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I love being my age Rich...and i wanted my love to enjoy being his..but all the love in the world could not change the fact that our two ages were different...and a difference that would eventually make itself known...

I know someone now that i care for a lot...but he will not even give me a chance because he feels he is far to old for me...so its not like it doesn't work both ways too...He is being realistic...and i'm just being...well...a woman!!

So i have been on both sides of this particular fence...

Good point Belushi. Nice hearing from you from London.

When I said "more experience", I think what they meant was the fact that older women that have been sexually active and more experimental. Not necessarily meaning that they have had more partners.

the oldest i would go is 40 year old woman. not just for a fling. if i click with somone ill give it a shot. plus my moms only 43 so i cant date any one over 40.

Hell!! Why not? That would only be a 13 year difference!

I dated a girl who was 17 years younger than me.

Her Grandfather and my Father were only 3 years apart, and I was 10 years older than her sister, and 10 years younger than her mother!!

Your mother has nothing to do with it!!! If you bring her into it, then you could be in deep trouble!!!

I see no problem with it. If the two have been together, take
each other unconditionally, never go into the relationship
thinking in time they can change that person.If it is an
honest relationship built on that honesty, trust and love
then age should never be an issue.

good points, and I agree wholeheartedly.

Not easy to do in practice though!

where's the puppies

I'd say "Go for it, Sister!" The younger man has mucho (macho?) stamina, zeal and enthusiasm to learn the ropes from an experienced older lover and, personally, I am grateful that I had a best friend when I was 18 and she was 35 and we are still great friends to this day 30+ years later!

I have pretty much only dated younger men...........Not for any reason other than i found them more attractive so far but I am not opposed to dating anyone the same age or older if they were right for me

No, I would not say that. I'd say that, for the most part, the women are not serious about the men, that THEY are just in it for a brief interlude. Generally speaking, a young man 20 years my junior really has nothing that interests me, nothing to offer me, other than great sex (and that's not a given, either, just based on his age alone).

I think it's different when you actually grow with the person. At least it is for me. Even with my cousins, who are now as old as I am, I can still see them as they were when they were younger.

I think the same would be true of a partner. If she was pretty to me when I first met her I would retain that image in my mind and I could still see that youth in her as she aged. My mind would become her fountain of youth.

However, if I met a woman that I already viewed as being "old", then my mind has nothing to revert back to. That's the only image I have to work with.

In fact, I have actually met older people who have shown me pictures of themselves when they were younger and after viewing those pictures I could then look at them and see the younger person behind the wrinkles.

Perhaps it's just me and the way my mind works. I have one hell of an imagination, I only need a seed and my imagination can take care of the rest. Having said that though, if I'm going to start up a brand new relationship I may as well work with a live seed.

When I was in my 20's I think I could have easily hooked up with a 40 year old woman with the full intent of having a permanent relationship with her. I have no clue how it might have worked out in the long term. That would put her at almost 80 today whilst I'm a young-looking 57. I suppose it all depends on how youthful she would appear at that age.

I have an aunt who is 79 and she could easily pass for 50. On the other hand, my mother easily looked 80 when she was 80. My mother died at 90 and if I told you at that time that she was 109 you would not have questioned it at all. So different people age differently. You can't really go by the numbers.

no one has mentioned children. as was said earlier the parties would be at different stages of life. a friend of mine in his late 20s was dating a woman in her early 40s. he told me she had to accept that he wanted kids. when i was 40, the last thing i wanted to happen was another child coming along. of course not all men want children & many 30 year old men would've already started a family. it would mean talking, just like you'd have to do in any relationship.

Five to ten years? That's what you consider a "younger man?" Who's she SUPPOSED to date, men only her own age or older?

I am currently having this delimma myself. I am 42 but i "feel about 35. (i am no judge by looking at myself what people would guess my age at) But everyone says i should be looking for people from 40-50, but i open my options from 35-47 because that age range "feels" right to me. Maybe I am really afraid of turning the big 50 myself, and in my OWN mind for MYSELF that will feel old, so mentally i don't want to even look at guys at 50 for potential dates.

I know...i'm bad aren't I?

I thought i did the right thing, I spent the last 18 years focusing on raising a daughter on my own, instead of on myself, and now I am thrown back into the adult dating world at 42, but "feel" younger...maybe because i missed out dating during my 30's???

I just know this sucks sometimes, and it seems, as i have been on the other sites, that i am quite the "catch" for the 50-60 year old set. It makes me sad. Makes me feel my dating years must be over

Please...NO offense to the older guys here....NONE whatsoever, maybe you can shed insight...but you can't ignore that eventually, as it's been said, the age difference is going to show, even if it's ME that is younger and the guy is older...

Please tell me someone else has felt this confusion?


J

I've always dated men younger (except when I was very young). And the reason being is because, for the most part, younger men pursue me a WHOLE lot more than older men. And, also because I'm a lot more attracted to younger men--their looks, their personalities, their bodies.

I would probably date as young as 35 (have, in fact) but that's a bit too young for my taste. I just haven't found very many man men over 50 I've been attracted to, is all. I make no apologies for that. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone you're simply not attracted to.

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