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I am posting this on the American Site, I wonder do Relationships work out the second time around,
I mean after the first one breaks down and couples part and if you are lucky enough to meet someone new, what really stops the comparison of the previous relationship coming into the new one.

Surly Lessons were learnt from the first so the second should really be an eye opening experience.........Interested in getting the views and it may also help quite a lot of people starting afresh.

Speak your Truth and Shame the

Best wishes to all............

Of course they work...Each new relationship is a learning experience or at least it should be!!!!!!

It can only work though in my opnion if you have dealt with the heartache and reasons for the break-down of the previous relationship!!!!

I think each relationship we have moves us closer to the one we are meant to be with...If not for learning from other relationships we may not be ready to recognize, love and accept the person that is meant for us!!!!!!!!

mmm.....In my own personal experiences....second or third times around don't work....I've tried it...so-as far as I am concerned--If it does'nt work the first time around...it is time for me to move on.........

Just my opinion only......

Live and Learn...

And keep trying!!!

jack all i can say is use what was positive for you in the first relationship to your advantage in the second time round 1.
Forget the negatives, learn your lesson from the negatives you had and then put the negs to bed and hold onto the positives!!

"what really stops the comparison of the previous relationship coming into the new one."

Nothing stops it but the knowledge that the other one didn't work should be enough to open yourself to a whole new experience with more information...What's that Dr. Phil says...and how's that workin for ya? Burying yourself in the past will do just that...bury you. Nobody said it would be easy. Ultimately you have to descide. Will you take the risk once again or stay in the comfort of your single life. Ah hell , I'm not the one to be speaking to this...single life is looking better to me all the time...

Ahhhh Trish, You can't disown me yet, Ha ha we haven't even gone out on a first date,

Joanie, What flight did you arrive in on, were you on the same plane as Me, I didn't see you sweetheart,

Ahhh...Jack....I would never disown you......

Would hope not Trish, what would I do with all these flowers,

I WAS THE 1 DOING THE FLYING BABES

Now you have found the song that describes you Joanie, " ON THE WINGS OF LOVE " lol

Think Cheyni might like that one, By the way did you tell all these ladies here about your night out, You never know they could get together and partake of some good Irish Hospitality,

Sweetie...you can walk another pair of shoes off if you want to ...or you can send them....you know I like them

Packing a bag as we speak Trish, is there a spare room?????? lol

Just have to run down and buy some new shoes and I'll be dancing a Jig all the way over to ye,

jack are you trying to open a can of worms ur hoarding??
and no im not going to hyJACK your thread by doing that.

Me???? Open a can of Worms Joanie, No sweetheart just thinking about hands across the water, You never know hun, They just might like to come over and have some fun IRISH Style,

I sure do!!!! Dance on this way.....

Depends on the people. Everyone has baggage and many people do NOT learn from the first relationship's mistakes, or we think we do, but some things are so deep-seated that we really haven't, then when we get into the next relationship we wonder why the other person eventually starts acting like our first spouse.

I think that old cliche of "no matter where you go, there YOU are" is absolutely true. My recent ex has now had three failed marriages, and even though he's gotten better in each one, he still made many of the same mistakes in each one, and while he was in the marriages blamed a lot of the problems on his spouses rather than looking at himself.

I did the same thing, with two marriages behind me now.

I am engaged to a totally different kind of man than my first two husbands; where they were controlling and aggressive, he is calm and loving, and totally emotionally responsible. Yes issues have come up between us because they always will, but the difference here is *how we handle them together and individually*. If we can 1) each take responsibility for our own feelings, and 2) speak about them in a responsible, effective way, then we can actually HEAL these issues and *they go away!*

Most people don't know we're responsible for our own feelings, look at our expressions like "you made me mad", "you drive me crazy", "if she would just treat me better I wouldn't get so angry", etc.

Other people are just doing what they're doing, and it's all up to us how we respond, we can either respond with love or with anger and hurt, it's UP TO US, and it depends on how much we've healed our past hurts.

Most people just go through relationships beating each other up with their unresolved issues, the whole time thinking it's about the other person, they're doing it to us, when it isn't and they're not.

If you ARE the right partner and you HAVE the right partner, then anything is possible together.

William and I have finally gotten it right.

Well my bags are packed, I'm ready to go, Standin here by the door, can't wait to see your smile..........

So Kiss me an...............................

You never know your luck, kissin a Leprechaun Trish, lol

perfect for her jack,,,, beats bed of roses by,,who was it joan? aerosmith....lol.......