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Have you noticed a lot of good people leaving this site, because they are just tired of the crap? A good friend of mine called this morning and said that she deleted her account last night, because if she stayed on this site much longer she would be too discouraged to even want to bother with the "dating world".
In the past few weeks, at least 4 others I know of have done the same, for basically the same reasons. (luckily, we got each other's direct emails and phone numbers before they ran screaming from here LOL)
Do you find a lot of what you read here in the forums discouraging, depressing, and disgusting? Does it make you wonder if there are any decent people left, or if you will ever find anyone REAL to have a REAL relationship with?

Personally I don't take the forum to seriously, if I did I probably would not sleep at night. I am also one who will state my opinion when I think it's needed..I really don't understand people's need to run from here and quit, by doing so you let the undeairables win the site.

People have personal reasons to leave, but their really is no reason for bashing the site, when in fact there are many decent , respectable people here.

We do have the endless days of vulgar threads,, but one does not have to enter them, and can always take a break from CS or, post an intelligent thread yourself.

As to meeting a "REAL' person, yes it is possible, many have found love, and stay together, others find love, and for personal reasons, will not go through with the relationship.

But that does not mean, that they were not real, or decent.

Personally I met a wonderful gentleman, it was wonderful, but there was one cultural difference we could not agree on, I would never put him down, for he real, and decent.

By the way, anyone that would let CS affect there outside dating world, must take a look at themselves, not blame a virtual site.


Very blunt today....Angel

First off, bluntness is good. Better than a pack of pretty little lies any day.
But, I don't think the problem was that she took the forums seriously, far from it. More like she was disgusted by a lot of the attitudes etc that people displayed. Said she didn't want this place to turn her sour to the whole concept of dating, which it was.
As far as those real people that are supposed to be in here, where/how do you find them? Seem to be very few and far between.
And as far as blaming the site itself, no, just a computer website like any other. Was just a comment regarding a lot of the people on the site.

Yeah there is a lot of attitude around here sometimes, no doubt about that. And I do think there are a lot of people who don't know what the hell they want, and this site is no exception to say the least. People can be pretty nasty hiding behind a keyboard. I guess the bottom line is people come and go, just like anywhere else..

The "Real" People....?

Try bypassing the vulgar , indecent thread, and take a look at the intelligent, threads where "real" educated people come together and brainstorm.

Notice how they express themselves, it can't get any more real than that.


End of comments.....

Cyber world isn't much different then walking down the street.
Say for instance, your lady friend is walking down an unknown road. She enters where there are many people rushing by her, none of them paying any mind to her, then all of a sudden she comes across a construction site, men yelling and making crude gesters to her. But not one block later, she comes across this beauitful home, gardens everywhere, birds and butterflies. The smell tickles her nose as she pauses to take it all in.

Now scroll your threads with this in mind, lol, not a whole lot of difference is there. The choice is hers or mine to choose where I want to stop and smell the roses....JMO.

BTW, where we choose to stop and smell the roses, is usally where you will find the good people. Truthful and honest, because they are laying it all out there for us to see/read.

I agree.....I cant see this site discouraging someone...its just like real life...only typing instead of talking...99% of the rude and disgusting things on here, people would not say face to face...(well, except for Mach, and a few others) but its all in fun. If this site discourages her from dating...then maybe she is to fragile for the real world? JMHO....but maybe she just needs a break from reality too!

umm It sucks that people are going but I think alot of the guys and girls here are good peeps. Yea sometimes you get crap just move the mouse click and away you go. We know who the bad seeds are here well it didn't take me long to see them.Good luck hope you stay

When someone has a narrow field of view it becomes hard to relate in a wide field environment.

This could cause a person to get discoraged because it is very difficult to find someone with their own tastes and views on life.

before anyone gets all about this... I do not mean this in any disparaging way. In some ways I have a narrow field of view. I have beliefs that I hold as my truths and on these forums I have seen others with beliefs that completely clash with mine. I have been learning to accept that they are differnet while still holding to mine.

AB

texasterror,

I'm sorry to hear this problem still remains....we risk our
feeling and thought when we post here..unfortunately people hear
are cruel with their comments sometimes...

I lost friends here also..good friends...This site can work if
people want it too..But too often..the worse comes out...be it
difference of an opion or jealous of one getting attention...Then
they are some that just set back and wait for the right person
to attack...

Im new on the forums, I laugh and learn from some, but sometimes I have to say that some people here is rude or they try to make you feel bad

I just give my points of view, I consider myself a good and decent person and dont care too much about people that is frustrated and ignorant, or they want to be the center of attention.

And that doesnt change the way I am or what Im looking for. I know good people here too, and thats the reason Im in this site.

Many different personalities in the forums...
Tis life, no one is the same. Different
attitudes, different looks, different opinions
and views. If takin too seriously it can be
upsetting. But IMO no different than living in
the real world. Sometimes we need to have broad
shoulders and the ability to let things go...

I dont think I'll find real love here cause I cant find it anywere, but I like the forums and I play alot and hope they didnt leave because of things I said.

Very nice

Thanks, enjoyed your post as well...

Beautifully said Claypot. Some times you can learn more from things you dislike than from things you do.

texasterror wrote:
"Do you find a lot of what you read here in the forums discouraging, depressing, and disgusting?"

Not at all. Like other's have already mentioned. Just skip over the idiots.

texasterror wrote:
"Does it make you wonder if there are any decent people left, or if you will ever find anyone REAL to have a REAL relationship with?"

No. Unfortunately, though for women the negative illusion is often overpowering. The bulk of idiots that hit on them are just that - idiots. So what they see is that the bulk of 'males' hitting on them are idiots. So they conclude that the bulk of males are idiots.

That is so incorrect!

The bulk of males are NOT hitting on them. Only the bulk of IDIOTS are hitting on them.

There's a huge difference!

The people are real, the names have been changed to protect the guilty.