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Just wondering..been on a few single sites now for a few months and it seems like the men are afraid to ask you out on a date. You write each other for a while and things are going well and then they just quit writing without ever asking you out. Why are we on here if not to date? What could be so scary about meeting someone for a drink?

Time's have changed and the guy's want to be asked out instead.

Or maybe they are afraid of sexual harassment charges, lol.

And if they are like me, shyness takes over, or they want to kick back and study the woman in the background.

Some of my thought's to your question.

I have absolutely no fear or inhibitions at all about asking out a woman I'm interested in. The first thing I would ask to do is talk with her on the telephone. If things went well at that point I would be very open to meeting her for a 'drink'. I usually suggest coffee or tea since I don't care for alcohol myself. She's usually aware of that from previous discussions.

Unfortunately, distance is quite often the nemesis. I'm not likely to drive more than 100 to meet a woman for coffee. In fact, I would really need to be pretty thrilled about her to drive that far. When longer distances are involved (as in the past for me), I usually arranged to stay at her place for a week or more. Yes, I've had several "first dates" like that and they worked out quite well I should add. We became very good friend. We didn’t fall madly in love, but you can't force nature. We sure as hell tried.

My problem is finding someone close to me that I want to meet AND who's willing to meet with me! It takes two!

I send out emails to women close to me and they never so much as respond! You certainly aren't going to date someone who won't even open up a dialogue with you.

who said that !

are woman afraid to ask man out
where does it say that the man always have to make the first move there is nothing wrong with a woman ask a man out


in a way it is a compliment cause she thought of him enough to ask him out.sometimes in love we miss the boat cause we are afraid to,tell someone how we feel.


sometimes you have to say $uck and make the first move,you have nothing to lose.but you may have everything to gain.you never knew unless you are willing to make the first move



sometimes life is like chess someone has to make the first move,than wait for the other person to make their move

Scared im not they can only say no, In my case they usually say yes

Brothels are funny that way

Z man you have to admit it is much more Classy when the man takes charge and treats the woman with respect I am not getting you wrong about the chicks asking us out because I wishmore were like that, all I know is the ladies luv thats shit!


Can I be wrong

Mech

That was not funny

roasted so much I only have strength for quick lashes

u lol i thought that was me getttin roasted

I guess you're right I could ask them out I'm just kind of old fashioned and maybe I'd like to think he's really interested and can't wait to meet me.

don't mess with the imperialists

Even when they are pissed (drunk) and spouting jibberish, it's somewhat eloquent so you still THINK you're getting burned

Haha I love your humor

i don't know maybe it is me and the woman i have had in my lifetime.they have always ask me out.which i have always thought of a honor,that they care enough about me.that they wanted to take me out


class has nothing to do with it,taking charge has nothing to do with it,a woman like everyone else has a free will to do what they want to do.if a woman wants to ask a man out there is nothing wrong with it


ever think someone are shy when it comes to a woman,that some man do not know how to talk to a woman.that some man are afraid of a woman.sometimes a woman understands this and she makes the first move,cause she got tire of waiting for the man to ask her out


just because a woman ask me out does not mean i do not treat her with respect,it does not mean i do not treat her like the lady she is,it does not mean i do not treat her with tender loving care


maybe it is just me but when a woman ask me out,i always thought it was a honor.it has nothing to do with my ego nor wanting to take charge but wanting to spend time with her

Ok,Warmhearted, let me ask you this, If I asked you out on a date, putting aside the distance, what would your reply be

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< DIRTY OLD MAN!!

Want a date with one????

Confidence man thats what counts go ahead and ask I do...

Abra made a point.....


THE GUY HAS TO BE INTERESTED!!!

MOTIVATED!

Nothing on earth will stop him if he REALLY wants to get with you!!!



(Same with women by the way, women give subtle green light hints)

subtles green light hints ... LMAO Joanie

Sometimes toooooooooooo many before the point is taken lol