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I would love to find the right woman and settle down. Setteling down (for me) is the easy part. Finding the right one to settle down with is the hard part. Sometimes right when I think I found the right one to settle down with, BANG! It all gets blown to hell.
Best advice (I believe) is to quit looking for love and let it find you.
As per-usual, my 2 cents worth.

I wonder the same acctually ,,,why is it such a long search??

I feel it works both ways think about it is such a big world, so many lonely people. Looking to find the one that sparks our flame, do you want to settle for second best? I think not as we all know it is a waste of our time. We all want that fairy tale love but it takes a special someone to fulfill our fantasy. Is it better to be alone than to wish you were? I just got out of a one year relationship with a man from my city he was very controlling to the point of scarey. I had to get out to save my sanity, I was not lonely while with him nor was I happy. Bottom line we must follow our hearts and search until we find the one that makes us whole. Meanwhile take everything as a learning experience and prepare for the one you’re meant for. Good luck and God bless.
Sadeyes

Speaking just for myself..I want to settle...Settle down,,settle in..

The problem, Sad Eyes, is finding a lady who wants the same thing..

I don't ask much..Fidelity and respect!..and yet, this is elusive..

I wish you all the luck and success possible..Bob..

Thanks a lot great answer. I agree with you 100%

You are most welcome ...

Cuteness, I definately agree with you on that.

I learned that and definately agree with it. Love will arrive when the time is right, so just look for friends.

And you don't think these nice guys have a similar pattern of picking the wrong type

I did, she didn't.. Who am I to dictate her journey in life. We all have the freedom to make our choices, we all will have the chance to reap the consiquences for those choices.

Hey ladies, real men do like to be held also..

I will love to settle, but i will not settle for less that what i'm looking for.






El Diablo

I want to settle down when I find Mr.Right. I'm tired of dating guys for 3 years and them dump me because they find someone new. I am tired of changing my life style because the guy I date donesnt think alot of me. Heart-breaking.

NEVER change for anyone. Be yourself, take care of yourself, 1st & foremost.

If someone wants you to change, they are trying to mold you into what they wanted in the first place..

Very welll put,Sadeyes.

real men want to find the real thing...players don't

Hi some guys d want to settle. YOUR JUST BEING PLAYED. sO ITS UP TO YOU TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT

I think the main reason why real love is so hard to find is because most of the time we are looking for the wrong things. Men are programmed to search for beauty and sex from the time we are young. In general women are programmed to search for providers i.e. you listed in your profile that you were looking for a guy with nice clothes and a nice car. We often set standards that are unrealistic. I think that only when we finally focus on finding someone that really understands and appreciates you for you and you for them. I had that once but I let go. Which leads me to why don't men want to settle. Many/most/some (you choose) men are again driven by harmones to chase women. I should have appreciated what I had in my relationship yet I always had the "grass is greener on the other side" attitude to the relationship. That greener grass is a mirage and now I wallow in the mud because of those actions. Now I have to hope to get one more chance, that I recognize and seize that opportunity. I have made one significant change that I think will make a difference and I highly recommend it for everyone that is truly looking for love. First turn your life over to God. I had to recognize it wasn't about what I thought I wanted but what God wants for me. I had to learn how to love God before I could really understand what true love is. Now I leave it in his hands. God bless and I wish you all luck finding that special person.

My sentements exactly.

I agree with you Abra in most of your points. Arseholeness in men is usually nurtured by women in many ways too. If those women falling in an arsehole's game could just slow down and use true women wisdom (which I believe it exists) then men in general would have to correct certain ways. Maybe this is impossible just because human nature is troublesome and maybe prone to stupidity. For example who could change the patterns of dating? if dating was designed for some real testing of each other, and not for stupid chats where people use their masks (so everyboy is nice...!!) or for casual sex after the first,second or third date (LOL!!) then it would become a good tool to know people. Unfortunately dating has not that definition in the mind of many people, not neurons or deep intuition at work but hormons... maybe inevitable (especially in many of us guys)

What if one takes a sex-less journey with your girl-friend-prospect to the Amazon Jungle or stuff like that? For sure bloody jerks would get ruled out in one second.
I think what I am saying is not new stuff for women because they try and practice to put guys at test most of the time. In my opinion their failure comes from their own internal weaknesses, say, when they start playing their own silly games (usually high risks for themselves) who pray "maybe he is deep down good"... "maybe he will love me in the end"
I believe the bus for everyone will come or never ever. If the latter is your case then you can always find the walk through life alone nice. Destiny has a sort o deep wisdom hidden for all of us, even in the worst situations.

Joe

There are men that want to settle...Well, only one that I know of...