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That one has been around for quite some time, anyone directing you away from this site is probably up yo no good.

whats the guys name if you dont mind my asking-you can email it to me if you want.

which one has been around for quite some time? my curiosity is piqued

nigerian scams

scams happen all over.

There are good resources on the net.

oh no this wasnt one asking for money and was from the us

I am sorry this happened to you. Try to remember, anyone can write anything. I could tell you that I am a 69 year old man named Fred. Who is to know? I have met some pretty nice people on here. But, moving slow may be a good key. We write emails for awhile, then talk on the phone, then eventually meet in person. Anyone who told me they loved me without ever meeting me would immediately be suspect. You may like some one's ideas, lust after their picture, but how can you "love" someone you haven't met. That makes about as much sense as "loving" someone you met one time in a bar. Love takes more time than that to cultivate. Also, someone wanting to "take care of me" would also send up red flags. I am an adult and can certainly take care of myself. I want to find someone to compliment me, not take care of me. I hope that you don't let this one person scare you away from others. There are some great friendships to be made. Best of luck to you, hope you find a really nice guy!!

You should had watch Dr Phil two weeks ago, this is a common occurrence for both sexes. They steel someone Identity, and are very good in manipulation and deception. They will first tell you their what you want to hear, and that they are not after any money, Give it a week or two and several emails, eventually the subject of money will come up, either by telling you they need a ticket to fly to your location, or that they will wired you some money to hold for them. If they mention money at all delete them, block them from your view, and report it to cs. They will leave and you will never hear from them until they steel someone else identity, and the game start all over again. I know it has happen to me, and I was able to pick up the warning signs, and that person has deleted herself from the site, there are many more out there, and sometimes I find it comical

Do a search on Nigerian Scams in Google, there are quite a few. You'll also come up with sites that will have info on how to spot these scammers. Some scammers claim to be from the US but actually are not.

I recieved an email from someone this morning claiming to like my profile and wanted to get to know each other better. If they had read my profile, they would have seen that I am committed to someone already.
There were two red flags on this email. The first was location which was in the US. The second was the email address which is located in Russia.

Just checked to see if that email was still in my mailbox but it isn't which must mean they got caught

Yeah I got that emails yesterday. Earl are you saying it wasn't real?

ahhh i dont mean anyone asking for $$$ or anything-i mean a guy that spent hours talking to me saying hed marry me etc and was loaded

Yeah there are some of those around to Krissy.

Hi, I am new to this site. And am hoping it is not like the one I spent several months on, that being (POF), my advice would be not to waste your time there, if you are serious about meeting someone.
First thing you have to do is weed thru the "Cyberpervs". who just want to use you while they have way toooo much fun with themselves. They BTW list themselves as looking for "Long Term Relationships",(sure, right!!!!).
Then comes the real hard part, finding out after a couple of weeks of Iming, Emailing, and phone calls, that the person who swears that they are single are in fact married. If you are lucky, they will come clean early before you invest to much time and develop to much emotionally to them.
Then there are the ones that you email, IM, phone calls and all, then suddenly nothing, complete silence. After telling you all kinds of sweet things, telling you "How beautiful you are","How much they want to meet you", "That you are everything they are looking for". These guys are as bad as the married ones, (or maybe they are), because it leaves you with no closing. Wondering what happened and if you said or did something wrong.
Then there are the ones who don't exactly look even close to their pics...They somehow think that you must be blind. There was one guy who actually admitted that the pic he posted wasn't him at all.

Meeting someone this way could and should be great. If only people realize that they conversing with "Real People", with "Real Feelings". If they want to get their jollies with CyberSex, Fantasy, etc. there are tons of sites designed for that purpose. Why not have the decency to leave sites that are for serious people seeking a serious a relationship, friendship, etc. alone.

On POF, there was even a gal who wrote the forum, telling of being physically abused on a first date. People were actually more worried about this persons identity and slander. Can you believe that, excuse me.....this person needed to be identified so no one else could get hurt or worse, (it is very easy to make sure if the allegation is legitimate, its all public record).....

I also feel soooo sorry for the spouses of the cheaters on these sites. And yes it is cheating. The things that have been said to me by these married men, should only be said to their wives. And the things that I have said to them, (not knowing they were married), should not be told to a married man. Its just isn't right in any sense, for a healthy marriage.

So I believe that sites like this one as well as others should allow people to warn others when they come in contact with the aforementioned type of people. I am not meaning people who have just plain been rejected because of non interest. Or someone that is trying to get back at someone for spite. But legitimate ***holes using this site for other things than what it is intending to be. A site like that, in my eyes, would have the utmost credibility.....

So hang in there everyone, and I hope we all find what we are looking for...... And please follow the golden rule...... Treat others as you would want to be treated....

Duped? Not yet but I have been

Ignored
Discarded
Insulted
Worshipped
Propositioned (maaaanny times)
Sworn at
"Hit on" by women
Been offered "stuff" that's too good to be true....
Serenaded by melodic prose.....
Sent slightly pornographic e-mails ... that was ummm educational... more please
Told the secret to a happy life...


But not duped

Crap that sucks, Well hey cheer up you better off and you learned a little something, so you done yourself justice.

Yeah sure they have a name for such people FAKE

I too can relate to a big part of this, I don`t understand why others play games with our hearts. I always treat others kindly as I believe in that rule. I`m also honest and would never hurt anyone as I know how it feels to have that empty lonely feeling.

Most of my experiences on these dating sites have been along the lines of scams. Not on this site though... yet. I have never been dubped, fooled or pulled into any of it though. I have deliberately strung some along just to see where it leads. In most cases it goes nowhere so I am not sure what the scam is. I have had one ask me to start cashing checks for her so she can get back to the US. Most send very generic emails and want you to immediately email them at their email address. If you ask them very specific questions like "where do you live?" and "what exactly about my profile attracted you to me?" they never answer and send what are obviously readymade emails in broken English. The following is the most recent generic sounding email I have received just as an example. Never trust anything that reads like this:

Hello! Good surprise to receive yours e-mail :) I am pleased, thank
you for contacting me. I like your profile more interesting than
others. I hope you have time to send me some messages and we could to
learn each other. well.. a little about me, i am 26 years old, also
friends name me as Marta. I was never married I live with my parents. I have good job. I work as seller in a dress shop. I very much like my work. The most intense days it is Friday, Saturday, Sunday and holidays. Tell to me about the work. Do you like your work? I love amusement parks, outdoor activities, sports, travel, listening to music, concerts, movies, swimming, some socializing with friends at bars or clubs but not too often, I love comedy movies the best I like romance,action. I like music from the different. I like some top music, some rock, disco music, live music, and occasionally romantic music. I like to dance very much. I have many friends, we spent time together, usually we go to the cafe, to watch movies, to the concerts, we have many other entertainment. I have sports activity i prefer healthy style of a life. 2-3 times in week I visit the gym (and sometimes it is less :^) ) I hold my body in the healthy form. And you have any sports in the life now? I send you my picture i hope you like. Also i want that you send to me some your pictures but please not of big size. Tell about you about your interesting things what you like to do, your hobby, what your character? What qualities do you like in women? I hope we shall have time for writing other interesting letters to each other. We shall look what will be... Write to me, I shall wait your letter. Your friend Marta.

The "scams" section of this site has good examples of suspicious emails and profiles. They also have a "report abuse" feature where you can report a scammer. As part of this community each of us have the responsibility to report any profile or email which seems suspicious. The good neighbour policy works wonders in this arena.

I'd also like to mention that it's a good idea to periodically search other dating sites for profiles like yours. Scammers are unorignal people who are looking for a quick and easy score. They will troll many dating sites and steal profiles from members they think will be attractive.

This has happened to me twice that I know of - my EXACT word for word profile was copied and used on two different sites featuring photos of two different women (who were obviously NOT me). My profile is unique so there is no way this is "just a coincidence."

I was mad someone stole my online identity but more importantly, I felt horrible that men were contacting "me" but in fact communicating with a scamming thief.

I've been fortunate. No out and out fakes, other than the run-of-the-mill Nigerian/Russian women scam, all obvious and laughable. I've met quite a few sweet and honest people on-line. No lightening strikes, but good friendships are deeply valued.

My heart goes out to all who got sucked in by a scam. It IS easy to imagine that someone with whom we are having a wonderful and magical on-line connection will be that way in person....

Good luck and safe emailing to all!

Oceans

Nope cant say i have.

Screen people, ask lotsa questions and chat for awhile.