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ariesgirl003
Bangin, New Jersey USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 8:39 AM CST
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I have been dumped in the past, as I'm sure everyone has. I have often wondered why after giving your heart to someone that they don't give you no explanation, no chance to talk about it, even if it is to say it's not working. Just "Bam" leave me alone! My ex cheated several times, I forgave her a few times because I loved her. When the day came she said to leave her alone I did. Now she wants me back. No dice. Another one dropped me and had her own reasons I guess, I was never told why. Now something has happened and it has me pretty shook up, yet I can't even tell her I hope all goes well or that I am sorry this happened, she too had told me "leave me alone". Am I wrong for giving my heart to these women and caring about what we shared, even if it is not going to work between us? I am not being persistant and harassing them,etc. When they say "go" I do. Do you think they are just trying to say give me some space? If so, why do they say go? Kevin
Hi Kevin my name is Bree I've had my fare share of love problems but he and I talked about it which helps it still hurts tho but better than not knowin why.If a girl cheats on you once she will do it again and again and if a girl is not open with you then she doesn't care about your feelings.From being on the forums you seem like a great guy don't sell yourself short there is a girl out there for you.So you should tell them girls where ever they went or cheated on you with to stay there who the hell needs that. hug
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PeepingTomGirl
Hampton, Virginia USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 9:26 AM CST
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I have been dumped in the past, as I'm sure everyone has. I have often wondered why after giving your heart to someone that they don't give you no explanation, no chance to talk about it, even if it is to say it's not working. Just "Bam" leave me alone! My ex cheated several times, I forgave her a few times because I loved her. When the day came she said to leave her alone I did. Now she wants me back. No dice. Another one dropped me and had her own reasons I guess, I was never told why. Now something has happened and it has me pretty shook up, yet I can't even tell her I hope all goes well or that I am sorry this happened, she too had told me "leave me alone". Am I wrong for giving my heart to these women and caring about what we shared, even if it is not going to work between us? I am not being persistant and harassing them,etc. When they say "go" I do. Do you think they are just trying to say give me some space? If so, why do they say go? Kevin
I am going through the same thing Kevin. We were great and then BAM he says F.U with no other explanation. I have no idea why people think they can do that to other people but it's going to continue happening until we meet the right one I suppose........


PS....call her just to let her know you do care she is going through such a hard time right now. Keep it short and friendly.
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RenoPat
Valley of the Sun, Arizona USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 9:30 AM CST
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I am going through the same thing Kevin. We were great and then BAM he says F.U with no other explanation. I have no idea why people think they can do that to other people but it's going to continue happening until we meet the right one I suppose........


PS....call her just to let her know you do care she is going through such a hard time right now. Keep it short and friendly.
then BAM he says F.U

He probably did!! His lose, chin up, keep on a truckin!! hug
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starliteisbrite
The planet earth....:), Ontario Canada
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 9:32 AM CST
Its a shame that the majority of people don't say what they really mean,and or don't have enough confidence to rid the."this is only a test sh*t"...........

Your better then that Kevin,always a new journey ahead.....hug
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bulldog66
doncaster UK
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 9:42 AM CST
hey kevin ya get knocked down ya get back up agen keep the head high mate ...who knows whats round the corner ..it mite not be a truckthumbs up
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ariesgirl003
Bangin, New Jersey USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 9:55 AM CST
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Its a shame that the majority of people don't say what they really mean,and or don't have enough confidence to rid the."this is only a test sh*t"...........

Your better then that Kevin,always a new journey ahead.....
I did say what was on my mind and so did he it hurts but helps you understand I look at it this way if its to be it will work out if he or I finds someone than thats how it was to be its just lifedunno uh oh!
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starliteisbrite
The planet earth....:), Ontario Canada
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 10:22 AM CST
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I did say what was on my mind and so did he it hurts but helps you understand I look at it this way if its to be it will work out if he or I finds someone than thats how it was to be its just life
that was my point,not always are we going to like what we hear,but truth is far better then silence,assumptions just keep going and going and we never trully can tell.....
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AKDOPhd
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 10:32 AM CST
sometimes it takes time to awaken from our illusions....each of us....

the level of attachment to one's dream , to one's image of what they wish the other to be...that they unconsciously project onto that person and into the relationship, THIS is where the human factor trips us up...the sooner we look at our mechanisms and the drives and concepts and pictures we've created in our minds, the sooner we will be more able to choose and at least take responsibility for our own projections...


shit is fertilizer ...it is just sohug
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RenoPat
Valley of the Sun, Arizona USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 10:40 AM CST
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sometimes it takes time to awaken from our illusions....each of us....

the level of attachment to one's dream , to one's image of what they wish the other to be...that they unconsciously project onto that person and into the relationship, THIS is where the human factor trips us up...the sooner we look at our mechanisms and the drives and concepts and pictures we've created in our minds, the sooner we will be more able to choose and at least take responsibility for our own projections...


shit is fertilizer ...it is just so
Illisions for some, delusions for me!!grin

Speaking of shit:

A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able
to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got
the energy." "Well, why don't you nibble on some of my manure
droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients." The
turkey pecked at a lump of manure, found it actually gave him enough
strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after
eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a
fourth night, he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was
promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Lesson: Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won't keep
you there.
rolling on the floor laughing

hug
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keroba
Escanaba, Michigan USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 10:56 AM CST
I hope that my grand illusions of finding the "one" are not just that, grand illusions. I do have faith and know that in time what will be will be. If there is someone, time will tell. If not I have shared my life in a productive way and hope that someone else has benefitted from this. I have learned another lesson in the school of hard knocks, as maybe they will too. I guess we all have to learn in order to go on. Each lesson learned is another step up the ladder. I don't need to eat ALL the sh*t to learn that is the only way to the top. Maybe the top is closer than I think? Kevin
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ninamoosha
St. Ignace, Michigan USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 11:18 AM CST
I suppose everyone has an opinion...so here's mine....If the persons you have been w/in the past would leave you without any explanations...then I don't believe their was a very trusting friendship there from the beginning, surely not in the end..l.which in my opionion comes before all the depth of emotional love, unconditional love (if love is unconditional then these loves would have had a discussion w/you) I can only guess that from their perspective there was not even a good healthy friendship there....Yes, I do believe that there is a possibility of love at first sight...and yes, I do believe I have seen those work...but that has never happened for me but once...and we were great friends for two years before anything else....when your young I think we have more time...as we grow older we sometimes try to rush into things....
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TabooN
Claremont USA
Posted: Dec 10, 2006, 8:01 PM CST
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I have been dumped in the past, as I'm sure everyone has. I have often wondered why after giving your heart to someone that they don't give you no explanation, no chance to talk about it, even if it is to say it's not working. Just "Bam" leave me alone! My ex cheated several times, I forgave her a few times because I loved her. When the day came she said to leave her alone I did. Now she wants me back. No dice. Another one dropped me and had her own reasons I guess, I was never told why. Now something has happened and it has me pretty shook up, yet I can't even tell her I hope all goes well or that I am sorry this happened, she too had told me "leave me alone". Am I wrong for giving my heart to these women and caring about what we shared, even if it is not going to work between us? I am not being persistant and harassing them,etc. When they say "go" I do. Do you think they are just trying to say give me some space? If so, why do they say go? Kevin
No feeling are right or wrong. they just are.

I wonder about those that refuse to accept my feelings as valid, and insist I be changed, or can be "fixed"

If you give your heart freely, then you cannot complain about it not working.

Freely giving is free, no strings. Taking personal responsibilty for how one might feel by actions is another thing....
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