LobsterSeeksSame
Columbia, Maryland USA
Posted: Aug 3, 2005, 8:13 AM CST
It's difficult to date a single mom, though not impossible. Here's the thing...when you are dating, you want to be desired and wanted by your partner. As a guy, I will put my woman on a pedestal and do all of those romantic things for her, take her out, open the door for her, hold her hand, buy her gifts etc.
Last night I called a woman I met on one of the dating services. I knew she had children and she said to call her. I did and all I heard over the phone was, "hang on....yes honey you can watch TV...one second...stop fighting you two and get ready for bed....be right there....BOYS STOP FIGHTING...." Not much romance there.
So I think there has to be compromise and better timing when you are dating a single mom. Don't call and talk to her when the kids are awake. You'll never get in much of a conversation. At some point of course you will have to call during "kids" time but at least by then you've established some rapport with the Mom and can tolerate the interruptions.
You definitely need to have patience and hope that the single Mom can juggle kids and a relationship with a new guy. The new guy needs attention too and that's where issues come up.
My 2 cents on the subject :-)