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Well damn amighty ...aint we picky and stuff???

thats what I'm talking about everyone has basic idea what they want. And then when the opportunity presents itself become too critical perhaps... I mean does anyone here think that perfection exists in any one individual??

Nope, but my ex husband did.

No perfection does is not possible. I think there are things I could live with. BUT I do have a few things I will never accept in a partner again. Some of them are things people might not understand I am to old for the games and the BS. I want someone who repects me and treats me as I would treat them.
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i believe if its right there should be nothing thats unbearable when its right you click in every way

Uhhhhhhhh

How about dealing with a woman that is still not divorced after 10 years of seperation?

Fire...

We are all NOT getting any younger. WHY should any of us have to settle for less than what we want, or what we deserve in life?

I don't care what anyone looks like, but a personality goes a long way with me. I settled for almost 15 years, for the sake of my kids, and I've been alone now long enough to know that I'd rather be alone and lonely, than to BE WITH SOMEONE and STILL be lonely.

If the guy doesn't have a good personality, (and at least a little bit of wittiness), and enough smarts to hold a conversation, be compassionate, and be passionate, he just as well keep on truckin'.
I refuse to argue or fight with my mate, because life is to short for that crap. Maybe thats why I'm alone, I'm asking for to much, but I'm holding my ground.


Rose.

as much as everyone enjoys a smooth road ahead, I feel thats a impractical thing to hold out for when regarding relationships. To this day a freind of mine married 20 years still gets in bouts of NO talking at all with his "bettr half" all beause when he wants to go hunting and weekend fishing trip or to kentucky he just goes. his logic is she'll throw the finances or the we haver to do this or soand sos party... he says it actually saves on the arguments... on the other hand she so pissed she won't answer any phone calls from his family or freinds... but no other couple can be warmer and kinder and considerate, and loyal then those two.

I'm not saying that the perfect relationship how would I know Whats perfect, but it does show that pertaining to relationships thier like snowflakes no two exactly the same.

I know nobody or nothing is perfect, Fire.

I'm just saying I'm holding out for a REAL gentleman, instead of getting myself into a nasty abusive relationship like with my ex-husband.

Guess I should have just worded it that way to start with.


Rose.

There's nothing wrong with being alone...hold your ground!

Thanks wildflower...

I'm hangin on tight. lol.


Rose.

I would address that issue first thing so as I wasn't going to waste anymore time. She may not even realize that whatever it is may be an issue. If it was that she has been seperated for ten years and not divorced, she could change that and then the issue would be settled. If it was something that was unchangable, you then have to decide on whether or not you would accept that according to your beliefs and moral standards. If you can, move on. If not explain to her that the issue is something that you are not comfortable with and move on. I also believe you have to look at who that person truly is, not something that has or hasn't happened. Kevin

no one "has to" do anything.

its a matter of getting what you want and if one store does not carry all the items on your list and you "need" these things today what are your options:
1. wait for a store to be buit that has everything on your must have list....going without can indeed mess up ones perspective internally

2. go to two or three differnet stores to get what is nessasary and continue looking and hoping for the "new store that has it all?

3. change your list of wants and what you actually really need.(sacrifice).

personality can be gotten from a neighbor, a co-worker but phyiscal, and emotional needs I think most everyone has them. and findingall htat in location damn just being here a CS I see its a long ardous task filled with many emotional trials and tribulations. tis better to cross a desert loking for an oasis with a canteen of water then it is to try the journey without water at all.
I have no intentions of dying from dehydration...

and as you so aptly put it..."We are all NOT getting any younger

so many different people and character makeups in the world... why some who really have no "need for something can flippantly refuse it when its offered whereas someone who has a thrist so strong that all else is shadow by this one need. they in turn will both react differently to what is in front of them. No one has to do anything. but inaction is in itself harmful.

picture a man starving at a MickeyD's and he sits down the other man starving goes to the counter and asks for food... one wants food but needs to be waited on and the other his proirty is to have food, he gets it himself.

sorry ass analogy, but I checked the list this morning for perfection, damn. I'm still not on it.