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Reading a book tonight where this subject has come up....

What would you do it the person (man or woman) you want and feel is "the one" for you...does not want you in return...

Would you give up?...Would you press on?

And please don't equate this with a "stalking" situation...i'm not referring to that type of thing...

You know sometimes what is best for you is right in front of you and for the taking...but something holds you back and you don't give that person a chance...so my question is what can you do if you feel you are the right person for someone...but they can't see it?

If they can't see it or they don't feel it, it isn't right and it's time to move on and let them go.

funny that you bring this up

i once thought i was the one for a guy and NO i wasnt all you can do is tell them how you feel you cant make them want you or take you all you can do is let them know that you are their if they want you and if they choose not to take you then move on sometimes you become best friends and sometimes its just ot hard to be aroundt that person





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Hey Susie...how are you doll?...

I understand that...but sometimes...its there..you know its there and you know they are feeling it too....but for whatever reason they are afraid of the "unknown"...so would you still say walk away...even if you in your heart feel there is where you belonged??

I agree...you can't make someone want you or love you!

They either see it for themselves or they don't! If they don't it's time to find someone who does think you're the right one for them and they for you!

I would move on.... Can't change another person and if it was really meant to be it will happen eventually.

Ladies...I am so tired of this game i can't begin to tell you...

I have heard (in the nicest way of course) that i am not for real..that i am just a player that if i really wanted someone i would be with someone now...that i give the appearance of being unattainable...and dozens of messages from men that say they "know they don't have a chance with me..."

I am so fed up of trying to accommodate them....of trying to make them see that i'm just like everyone else looking for the same things as everyone...Love and Life...

I just don't know what else to do...

cultivate the friendship ......... no push ............NO AGENDA










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HI wikked! all is fine here, I hope you are too.

Yeah, I would definitely let him know how I felt, but then I would have to step back. If I really cared for him, and he wanted to stay friends, and I pursued it, then it would make him uncomfortable.

If I stepped away and let them alone, maybe I could still be in his life as a friend. It would hurt hoping they would come around to seeing that how I felt was right for him too, but I wouldn't press it.

Why would they not have a chance with you?

That is if you were interested and ok with it?

You have been nothing but nice, a lady of grace and shown great kindness.

What would make them think this?

I try not to make it hard for anyone...I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me...but it is getting to be a burden when i keep putting my needs last in comparison to what will make them happy and comfortable...but it seems it has become a way of life for me now....because i'm always trying to show some man or the other that i only want as much as the next woman...nothing more...

Hi Ron...I have gotten the most awesome emails from some wonderful men...very decent very respectable...and all have given me "zero" chance from the starting gate....

They don't even give me a chance to say whether i would be interested or not...they TELL ME what i would feel about them...

I think i'm a good person...the ones off here that have met me..truly saw me as i am...day in day out...no words typed...no picture...just the real me...and still i can't get a foot in the doorway...

I don't know...should i stop looking after myself...should i gain weight...should i just lag about all day...i don't know what will please them...

You shouldn't have to put your needs last for anyone, except maybe your kids. Some of your wants could be further down the list, but your needs should not be last for some man. Especially not in the beginning.

I believe that I want less than the next woman, it comes from being alone and independent of being spoiled. Now I feel I may be ruined, the opposite of spoiled. Too bad for me.... But at least I know where I think I am at, tonight anyways. Maybe read what I say, but don't follow it, because I'm just taking it day by day, night by night. Alone ! ;)

NO don't gain weight and lag about all day ! NO you know that isn't an answer to anything! Well ok lag about all day, just don't gain a bunch of weight. You won't be glad about that.

SCREW THEM, just love and respect yourself and if you do, you'll become more desirable and even if you are alone, you'll look good, feel good about yourself.

Ok I feel like crap sometimes too, but I encourage you to keep yourself in priority status.

move on....simply...let feelings be known and see what happens and if thats nothing, or excuses or whatever...just move on...

and u know im speaking from personal experience...

Thanks Sus...I'm obviously very down tonight and feeling sorry for myself...glad to know there are friends on here looking out for me...

Hugs
Wikked

Girlfriend what are you doing up at this time of the night...Lurking????

upset...sad...lonely...


lots of reasons

I don't think that has anything to do with you. It has to do with them and how they feel about themselves. If their initial thought of you is, you don’t deserve them, they’re properly right. After all, at this point they know them self better that you do and they should think better of their self.

As far as happiness, nobody on this planet but myself can make me happy. It is a decision of self.

Should you let your self go? If that’s going to make you feel good about yourself, go for it but some how I doubt this.

Sounds like it’s a string of wrong guys and if you choose to give up then you will never find him and that would be a shame for you and him.