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I've been reading the forums hor over an hour about lost loves.....health issues.....current events in the Middle East.....etc. It's all so very sad and depressing. I don't know what to say. I'm very happy for those who have found happiness and true friendships here.......sad for those who are experiencing hard times. I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself and on the 'pity pot' today......wondering when my time for real happiness will come. A few of you I have talked with about my problems and issues I face on a daily basis. Many of you see me as a wise cracker and a person who is always funny and upbeat. The truth is......I feel so lost and alone with my problems......maybe it's just time for me to take a break from these forums and trying to make friends here and try to find myself first.

You are not alone. Just unlock the door. Paws

Please reconsider

Pati,

We all feel like that once in a while...It's all part of being human. I understand what you're going through and we have talked for several hours on the phone. You know how to reach me and you also know I'm only a hop skip and jump away. I'm here if you need me, that's what friends are for. You have an open invitation all you have to say is yes and I will come get you. Call me any time day or night.

Love ya, Cris

I think a lot of people on here feel lost. I was with my X for close to 13 years. Never planed to be single and have to date again. It has been an experiance. I havn't met any body on her yet but have off some other sites. Beleave me I am lost when it comes to dating

Patti, there are some things that you can do. Take part in the DA thread. Get even more friends on CS. Get in touch with your world there so that you can bring more of it in here. Try to keep a positive outlook. Remember a smile can be infectious. The negativity of the foums can get you down. You are a human and humans face these kind of feelings and emotions. I write poetry and it may help you. That funny and unbeat you mentioned is needed in CS. It is good that you talk about your problems and issues. I try to do that and it helps me. We are real people behind the words in the posts.

Roy

I think that all of us have our own issues...and things that we go threw...good times...bad times....and I myself have left the site for a few weeks and a good friend convinced me to come back.
Even tho this is a dating site I have made several good friends threw here , and I missed that when i was not on here. Maybe you won't find "the one" on here , but the bottom line is there are people here that are here for you in good and bad times.

Maybe you should give her the key first?

All I know is when I do see you, I am happy to see you

aww sweetie yes please reconsider finding this site and the people on here has been a soothing balm to my soul
and i adore each and every one i have had the pleasure of talking to. just hang in there!

Sweetie,
I have the same feelings you do ..Like Cris said we all feel then from time to time..I feel alot lost right now..Alot has gone on in my life in the last month and I have NO ONE to vent...talk..too, cry on their shoulder... i have to deal withthis myself ..I have left the forums before but came back youd be amazed at how many ppl her etruly do care..

We havent spoken much, but do what you feel you have to.... no one will hold it against you...

However, let me say this too... there will always be those here who do have a sympathetic ear should you need it.

You are never alone, as we are not separate. Someone told me that and it took a while to realise that they are right.

You can always talk to someone. There are a few wonderful people on here who will listen to you in a non-judgemental way. You are on your down time. It is a fact of our humanity that when we look at ourselves and we look too hard, sometimes we dont like what we see.

Normally we work through this. You are just being human. I have no idea of your daily issues, and to be honest I would not know how to guide you through them. All I know is that CS and its people can be a real tonic.

Im also a bit of a wise arse, and a few of these guys have had the sharp end of my smart mouth, and I know what you are going through as far as feeling low goes.

The buzz I used to get from being on here, interacting and "playing" with my friends, was amazing, but then I experienced the opposing lows. They were sickeningly low. It debilitated me to such an extent that I wanted huuuge amounts of coffee to make me feel normal.

Dont leave. You can talk to a wide range of people on here and there are a lot of people that can help.

Just give them a chance.
Good luck
D.

I think you are not alone in trying to put your best face foreward...
People get tired of reading problems...
Know what? I could care less, really. In reality we deal with these things every day...
And, anyone worth the space in my life and heart? Will care, or at least know me for me.
Just be yourslef, and we cannot alwyas be strong.

be well, you=o)

Guess that makes 2 offers!!

Does the old saying "Let Go and Let God" have any meaning??

I've felt lost since my fiance' died. I don't have anyone to lean on or go to with my concerns. I could talk to him about anything and I truly miss that. I feel lost without having a "best friend".

Hi sweet,

Try to keep things in perspective and not put all your efforts into just one thing.

You feel you should take a break here and try to find yourself first? I believe you should be doing that anyways, finding yourself, spending time with or meeting new people, making friends you can have coffee with, etc....

This is a singles site and bulletin board, where you can spend time with people, make friends and maybe meet someday in the future.

I haven't "found" a special guy on here either and doubt that will happen in this site, because of the distances in locations.

It's ok to come here and spend some time, get feedback on ideas, read, or just laugh at some of the jokes.

My time spent here is brief but daily, trying to keep things of importance in perspective.

Good luck

So much bad happened in my life in the last decade + that most people might have wanted to end it all. It can be a struggle every day, but faith and humor seem to be my crutches. I don't get into the forem often so don't really know everyones frowns/smiles but I would say if one has siblings/parents/family that they can talk/confide in then they are very fortunate and should take advantage of it.

An Act of Kindness for a Broken Heart...

My husband, Hanoch, and I wrote a book Acts of Kindness: How to Create a Kindness Revolution, which has generated much interest across America. This story was shared with us by an anonymous caller during a radio talk show in Chicago.

"Hi, Mommy, what are you doing?" asked Susie.

"I'm making a casserole for Mrs. Smith next door," said her mother.

"Why?" asked Susie, who was only six years old.

"Because Mrs. Smith is very sad; she lost her daughter and she has a broken heart. We need to take care of her for a little while."

"Why, Mommy?"

"You see, Susie, when someone is very, very sad, they have trouble doing the little things like making dinner or other chores. Because we're part of a community and Mrs. Smith is our neighbor, we need to do some things to help her. Mrs. Smith won't ever be able to talk with her daughter or hug her or do all those wonderful things that mommies and daughters do together. You are a very smart girl, Susie; maybe you'll think of some way to help take care of Mrs. Smith."

Susie thought seriously about this challenge and how she could do her part in caring for Mrs. Smith. A few minutes later, Susie knocked on her door. After a few moments Mrs. Smith answered the knock with a "Hi, Susie."

Susie noticed that Mrs. Smith didn't have that familiar musical quality about her voice when she greeted someone.

Mrs. Smith also looked as though she might have been crying because her eyes were watery and swollen."What can I do for you, Susie?" asked Mrs. Smith.

"My mommy says that you lost your daughter and you're very, very sad with a broken heart." Susie held her hand out shyly. In it was a Band-Aid. "This is for your broken heart." Mrs. Smith gasped, choking back her tears. She knelt down and hugged Susie. Through her tears she said, "Thank you, darling girl, this will help a lot."

Mrs. Smith accepted Susie's act of kindness and took it one step further. She purchased a small key ring with a plexiglass picture frame -- the ones designed to carry keys and proudly display a family portrait at the same time. Mrs. Smith placed Susie's Band-Aid in the frame to remind herself to heal a little every time she sees it. She wisely knows that healing takes time and support. It has become her symbol for healing, while not forgetting the joy and love she experienced with her daughter.

Meladee McCarty


Can I get you a band-aid? Here take a tissue