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My wife died five years ago, Joe. She was too young. And yes, I still miss her.

But we can remind ourselves that life moves on, right?





Oceans

death is different than divorce. You don't have the rejection that you get with divorce. I'm sure part of you will always love your wife.

why do you think i'm on this site.my son told me i only get one kick at the cat and i had my kick

i'v been divorced for 12 yrs and still miss my ex. does anybody else

My Brother, If I can pass one thing on to you or anyone in this boat (been there done that) is this. The truth is that you long for the puppet of ur ex. What I mean is that the person u miss really isnt your ex. We all have puppets in our heads of the people we know. These puppets are who we base our emotions on. I was married 13 years while in the military and my ex had 14 affairs on me. I gave up a military career to save my marriage but it didnt work out. I have been divorced for 8 years. Even when my ex was gone, I longed for who she was in my head not for her. The puppet in my head was sorry for cheating on me so many times and said and did everything right. My ex told me that she never really loved me. The person I longed for would never say that. I missed her so much that I carried it into my next relationship. That was very unfair of me. It took years but after that relationship ended (6 years), I now felt the same way for my ex girlfriend. I couldnt understand how I could feel the same way about her as I felt about my ex wife. Then it hit me. The females I miss arent the only ones in the world. How could I be so lucky to have been able to get with the only two women in the world who could hurt me. The truth is they were simply person X. What I missed was the companionship and love. When I started taking my pain as my own, it stopped. I didnt hurt because person X didnt love me or act the way they acted in my head, I hurt because I didnt have someone, anyone, in that place. It didnt matter if it was my ex wife, my ex girlfriend, or Mariah Cary. I was sad for myself, not sad for them. I will pray for you, my brother. Just remember, when you feel noone else cares, dont forget me and Jesus love you!! There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Someday, you will be with the one God has for you and just imagine how great she will be!!

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Your Brother in Christ

Shane

death is different than divorce. You don't have the rejection that you get with divorce. I'm sure part of you will always love your wife.

i'v been divorced for 12 yrs and still miss my ex. does anybody else

i miss my ex-fiance. he left me with nothing, and he left me for his ex!

That is my sense, too. I've never seen such pain as that of my friends who have gone through divorce. My heart goes out to all who have gone through this.



Oceans

i miss my ex-fiance. he left me with nothing, and he left me for his ex!

You really never know someone until....My fiance broke up our engagement because I asked him for something...He said he was doing this for me over the telephone...I guess his male friends could not figure out OUR PROBLEM....This shook me up pretty badly, I didn't date for two years!!!!So what is love?????

You really never know someone until....My fiance broke up our engagement because I asked him for something...He said he was doing this for me over the telephone...I guess his male friends could not figure out OUR PROBLEM....This shook me up pretty badly, I didn't date for two years!!!!So what is love?????