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Kentucky, it would be inappropriate of me to mention names here in public forum. Especially if I have not talked about it to her first.

I have more respect for her than that.

But thank you for your response. She knows who she is...

well whoever she is she needs wake up see whats in front her,and same goes for anyone out there,my sisters best friend in all the world was just killed in ripley west va it wasnt her x,but her boyfriends x who did it,the police had to break down the bathroom door to get in to her,so if u think you have all time in the world it is not yours to give,u give what you got,too much games going on,thats my point

dont take today for granted cause you may not see tomm.

you know its a scary thought this girl 39,and she had dealed with abusers all her life,finally she up and done something like i told her,she sued police dept for not protecting her and won 2.5 million,im going to say it to him and i think i did then thats it im gone,missed your chance for heaven

JOE,turn it on full blast im going to

back to you Wikked girl u are knocking yourself out,by the way what happened to c,bending over backwards to make them happy,u must do what makes you happy,that is all that matters when all is said and done,who you feel safe with,who you feel loved from,not what they want.BUT WHAT DO YOU WANT.

I have been in that situation before

Like they say. You can love someone but you can't make someone love you back. They have to love you willingly.

Eventualy I just decided to move on. I realized its not worth wasting my time when I can have someone who will really love me back someday.

Sometimes our own desire to be phyiscally connected and truly loved can obscure our sight, much like the rear-veiw mirror of automoblies, things are closer tham they appear... Which upon thinking, could be the "wantee"s problem as well, due to past or current environment, there vision is distorted too. Sometimes one knows before the other its real....sometimes.
I would not obsess over this, I'll live my life to the fullest, I would do as has already been suggested, become freinds and maintain that relationship to your best abilities.
though personally, if the "want" was too strong for her, I would have to excuse myself from her presence just for my own state of mind
Want/lust/obsession... theres only a fine line that separate those words and meanings and if I concentrated to much attention to this "want" I sure ain't paying attention to any lines (thin or otherwise). I guess thats why I find it hard to comprehend something between two people being real if one does not acknowledge the same feelings...afterall a one sided attraction only makes someone a spectator. and spectators are not allowed or encouraged to particapate in the show.

just my opinion

No it's not crazy. Will you stay remaining friends though if it never happens how you want it to?

I've been friends with someone since 1975, I knew then that he wanted me and even though it probably really hurt him, we never got together that way. We still talk at least twice a month on the phone, since I moved across country.

But we are still friends and I treasure that so much and nothing will ever change that.

wow where did that come from???

Since you bring that up,

Also they might not see tomorrow.

its the thing unrequited love make the best songs,isnt that funny listening to them can break your heart all over again

Yes Kathy you are right about the songs. If a relationship hasn't begun and you know he or she isn't interested then move on...Only adolescents go through the angst of loving someone from afar don't they?

I think it o.k if someone don't want to go out with you,and you have a crush on them,to keep trying,but in a respected way,you never know,but by the time he may like you,you may have someone new and no longer want him......you never know.

but you know what Jan just lately i started open my heart to care again ,and i think i picked him cause he is far away and i be safe,you feel me

that's what friends are for to bring things like to your attention so you don't get hut.

hmmm I think I understand Kathy, the distance makes it safer and less real but it won't prevent a broken heart if things don't work out.

RON,you know my thoughts on the subject

exactly you can put yourself there and there not that much possibility of ending up with a broken heart,safe

bridges you cross before you come to them,are over rivers that are not there

Hmmm... tough one. I was in that situation this spring and hung in as a friend, supporting him to get clarity on the relationship he was committed to, and loving him enough to do that, even if it meant we wouldn't end up together.

They ended up breaking up, and now we are together, and it's the most amazing relationship either of us has ever been in. We're so compatible, and feel so completely at home and comfortable with each other it was almost scary at first, but we're both the happiest we've ever been with anyone, and we're getting married next summer.

If things hadn't turned out that way... I guess I'd just do my best to figure that things weren't meant to be in that way, and I'd try to find some way to just be friends, if I could and he were willing.