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I am asking this question. My brother gave up the career he loved the most for his wife. She has now divorced him because she didn't want to be married. He is now back to doing what he loves, but he will have to take a required course because of the lapse in time. I know there must be others that have done this.

Another question if you found someone to be with could you give up your career?

career...probably not...a job...probably yes.

I feel bad that your brother had to go through this, but I am glad he went back to what he loves.

I'm not sure if I would give it up. I'm too old to want to settle for less than I want. If the conditions were right...possibly. I guess it would have to be on an individual basis, and what you can live with afterwards if things go bad.

Nope, and don't have to. I can take mine with me wherever I go.

When someone gives up or even worse someone takes something away that you love, it’s like there is this ever lurking evil monster that exist and never goes away.

Why can’t people support each other, help each other and encourage one another to be want they want to be. As long as it is moral and just, WTF does it matter. It’s as if some people don’t want to see the one they love to be happy.

I gave up what I wanted to do and did the corporate thing for the money, the security and hated every minute of it. 10 hours a day in the office’ playing the game and then when we divorced she tells me that I worked too many hours and was away too much. She never had to work and in the end I was the bad one? WTF

Today I do what I want and I love what I do

I quit school(college) and moved to his home town...Now I'm stuck in this dang town!!!

Another question if you found someone to be with could you give up your career?


I am highly skilled in my profession so therfore I would only relocate my place of employment.

The answer is YES I WOULD !!

Same thing happen to me only reverse roles. I made a lot of money running a company and he wanted me to stay home. I walked away. We moved to a small town away from my family for his new job that did not pay very well. He did not want me to work from that time on...when I finally went back our marriage fell apart. I did not see the control issues because I was "in love" and he was getting his way. Don't change who you are for anyone. If you can get a better job that is different, but don't leave the first one without replacing it with the better one. You may not get divorced, but what if something happens to them and you are stuck somewhere...

Yes.....I did.......but will --never-- do it again.

After our kids are grown and in college lets you and I run off to the tropics. Just an idea

Screw the career,she wanted me to get fixed and I did than she left.

now that was plain awful!

I am SO there

It is so funny that you said "screw" the career...

I already have a resort in the Bahamas who wants to hire me. So off we go

WooooooHooooooooo! My ship has come in and with a captain on board

Your brother is not alone . There are other factors in a married life which require a change in direction . I am referring to children . It would not be right to spill it out all here . Not a big deal . Women experience it all the time . If any of the guys here is facing this then speak to single mums that you know . They are the best source for advice .

well i wouldnt give up my carreer she would half to take it along with me....

this is one of the most important reasons for my being single.......


the control issues , and dominance with money/power....every week i get someone that says to me ..".don't you think you should be doing consultancy or the administrative aspect?"


it makes my blood boil...........this is what i do it is how i have survived it is my breath and every cell is wired to do this work...



.why would anyone that loved you, or said they did....want to take away the very thing that kepps you thriving??????????