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When we really look at love! what does it mean to you? on a dating service does anyone stop to consider, each other's feelings. Look we all need to realize that we all are just human beings . Age is a number and looks aren't everything . yes they do help but what are we really searching for. I for one am looking for that true Love. not a fairytell, But a Goodman doesn't matter if he's a little to thick or he may have a wart on his chin.What are we really looking for? how about friendship or maybe companionship, why do we all ways look for the beauty queen or the hunk?
why not see people for who they are, I was a beauty queen when I was young. am still am pretty. But you know I want something more . How about you all?

I hope this helps people to really look at yourselfs. we aren't on here to just be an object, but for the true meaning of life . which is friendship and companionship. So please consider each others feelings maybe one might be a little to thick but they need love also or maybe one has a wart on their nose, Gosh look at the person not the body. So stop looking for the beauty quuens and the hunks and you might fine the Handsome prince or the princess.

Damn darlin..I am thinking I WANT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!smile have a nice day gorgeous!!

This topic has been beaten to death in the forums. I think we all agree to look deeper into a person to find their true beauty. Let's move on.

Maybe this will give the newbies a chance to express what they're looking for...if you wanna know more on this topic for those who have been here a while, read the same labeled topic on the succeeding pages.

I have to agree with Rob, but go further. Amy, back off.
Give lilncute and her topic a chance. I don't recall
this exact question being discussed. We have beaten
around the bush, sure, but not hit it straight on. It
is a fair question. I am not sure the author of it knows
the answer, though. It's not just something beyond
what is skin deep. We all know about surface attraction.
We all know there is something deeper. But don't assume
that is love. I think the best of that is love, but not
all of it.

dpw

what is true love,well i dont think words exist to explain something as beautiful as that.It is something i feel most will never know on our world because for a person to know true love they must open them selves up and due to the fact everybody is full of fear or putting conditions on true love it wont happen.He or she might hurt me or what if they are drunks and theey cheat or have lots of money or has to have brown hair os cant be large or has to be a doctor.with all this nonsense in the way true love will never be found.Fear,paranoia and conditions.This cannot be.You must go with the flow and open yourself to the possabilities without a thought

I agree with Will where he says true love is something
most of us will never know, but for different reasons.
I think we could know it, if we met the right person,
and I think any one of a dozen or more people would do,
any of the dozen on-in-a-million singles in our age
groups, but the odds of hooking up and meeting are not
good, even with services like Connecting Singles. I hope
we can improve the odds by talking it over, using multiple
services, waiting patiently, doing whatever it takes,
but I think we are talking about meeting a very small
number to truly compatible people, with dating services
that are still pretty primitive.

See how different Will and I are? He is very spiritual.
I am a pragmatist.

dpw

well doug,we are as different as blades of grass,no 2 alike and it is those differences that help define what each one of will become.These differences are form a balence because if we were all the same there would be nothing to balence each of us out.The male and the female would not need each other.we are all part of a very diverse universe.

Can't be all that different, 'cause I agree completely
with what you just said!

dpw

to true my freind.

True love to me is an intellectual , spiritual, emotional connection that sets your sites on one person with no regrets or empty feelings in your life.
I feel that when you are truely in Love , physical appearance means nothing. The true connection trancends the physical and that person is the sexiest , strongest ,most beautyfull , intellegent person on the planet in your eyes.
True love is something that is speacial and fullfilling long after the hormones and the lust has faded away.

Here are some excerpts from a web page I found:

How can I find true love?

This is a difficult question, especially when the potential to be hurt in a relationship is so prevalent. Begin by asking yourself if there could be a chance you are hiding from love because of past hurts or disappointments. It's also a good idea to list your expectations of those you love. Many times what we want from others is not mutually beneficial. We look to people, "Mr. or Miss Right," to meet all our needs. Only Jesus can do this.
The pattern Christ set for us is our best example. He loved in a way that is hard for us to understand. He did not require more from people than they were capable of giving. He taught love by example as well as by His words. He separated the person from his sin. He hates sin but loves the sinner.
The apostle Paul tells us that love is patient and kind. It does not envy, is not boastful, prideful, rude, self-seeking, or easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs; it does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. Most of all love, God's love, will never fail you. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
Past hurt can discolor your view of love. While seeking to protect yourself from hurt is a normal response, it is not the solution to the problem we face when we avoid loving others.
"When we hide, a part of our character is pushed away from relationship into a spiritual darkness called isolation. The isolation of some part of our soul from love will always produce a problem. This makes sense, because whatever is isolated from nourishment remains broken and undeveloped. In the physical world, we call this malnutrition. Spiritual and emotional malnutrition are just as destructive."

Some people love too freely and, as a result, face hurt often from lack of discernment. Whether it is a friendship or a potential marriage relationship, take time to know the person. - especially circumstances involving others.
As someone's potential friend you have a responsibility to want what is best for the person. Selfish desires can block true love and keep you from experiencing true happiness. Therefore, be willing to let go of any relationship that is not right.
Once you learn this, true love finds a place in your heart.

when she is beautiful even when she looks her worst.
when the smell of her skin sends chills down your spine.
when the she looks at you and you feel like the king of the world.
when you would crawl naked through a desert of broken glass just to see her face one more time.
when thinking of not spending eternity with her for 1 second brings tears to your eyes. ehhhhhhh thats enough of that

the way she looks sorry

What are you sorry for?
That for a very brief moment you had a serious thought?
LOL

yes I was but a tear came to my eye so I gave up

What is Love?

“ Five feet of heaven and a pony tail. The cutest pony tail that sways with a wiggle when she walks.”

Ok. You know where my socialization process started.

I believe that Love is a learned phenomenon.

Each of us lives Love in our limited fashion. We do not seem to relate the resultant confusion and loneliness to our lack of knowledge about Love.

Most of us continue to behave as though Love is not learned but lies dormant in each being and simply awaits some mystical age of awareness to emerge in full bloom. Many wait for this age forever.

If you wanted to become an auto mechanic, you would study diligently about automobiles.

If you wanted to become a gourmet cook you would study the art of cooking and perhaps attend a cooking class.

Yet, it never seems as obvious to us that if we want to live in Love, we must spend at least as much time as the mechanic or the cook in studying Love. No mechanic or cook would ever believe that by “willing” the knowledge in the field, they’d ever become experts in it.

There are those who will dismiss Love as a naïve and romantic construct of our culture.
Others will wax poetic and say “Love is all,” “Love is the birdcall and the glint in a lover’s eye on a warm summer night.”
Some will be dogmatic and say that “God is Love.”
And some according to their own unique experience , will say that “Love is a strong, emotional attachment to another…” etc.

You may find that some people have never thought of questioning Love, much less defining it, and object, violently even, to the suggestion that they think about it. To them Love is not to be pondered, it is simply to be experienced.

I believe it is true, to some degree, that all of these statements are correct, but to assume that any one is best or all there is to Love, is rather too simplistic.

Leo Buscaglia (my favorite author on the subject of Love) asks us to consider the following premises:

“One cannot give what one does not possess.
To give Love you must possess Love.”

“One cannot teach what one does not understand.
To teach Love you must comprehend Love.”

“One cannot know what one does not study.
To study Love you must live in Love.”

“One cannot appreciate what one does not recognize.
To recognize Love you must be receptive to Love.”

“One cannot have doubt about that which one wishes to trust.
To trust Love you must be convinced of Love.”

“One cannot admit what one does not yield to.
To yield to Love you must be vulnerable to Love.”

“One cannot live what one does not dedicate oneself to.
To dedicate yourself to Love you must be forever growing in Love.”

What is Love?

Love is an energy extension of Beauty. It is an almost automatic emotional (emotions are powerful energy transmitters) response to things that we perceive as beautiful.

Truly, each of us has our own ideas about what is beautiful, yet the characteristics we ascribe to them are very similar.

It doesn’t really matter about specific characteristics, what does matter is that we focus on those characteristics to the extent that we begin to feel that euphoric attraction to the object of our attention.

We began to feel Love for that beautiful rock, or tree, or animal or person. Expanding on this feeling (and getting very vulnerable here) we begin to give and receive Love Energy through our focus. We connect in a way that is almost orgasmic.

A connection of the Spirit and through this connection a conduit opens to the Universal Source. “Whenever two or more of you are gathered in my name, there will I be also.” (Sorry, I like to be legitimized! )

We give Love with no thought of receiving even as we realize that others may still be learning and that this, too, is wonderful.
We focus on their Beauty and awaken them to their own self worth even if they move away from us.

This is Love.

one way true True love is measure is in time.like the amount free time a person is willing to give you or share with you.
True love is honest, it’s respectful, and it loves in all and places all before self. It places it’s promises and it’s vows made to someone above all else, and before and above all others.
my oponion
Big Daddywood

Fly like a butterfly sting like a bee...Ali says it best....You go into love all fluttery and beautiful and then you realize that a relationship takes hard work...but when you really love someone you let the bad stuff slide...not at your expense though...it is a balancing act that takes maturity to pull through...love like you've never been hurt...stay strong and true to yourself and you will be able to make it...