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tell him he keeps his hair trimmed and neat or he cuts it off .. simple and firm

i kinda said that dana but comin from you may get noticed


yer a hole lot cuter than me

lol it is hard to imagine someone who plays drums with a " Recruit" style haircut

and yet hey just take a look how many musicians and famous sport players have their hair long ...


but hygeine yeah it is a different story ... you perhaps need to be more durable in debates with your son ...you are the Father for Christ's Sake

Good luck Burt i mean it

Well thats a different story then..Bust his ass !! No need for you to have to watch his every move especially in the shower..Start playin hard ball, no computer, no friends, no skating, nothin til the crap changes...Damn am I mean??

Im blessed with 3 of mine being girls and they are overly clean showering 2 times a day at least most of the time Im running thru the house coughin because of 3 different kinds of perfume 4 if you include mine
My youngest son whos 11 knows if he smells bad his sisters will spray his ass and make him smell like a girl so hes all about Axe ..

Good luck its tough to have to be a Dad instead of a friend..Went thru that with my daughter whos 16 today..Finally had to literally use the whole "tough love" thing on her..worked like a charm got her back where she needs to be..

Good luck darlin!

When I was growing up I was given the choice between a flat top and a crew cut. In the sixth grade in Red Bay, Alabama our school had been burnt down the year before. The teacher in front of the whole class told me that the class had bought me a bar of soap. Talk about embarrassing, geez. But after that I bathed daily in the white basin that we had. We didn't have a bath tub. Later dad and I installed indoor plumbing so that we could have running water. I can remember how nice it was to have hot water and not to have to freeze in the spring water.

From a hairstylist point of view-
long hair is in- but you still have to trim the hair to keep it healthy- sooooooooooooooooo find a hairstylist that you think can comunicate with your son-we have done wonders with the boys that stink and have crazy hair-hearing from a neutral party takes away the tension!!just a thought!

i have a 15 yr old just like that, i just leave him alone because eventually they get through that phase..

Find a girl that he doesn't know who is his age and have her laugh at him. That will get him to the barber quick!

Give him a minute to figure out his style....at that age it is all about experimenting in this fat ole world. The way he wears his hair does not reflect the boy you love...ignore it, my 12 year old just had his hair cut for the first time in three years, it was half way down his back, and is now above his collar, and it made no difference to the amazing young buck he is....his older brother also had long hair halfway down his back at 14, he's 21 now, and has a military cut.

If that is his only step into independence and individual style, at 14, then it's a lucky man you are.....

If you ignore it he will change it eventually... Leave him be. There could be some many worse issues at hand than curly long hair....plains......jmo

Personally,I would have let him keep it,changes,you know Burt,there are too many to even begin to count.Its about finding who you are,its hair,I know,it looks like shit,been there done that,but eh,individuality,its important to them......

update.....

I took him to get a haircut this past weekend...I sought out a stylist that could do him some justice....

When we walked in...she asked him if he wanted the skater cut....that brought a smile to his face.....

she cut about two inches off his hair....thinned it out.....layered it....

it's still kinda shaggy and unkempt, but it looks MUCH better.....

So we both compromised a little.....worked out pretty good...


now there's these big ass "gauges" that he's trying to put in his ear.....augggghhhhh.....

boys.. if its not one things its another..


my ex put them in his ear one time.. looked like hell.. now he' doesnt wear anything in his ear but has these damned holes that dont seem to want to close up..

I am just wondering if there is nothing in the school dress codes in other states about how boys wear their hair and the piercings... Here in Texas at my boys school, they are very strict on that. They are not allowed to even have it a little over their ears or their collar or they are sending them home! Boys are not allowed to wear any jewelry in their piercings (nose, ears, lips, eyebrows, etc.) Girls can only wear earrings (one hole on each side). When my daughter was a senior, she had to remove her cartiledge piercing in her ear everyday and her second holes.

Man, I wish we had something like that. They actually have legislation in the general assembly that would prevent anyone from wearing their pants below their hips....NO MORE SAGGING PANTS....I'd love to see that pass...

I've pondered this question before and I want my retort to be as eloquent as possible
BBBBOOOOOOOYYAAA!!!

I live in a very small town (700 people) and our school system is VERY STRICT on dress code. Some of it is almost silly! They are trying to pass the rule of school uniforms here! My oldest son is 16 and he prefers to wear his hair in a longer style (just past his collar and a little over his ears) He can't do that throughout the school year... so fortunately for me, I only have to put up with it in the summer months!

Well long hair on guys is rely fashionable u no so I guess thats y. It can look v nice 2 curly a rely gd friend of mine has a blondish afro n he looks gd with it.

Hey...Another Scarlet!

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