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Kinda silly question...but...I have a 14 year old son that wants his hair long....I HATE IT....His hair is Uber Curly...and it just looks like sh*t....no two ways about it....He's going for the Skate Rat look. I want it cut..and I MEAN CUT....so he looks like a young man rather than some damn degenerate. His Mom says....Let him have his individuality...I'm trying, I really am...but it's just so hard to look at my kid and think he looks like a damn slob. What say ya'll?

Everytime I look at my daughter dressed in black with skulls hanging everywhere I have to reassure myself that it is a growing phase. Just like the long haired hippy that my parents had to look at for so many years.

Burt..you know I luvs ya to death but you gotta let your kid be himself.. So unfortunately i am agreeing with his Mama...Its hair...
Does he stink? Does he bathe on a regular basis, does he look decent other than his hair??

I have a 16 year old daughter who has done EVERYTHING imagineable to her hair, I have always told her its hair...itll grow back if ya dont like it cut it off.. Its hair..

I understand not liking the way he looks, it will get old he will cut it, i swear went thru this with my son who had hair longer than mine and now hes in the military so yo uknow what his hair looks like...

Hang tough pops!!

just my babbling.02

Hey Burt are you sure you're not jealous since you ain't got none ... LOL just kidding ... I think if he takes care of his hair it might not look that bad ... long hair takes lots of care i should know i used to have it really long ...

is it so important to maybe ailinate you from him

in time he may not like it

it does not really change who he is

maybe some nice young lady will ask him to do it

never know

i would not push that paticular issue

put is your son

good luck hope it works out well

Nope, his hygiene is horrible. I have to tell him to take a bath every single day,...just like he's two years old. Have to make sure he's wearing deodorant and actually washing in the shower. I buy him heavily scented body wash...ala...Axe or Old Spice...so I know if he's bathing. I buy him new clothes...and he wants the stuff already ripped and looking dirty. Bought him new "skate" shoes...and he would rather wear his friends old ripped up sh*t than the new stuff...Makes me want to strangle him. He'll go stay at his friends house...play paintball, whatever, and come home smelling like ass. Then, poppa of all the poppas....they have a white microsuede recliner in their room...and he'll plop his nasty behind down on that and grab the computer.......auuuggghhhhh.....

Gee ... I once got a haircut for a girl ...

Highplains, can't believe you have a teenage son. But, you know he will just be going through a phase, all teenagers do. He probably feels, that because you don't like it, he will be non-conforming, a rebel maybe. If you dig your heels in, he will become more defiant. Maybe use a bit of reverse psychology?? Let him have his way for a while and you will see the novelty wear off for him, when he knows its not bugging you? Just a thought.............
Dx.
(Okay, so I don't have children, but I was one once.....!!).

That's my youngest teenager...my oldest is 17, will be 18 in May....always something exciting going on....

do you really want me to answer that question?

but with my two sons i always let them say how they want to have their hair.but when they was little ever once in awhile just to piss them off,i would give them a crew cut.


but now since they are teenagers they still wear their hair short and always wanting to go and get a hair cut.


but i remember growing up how my dad was always making me get a haircut and how much i hated it.but over time he gave up and left me alone

If he would keep it looking good, he could let it drag the floor, and I wouldn't care...hell, I even told him to put some lil dreads in it and wear it like Bronson Arroyo did a couple of years ago...looked cool as hell...but that sh*t is all over his head....it just looks horrible.

ya could thell him if he doesn't keep it in healthy groomed condition yer gonna buzz cut it when he falls asleep

not nes=cessarily a good idea but hey if it works

mybe bump him with the clippers in your hand to wake him the first time tho

Get izzy to hold him down and you chop his hair off and then hose him down

LMAO....Izzy's in Puerto Rico right now....he antagonizes the sh*t out of my son about that hair too......

My daddy used to tell me that as long as my feet were under his table and I was living under his roof, I would wear my hair the way that HE wanted it.

I fought with my daughter for about a year on the way she would dress. It drove me crazy..She was a girl and I wanted her to look like one. She prefers baggy clothes and the boy look. Both my kids have told me that when they were younger, I always chose there clothes and haircuts and they would like to have a say so in that area.. My daughter would go to school and always sneak an extra set of clothes with her or borrow her friends clothes...When she was 10 she had long curly blonde hair..I loved it..She decided that she wanted short hair and cut it all off...I brought this topic up to there therapist one time... She just stated that is the fighting over there looks all worth the heartache?? No it wasn't!
It's just a stage with them wanting to try something different...

Hm ...yeah ...that's a tough situation ...

Is he intrested in any kind of sports? ... i mean maybe you could send him to play hockey or soccer or ... whatever

Just to make him busy ...

as for leight of hair .. i would not worry about this one. Just let it go ...give him chance to try it.

When my oldest son was 14 he had long hair
Now he is 17 and he prefers to have them short


The youngest 6 still has them long

Desicions, Desicions ...aren't a parenhood is all about them?

Tough

Yup...he plays football...baseball.....wrestles....paintball nut.....he's athletic as hell...and he plays the drums...just like his big brother....just that hair and that funky butt are driving me nuts....

Just like with the tongue-piercing thing, the operative word here is "kid." Who's the parent and who's the child?

do like i did my boys when yhey wanted to wear their how long.tell him if he does not take care of it,you will cut it all off.but to get your point across tell him holding a pair of clippers


but sometimes you have to back your words up,can you say


Fuzzy Wuzzy had no hair
Fuzzy Wuzzy wasn't fuzzy, was he?