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Depends on the people. Everyone has baggage and many people do NOT learn from the first relationship's mistakes, or we think we do, but some things are so deep-seated that we really haven't, then when we get into the next relationship we wonder why the other person eventually starts acting like our first spouse.

I think that old cliche of "no matter where you go, there YOU are" is absolutely true. My recent ex has now had three failed marriages, and even though he's gotten better in each one, he still made many of the same mistakes in each one, and while he was in the marriages blamed a lot of the problems on his spouses rather than looking at himself.

I did the same thing, with two marriages behind me now.

I am engaged to a totally different kind of man than my first two husbands; where they were controlling and aggressive, he is calm and loving, and totally emotionally responsible. Yes issues have come up between us because they always will, but the difference here is *how we handle them together and individually*. If we can 1) each take responsibility for our own feelings, and 2) speak about them in a responsible, effective way, then we can actually HEAL these issues and *they go away!*

Most people don't know we're responsible for our own feelings, look at our expressions like "you made me mad", "you drive me crazy", "if she would just treat me better I wouldn't get so angry", etc.

Other people are just doing what they're doing, and it's all up to us how we respond, we can either respond with love or with anger and hurt, it's UP TO US, and it depends on how much we've healed our past hurts.

Most people just go through relationships beating each other up with their unresolved issues, the whole time thinking it's about the other person, they're doing it to us, when it isn't and they're not.

If you ARE the right partner and you HAVE the right partner, then anything is possible together.

William and I have finally gotten it right.

Well my bags are packed, I'm ready to go, Standin here by the door, can't wait to see your smile..........

So Kiss me an...............................

You never know your luck, kissin a Leprechaun Trish, lol

perfect for her jack,,,, beats bed of roses by,,who was it joan? aerosmith....lol.......

I need all the luck I can get....so.....

You are such a mess Jack.....but a very good one!

Me Trish Mess???? never about LOVE lol Did you sing along with the song I bet you did,

Me???? Open a can of Worms Joanie, No sweetheart just thinking about hands across the water, You never know hun, They just might like to come over and have some fun IRISH Style,

I truly think you need to take from a past relationship, what you have learned and hopefully avoid mistakes from the previous. Each relationship is unique in itself, and if you are spending your time with comparisons, you really can't see the trees for the forest. I know comparisons happen...but you have to be most focused on the now, not the past. Afterall, you wouldn't want anyone comparing you to someone else because you are your own person. But yes, I believe a second relationship can work...and by the way, there are some who have been involved in more than 2, that shoud'nt be an instant red flag either...don't judge anyone until you have walked in their shoes.

Steve

Thank you....you always make me smile....

Smiling is good for the Heart and soul Trish, and a smile a day is much better than an apple a day, and a song and a smile Well......

So did you sing along trish you never said, I'm sure you did as I can hear that song in my head and it's a woman with a lovely smile singing it, lol

Sorry...I did'nt ...I dont know the song....tell me the words....and I will try.....

You are such a sweetie!

Think it was a John Denver song, Kiss me and smile for me, tell me that you'll wait for me, Hold me like youv'e never done before,

Ahh now I have it, How appropriate is that Trish, Leaving on a Jet Plane,.....................

perfect for her jack,,,, beats bed of roses by,,who was it joan? aerosmith....lol.......

Sorry...I did'nt ...I dont know the song....tell me the words....and I will try.....

You are such a sweetie!

P.S. trish you'll have to stop hugging me I'm getting all excited here, lol

Sorry......

Trish me darlin, never be sorry for sharing the hugs, I treasure everyone of them, I wish they were real,