you are an asshole for doing so... and if you walk out or say, thanks but no thanks... you are a SHALLOW ass hole !!!!

personally i go in there knowing that im gonna be an asshole regardless so i just bluntly say what i have to say and let her cuss me out or whatever....

.... never was much of a PC kinda dude !!!

no matter what a good time you had on mail or telephone, the "proof" is always when 2 people meet for real.

Body language, the spark, how comfortable are we with each other, feronomes, how smooth the conversation, and what have you?

But..... that doesn't mean we shouldn't be honest and polite

The second one just sounds honest. How could he have known it wouldn't work out if he hadn't met with you - sitting across a table from you and talking face to face?

I think it is always best to meet sooner rather than later, we already know that we are looking for a companion, so when someone writes and appears to be “The One” we start to read with rose coloured glasses, this carries on to phone calls until we have created this ideal person in our head, the crunch comes when you meet for the first time, expectations are so high that the slightest deviation makes this expectation crash to the floor.
If you communicate via webcam then that can reduce some of the expectation, but it is that initial meeting that is so very important, say that, honesty then has to be at the forefront, and if there is a doubt then we should be able to voice that doubt without being made to feel guilty, truth hurts but it’s better than lying and ending up divorced.