Men you are important to the lives of your children

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tainogirl Trincity,West Indies, Trinidad and Tobago

Thu Nov 12, 2009 11:26 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

Just this morning on the way to work , I was listenting to a radio talk show discussing single parenting and the importance of single parents having support systems. Out of the discussion came some information about the corelation between the amount of men in prison and the lack of having fathers or father figures in their lives. It would appear that the lack of male input makes a lot of kids(males especially) suceptible to outside negative influences. As a child I grew up with an extended family who looked after my welfare and assisted in my upbringing. Many single parents may not have these support systems.

The bottom line is this despite whatever animosity there may be between two parents of a child a way has to be found to co-parent(of course you cannot force the other parent who does not want to participate). At the end of the day a woman cannot teach a boy what it is to be a man (neither can a man teach a girl what it is to be a woman). A man's input is also important for his daughter as well as he 'supposed' to be the one from whom she will learn how a man is to treat her. Now even if father is not around ideally there could still be someone to step in and fill the role. Men you're role is IMPORTANT and should not be shirked and there are far reaching consequences to a father's absence. While the role of mother is a big and important one - so is the father's and this is an important consideration for anyone considering fatherhood or being stepfather to children. Many men have step up to the plate and respect is due. Discuss.

mjames napa, California USA

Sat Nov 21, 2009 7:30 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

In response to: Just this morning on the way to work , I was listenting to a radio talk show discussing single parenting and the importance of single parents having support systems. Out of the discussion came some information about the corelation between the amount of men in prison and the lack of having fathers or father figures in their lives. It would appear that the lack of male input makes a lot of kids(males especially) suceptible to outside negative influences. As a child I grew up with an extended family who looked after my welfare and assisted in my upbringing. Many single parents may not have these support systems.

The bottom line is this despite whatever animosity there may be between two parents of a child a way has to be found to co-parent(of course you cannot force the other parent who does not want to participate). At the end of the day a woman cannot teach a boy what it is to be a man (neither can a man teach a girl what it is to be a woman). A man's input is also important for his daughter as well as he 'supposed' to be the one from whom she will learn how a man is to treat her. Now even if father is not around ideally there could still be someone to step in and fill the role. Men you're role is IMPORTANT and should not be shirked and there are far reaching consequences to a father's absence. While the role of mother is a big and important one - so is the father's and this is an important consideration for anyone considering fatherhood or being stepfather to children. Many men have step up to the plate and respect is due. Discuss.

Thats why the millions of women having unprotected sex with irresponsible guys and having kids are so wrong.

They sleep and have children with men that are jokes of a role model, and then expect these guys to be upstanding citizens, fathers and role models and are shocked when it does not happen.

Women are half the problem. They need to stop having so much unprotected casual sex and stop having kids with such loser guys.

The choosing of the father of your kids is just as important.

Odysseus101 Roma, Lazio Italy

Sat Nov 21, 2009 7:32 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

I believe it's a cultural, educational thing...it's a facet of modern society.

mjames: Thats why the millions of women****choosing of the father of your kids is just as important.

911gypsy westbank, British Columbia Canada

Sat Nov 21, 2009 1:21 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

mjames: Thats why the millions of women having unprotected sex with irresponsible guys and having kids are so wrong.

They sleep and have children with men that are jokes of a role model, and then expect these guys to be upstanding citizens, fathers and role models and are shocked when it does not happen.

Women are half the problem. They need to stop having so much unprotected casual sex and stop having kids with such loser guys.

The choosing of the father of your kids is just as important.

Why would you say its all casual sex????

cgedvr fullerton, California USA

Sat Nov 21, 2009 2:04 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

tainogirl: Just this morning on the way to work , I was listenting to a radio talk show discussing single parenting and the importance of single parents having support systems. Out of the discussion came some information about the corelation between the amount of men in prison and the lack of having fathers or father figures in their lives. It would appear that the lack of male input makes a lot of kids(males especially) suceptible to outside negative influences. As a child I grew up with an extended family who looked after my welfare and assisted in my upbringing. Many single parents may not have these support systems.

The bottom line is this despite whatever animosity there may be between two parents of a child a way has to be found to co-parent(of course you cannot force the other parent who does not want to participate). At the end of the day a woman cannot teach a boy what it is to be a man (neither can a man teach a girl what it is to be a woman). A man's input is also important for his daughter as well as he 'supposed' to be the one from whom she will learn how a man is to treat her. Now even if father is not around ideally there could still be someone to step in and fill the role. Men you're role is IMPORTANT and should not be shirked and there are far reaching consequences to a father's absence. While the role of mother is a big and important one - so is the father's and this is an important consideration for anyone considering fatherhood or being stepfather to children. Many men have step up to the plate and respect is due. Discuss.

Yes yes TG and this is why the family is so important. Children need the influence of both parents. The destruction of the family unit is at the core of the WORLDS value system.

growlyone Appleton, Wisconsin USA

Sat Nov 21, 2009 6:00 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

Right now, the attitude in America has been one in that men are the least important aspect of culture. Your words would be laughed at by the great majority who think rearing a child involves the television, school, and juvenile hall. The real men, which get zero respect or attention, have and haven't had for a long time absolutely no plate to step up to. Who gets the most respect? Blood-sucking vampires...and I mean the fictional characters.

friends4now Melbourne, Florida USA

Sat Nov 21, 2009 6:13 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

yes men are important in the lives of children

the fact that I have many good men as a role model for my son is great-the fact that his father has never and will never be in his life is better

and I did not have unprotected sex-I used a condom and was on birth control for a year and a half accident 100% but the best accident I have ever had for sure

women DO make make choices with men they choose to have sex with but not all single mothers are a product of bad decision making?

Don't lump everyone into 1 catagory

happyskiff Mobile, Alabama USA

Sat Nov 21, 2009 9:01 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

I couldn't agree with you more that both Father and Mother are VERY important to the lives of thier children. Unfortunately, the human aspect between men and women sometimes plays a role called PARENTAL ALIENATION where by which one parent is more willing to harm the other parent than they are to benefit the child. Its Ironically a contrast where dads that have an open door, wont even cross the threshold. While men that have to battle for the simplest of time, will go to the ends of the earth just to watch a kids play from outside the building.
It is a tangled web.

gopi59 limassol, Limassol Cyprus

Sat Nov 21, 2009 10:31 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

mjames: Thats why the millions of women having unprotected sex with irresponsible guys and having kids are so wrong.

They sleep and have children with men that are jokes of a role model, and then expect these guys to be upstanding citizens, fathers and role models and are shocked when it does not happen.

Women are half the problem. They need to stop having so much unprotected casual sex and stop having kids with such loser guys.

The choosing of the father of your kids is just as important.

I dont believe that it is all unprotected sex.....that may be just a very small percentage.........the number of women being deserted by their long-term boyfriends/husbands is probably much higher...........

Women, or men, for that matter who decide to indulge in "casual" sex, should take precautions, and i tend to believe the vast majority do........

nicegal auckland, Auckland New Zealand

Sun Nov 22, 2009 1:00 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

friends4now: yes men are important in the lives of childrenthe fact that I have many good men as a role model for my son is great-the fact that his father has never and will never be in his life is betterand I did not have unprotected sex-I used a condom and was on birth control for a year and a half accident 100% but the best accident I have ever had for surewomen DO make make choices with men they choose to have sex with but not all single mothers are a product of bad decision making?

Don't lump everyone into 1 catagory

i soooooo agree with you...

ure so right there with what u said..i can agree to that..as im a single mom as well..my kids have awesome male role models in their lives from a very supportive family..and the fact that their so call FATHER isnt in their lives isnt a bother ...

no ones perfect and we all make the wrong choices but hey whats done is done ..i dont ever regret having my babies. my kids r my life and have brought so much joy,happiness and blessings what more cld i ask for...

but i agree that not all single mothers are a product of bad decision making...

hualapaiguy Kingman, Arizona USA

Sun Nov 22, 2009 1:08 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

tainogirl: Just this morning on the way to work , I was listenting to a radio talk show discussing single parenting and the importance of single parents having support systems. Out of the discussion came some information about the corelation between the amount of men in prison and the lack of having fathers or father figures in their lives. It would appear that the lack of male input makes a lot of kids(males especially) suceptible to outside negative influences. As a child I grew up with an extended family who looked after my welfare and assisted in my upbringing. Many single parents may not have these support systems.

The bottom line is this despite whatever animosity there may be between two parents of a child a way has to be found to co-parent(of course you cannot force the other parent who does not want to participate). At the end of the day a woman cannot teach a boy what it is to be a man (neither can a man teach a girl what it is to be a woman). A man's input is also important for his daughter as well as he 'supposed' to be the one from whom she will learn how a man is to treat her. Now even if father is not around ideally there could still be someone to step in and fill the role. Men you're role is IMPORTANT and should not be shirked and there are far reaching consequences to a father's absence. While the role of mother is a big and important one - so is the father's and this is an important consideration for anyone considering fatherhood or being stepfather to children. Many men have step up to the plate and respect is due. Discuss.

I realize that importance and passed it on to my sons as well. I volunteered to be a father and strove to be a Dad. Being successful at both, I shared the importance with my children so that they too would know the joy and satisfaction of being a Dad. I play with my kids daily although they're mostly grown as well as those who remain at home. Nothing compares!

Viewed Sydney, New South Wales Australia

Sun Nov 22, 2009 1:10 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

Just as many men left wih the kids,just as many woman who take off and dont give a rats arse

nicegal auckland, Auckland New Zealand

Sun Nov 22, 2009 2:55 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

Viewed: Just as many men left wih the kids,just as many woman who take off and dont give a rats arse

true i guess sometimes that its just not the males that piss off there are some females that do it too ...

hedistuff sand fork, West Virginia USA

Sun Nov 22, 2009 5:49 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

There is nothing to compare with parenting. There is no particular role nor input. Only love. I highly recommend it. It will make you very wise and very, very happy. But it's more than that. Life makes sense.

xpiratekingx liverpool, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:06 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

I am with my little girl every day as her mother and I live so close. She's only two and a half and I wouldn't trade her for the world. I love the quality time we spend together, both learning new things.

Inthewoods Colorado Springs, Colorado USA

Sun Nov 22, 2009 11:20 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

mjames: Thats why the millions of women having unprotected sex with irresponsible guys and having kids are so wrong.

They sleep and have children with men that are jokes of a role model, and then expect these guys to be upstanding citizens, fathers and role models and are shocked when it does not happen.

Women are half the problem. They need to stop having so much unprotected casual sex and stop having kids with such loser guys.

The choosing of the father of your kids is just as important.

Abram Goshen, Ohio USA

Sun Nov 22, 2009 11:29 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

You know, I've never had any children of my own, but have dated, lived with, and married single ladies with children. Kids with age ranges from less then 3, to grown and left the nest, and I've certainly been there for them a great deal more then their real father. It is only proper.

itsallme112 Surrey, British Columbia Canada

Sun Nov 22, 2009 11:39 PM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

I never had a male figure in my childhood. My sister and I was raised by a grandmother only. The first male role model I had was when I joined the military. Now I'm a professional with many accomplishments. It all depends on what morals you were taught as a child by the caregiver.

CjTenorSax Atwater, Ohio USA

Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:13 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

mjames: Thats why the millions of women having unprotected sex with irresponsible guys and having kids are so wrong.

They sleep and have children with men that are jokes of a role model, and then expect these guys to be upstanding citizens, fathers and role models and are shocked when it does not happen.

Women are half the problem. They need to stop having so much unprotected casual sex and stop having kids with such loser guys.

The choosing of the father of your kids is just as important.

Same for the guys.

911gypsy westbank, British Columbia Canada

Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:55 AM CST : Men you are important to the lives of your children!

yes men are very important.....to show our little boys how to pee behind trees.

Actually I taught my son that trick....oh and I also taught him how to play baseball and how to match clothes. He grew up knowing about eyebrow wax and the poo platter.

Try to top that MEN!!!

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