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No, but people should be honest with theirself. Why is it every time this comes up people feel the need to slide a "soley" or an "only" in there.
Think of any good looking male celebrity you know, say Tom Cruise. If you had a homely girlfriend that was actually trying to get a date with him would you say, "why not you've got a great personality; he would be luck to have you" or would you say "listen girlfriend, you need to come to your senses"?
Chances are it would be the latter. Why?
The reason why, is because looks, money and social status are a factor in the real world. The same is true with everyday people albeit on a less radical scale.
The funny thing is, this is a thread about why men lie, here I am telling the truth and people would rather hear the lie. And lie to theirself I might add.
Bottom line, you have no business going after Donny Osmond when you don't look anything like Marrie. What's so complicated?
Tom Cruise has a big nose and a misplaced median line of his central incisors.
Donny Osmond and Marie both have huge horse teeth.
I've had my share of men who were gorgeous! (They were to me anyway...and to most people who saw them.)
I've also had boyfriends who weren't so good-looking. And some who even bordered on "homely."
I dated a man for three years who bore a striking resemblance to Danny Bonnaduce. I loved him very much. He was not good looking by nearly anyone's standards. But he was good to me (well, for a while...he was into partying too much, which really screwed things up).
We went through a lot together and I stood by him when he buried his only child, his son, after he died from brain injuries sustained in a car wreck.
Bo is still my friend to this day.
You don't love someone based on what they look like and, if YOU do, I feel sorry for you.
By the way, just an fyi..."theirself" is not a word.