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is having sex on the first date at bad reflection of the female (or male). overall, do men think less of women who do that? thanks for your input, men.

hmmm, is there a diff between 1, 2, 3 dates? no not really

i agree

I think if a guy is looking for a one night stand he is thinking it is great. If you are looking for someone who is going to respect you as a female than I doubt that you should be having sex early on ...the guy is going to think that you are doing this with everyone ...thus he is not special ..etc. etc.

i had sex with my husband the first night i met him. we were married for eight and a half years.

(People) guys or gals that have just met for the first time that night and end up in the sack that night, give me a bad impression. Because you know they could have and most likely have done that a lot in the past.

If they had talked before, like through internet or phone for a while and then the 1st date made love...thats different.

I, myself need love before sex to make it great.

I disagree.I don't think it is good to jump to sex right away,although it could depend on things like,how long you have known the person,etc.

personally, i don't think anything is wrong with it, but my best friend believes that it is sure to ruin a relationship.

There is a good song that describes this exactly.limp bizkit-"no sex" about how the guy feels disgusted about the relationship, went too fast, way too soon, and there is nothing left

we were both 100% faithful. i never had a worry that he would every cheat on me...and vice versa.

Agree with you.

Oh,by the way,I was disagreeing on the 1st,2nd 3rd date thing.

For me it out of the question. No sex on the first date, then or now. It has been stated before; if one does it with you,. Then one has most likely done it many other times before you, with many others.
Kat

me, too. he hit forty...and things went to hell.

i am perfectly capable of having wonderfully satisfying sex without love. i choose when and how i have sex. it is not an indication of fidelity.

a lack of honesty or ethics...those are NOT my failings.

I need to have feelings for the man before I go there.

I don't think I have the history to judge that anymore. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Who am I to judge it? At this point, I hope for it, but moreso I am hoping just for a connection.

My wife and I did not have sex on our first date. We instead jumped into things really overly quickly, for no apparent reason except for a thought that we wanted to be with each other for the rest of our lives.

I never cheated on her, although I think she thought I did.
I don't think she ever cheated on me, except for towards the end here when I found out she met a guy at a bar and had a 'friendly kiss', whatever that means. Ladies, do you have an impression of what that means?

Well, I have done just about everything you can think of and I gave up on sex on the first date many years ago. What I have found is that I not only feel better about myself but the woman ends up feeling better about herself for not doing it and she likes me more for respecting her also. All I did in my earlier years I consider to be learning years. Just my opinion.

There's to much out there as far as S.T.D's I'll pass!!!!

rob, i feel fine about myself regardless of whether i get me some or not.

and i know early on whether or not a guy can keep up.

just a friendly kiss is a kiss on the cheek or lightly on the lips to a friend. no someone that I would be emotionally involved with.