How do you cope with your kids being around ex's new partner. ? (12)
superchilli: We split 4yrs ago and my ex is still with the guy she met before we split. He basically helped break up my daughters family.
Well , he's still on the scene . Matter of fact they might even be married , no ones sure but ex has a big diamond ring yet has gone back to her maiden name, kinda weird if they did get married.
She still has a unit for her and d though and he is hardly there.
l think she spends most of her time over at his place.
My daughter also comes and goes at my place but lately , it's all about friends and now she's got a new bf and they're also together 24/7. lt's her best friends brother so she has her social life all good and wrapped up in one and they live in ex's town so it's pretty hard dragging d away lately. She's 16. My towns 20minutes over.
The bf is also caring for his sick dad and can't get away very often.
But today , l'm not on FB , l frigging despise it but l did go in to see my daughters page today.
From there l see ex in there and decide to look at hers too. l know, stupid move.
But here's pics of my daughter with them , on some trip and there's no doubt been other times too. Ex and her bf, the one that helped break up our family.
And my daughter writes you guys make such a cute couple.
Although l don't know if my daughter realizes that.
Now ex tells me they're going away for a wk , d's going too , which is sorta great bc it's usually me but l can't go away this yr so ex is taking her away for a holiday.
But l think ex's bf or whatever he is is going too. it'll be for a wk and after seeing these pictures today on FB , l feel sick to the stomach at the thought.
How do you cope with your kids around the ex's new partner or whatever ?
l've never said anything to my daughter about this guy bc until recently , unless she needed to talk to me , l just couldn't go there.
But l didn;'t know about these trips they went on , d has hidden it, that's another issue .
And although just recently we have talked about him and him and her mum a bit and broken the ice on it , she never mentioned these trips.
l dunno , the whole thing is making me feel sick.
Well , he's still on the scene . Matter of fact they might even be married , no ones sure but ex has a big diamond ring yet has gone back to her maiden name, kinda weird if they did get married.
She still has a unit for her and d though and he is hardly there.
l think she spends most of her time over at his place.
My daughter also comes and goes at my place but lately , it's all about friends and now she's got a new bf and they're also together 24/7. lt's her best friends brother so she has her social life all good and wrapped up in one and they live in ex's town so it's pretty hard dragging d away lately. She's 16. My towns 20minutes over.
The bf is also caring for his sick dad and can't get away very often.
But today , l'm not on FB , l frigging despise it but l did go in to see my daughters page today.
From there l see ex in there and decide to look at hers too. l know, stupid move.
But here's pics of my daughter with them , on some trip and there's no doubt been other times too. Ex and her bf, the one that helped break up our family.
And my daughter writes you guys make such a cute couple.
Although l don't know if my daughter realizes that.
Now ex tells me they're going away for a wk , d's going too , which is sorta great bc it's usually me but l can't go away this yr so ex is taking her away for a holiday.
But l think ex's bf or whatever he is is going too. it'll be for a wk and after seeing these pictures today on FB , l feel sick to the stomach at the thought.
How do you cope with your kids around the ex's new partner or whatever ?
l've never said anything to my daughter about this guy bc until recently , unless she needed to talk to me , l just couldn't go there.
But l didn;'t know about these trips they went on , d has hidden it, that's another issue .
And although just recently we have talked about him and him and her mum a bit and broken the ice on it , she never mentioned these trips.
l dunno , the whole thing is making me feel sick.
She's your daughter, she takes her lead from you so if you're not bringing it up I don't think she will.
My sense, she's 16, the world revolves around her and right now, and she just wants to get along. I remember when I seperated, I was supposed to have the kids every 2nd weekend but they were with me every weekend and, when it suited, during the week too. They were 12 and 9. By the time my daughter was 15 she didn't want to come
She did, but suddenly she had a life and I had to fit around her plans. In my experience daughters go away from their fathers, but they do come back. As regards partners, I found it awkward at first, but my ex is with a sound bloke for about 4 years and he gets on well with my kids, has always treated them well.
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superchilli: We split 4yrs ago and my ex is still with the guy she met before we split. He basically helped break up my daughters family.
Well , he's still on the scene . Matter of fact they might even be married , no ones sure but ex has a big diamond ring yet has gone back to her maiden name, kinda weird if they did get married.
She still has a unit for her and d though and he is hardly there.
l think she spends most of her time over at his place.
My daughter also comes and goes at my place but lately , it's all about friends and now she's got a new bf and they're also together 24/7. lt's her best friends brother so she has her social life all good and wrapped up in one and they live in ex's town so it's pretty hard dragging d away lately. She's 16. My towns 20minutes over.
The bf is also caring for his sick dad and can't get away very often.
But today , l'm not on FB , l frigging despise it but l did go in to see my daughters page today.
From there l see ex in there and decide to look at hers too. l know, stupid move.
But here's pics of my daughter with them , on some trip and there's no doubt been other times too. Ex and her bf, the one that helped break up our family.
And my daughter writes you guys make such a cute couple.
Although l don't know if my daughter realizes that.
Now ex tells me they're going away for a wk , d's going too , which is sorta great bc it's usually me but l can't go away this yr so ex is taking her away for a holiday.
But l think ex's bf or whatever he is is going too. it'll be for a wk and after seeing these pictures today on FB , l feel sick to the stomach at the thought.
How do you cope with your kids around the ex's new partner or whatever ?
l've never said anything to my daughter about this guy bc until recently , unless she needed to talk to me , l just couldn't go there.
But l didn;'t know about these trips they went on , d has hidden it, that's another issue .
And although just recently we have talked about him and him and her mum a bit and broken the ice on it , she never mentioned these trips.
l dunno , the whole thing is making me feel sick.
I see your possible dielema but you must figure it out.Well , he's still on the scene . Matter of fact they might even be married , no ones sure but ex has a big diamond ring yet has gone back to her maiden name, kinda weird if they did get married.
She still has a unit for her and d though and he is hardly there.
l think she spends most of her time over at his place.
My daughter also comes and goes at my place but lately , it's all about friends and now she's got a new bf and they're also together 24/7. lt's her best friends brother so she has her social life all good and wrapped up in one and they live in ex's town so it's pretty hard dragging d away lately. She's 16. My towns 20minutes over.
The bf is also caring for his sick dad and can't get away very often.
But today , l'm not on FB , l frigging despise it but l did go in to see my daughters page today.
From there l see ex in there and decide to look at hers too. l know, stupid move.
But here's pics of my daughter with them , on some trip and there's no doubt been other times too. Ex and her bf, the one that helped break up our family.
And my daughter writes you guys make such a cute couple.
Although l don't know if my daughter realizes that.
Now ex tells me they're going away for a wk , d's going too , which is sorta great bc it's usually me but l can't go away this yr so ex is taking her away for a holiday.
But l think ex's bf or whatever he is is going too. it'll be for a wk and after seeing these pictures today on FB , l feel sick to the stomach at the thought.
How do you cope with your kids around the ex's new partner or whatever ?
l've never said anything to my daughter about this guy bc until recently , unless she needed to talk to me , l just couldn't go there.
But l didn;'t know about these trips they went on , d has hidden it, that's another issue .
And although just recently we have talked about him and him and her mum a bit and broken the ice on it , she never mentioned these trips.
l dunno , the whole thing is making me feel sick.
Are they hiding the trips for their own peace while Vacationing???
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I'd say try and clear your head and get a girlfriend. Make your homelife something your daughter wants to know about rather than the single dads depressing and austere flat with no atmosphere. With respect I doubt that you're a man who's very easy to be around at the moment
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It's hard to digest but isn't it better that she gets on with him and goes off on holidays? It'd be worse if she despised him and if it was affecting her happiness. 
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Can't believe 2 of those , did you read anything of what l spoke of how close we are and the times we have. And how proud we are of the job we've done in all this . Or that we usually go away 3 times a year.
Do l sound like a depressing bloke .,
Don't know where that all came from it;s got nothing to do with anything.
This is about the other side of her life with mum and the new guy, that's the point. That every father in divorce has to go through and deal with,
But as a matter of fact she prefers being with me than mum bc mums damn near bi polar.
l've also just split up with a gf and have many things going on,None of that was even the issue .
And on another point , you don;t just have just anyone around your kids when they're trying to grow up in a divorced family and adjusting.
That's the worst thing you can do. You only ever let them meet that special one that you know is gonna be around hopefully for good.
The last thing they need going through this is watching stupid parents hop from person to person.
Do l sound like a depressing bloke .,
Don't know where that all came from it;s got nothing to do with anything.
This is about the other side of her life with mum and the new guy, that's the point. That every father in divorce has to go through and deal with,
But as a matter of fact she prefers being with me than mum bc mums damn near bi polar.
l've also just split up with a gf and have many things going on,None of that was even the issue .
And on another point , you don;t just have just anyone around your kids when they're trying to grow up in a divorced family and adjusting.
That's the worst thing you can do. You only ever let them meet that special one that you know is gonna be around hopefully for good.
The last thing they need going through this is watching stupid parents hop from person to person.
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Thanks for that.
And yeah , l guess , of course it has to be better really , l know.
But yeah despite anything in my life which has nothing to do with this , it is still hard to digest for sure.
Matter of fact , ex actually ran down a girl l was seeing, 3 or 4 times to d.
So nope , it's not just me or a problem of mine , she even has it too and l've also spoken and been through this with 100s of other dads and there ain't too many that like the stuff l've talked about , even after yrs and yrs.much longer than me.
So l do know it's not just me.
l've also spoken to 100s of women in the same club where their kids are going of to ex's and his new gf's and the like and believe me they do not like it one iota either.
And yeah , l guess , of course it has to be better really , l know.
But yeah despite anything in my life which has nothing to do with this , it is still hard to digest for sure.
Matter of fact , ex actually ran down a girl l was seeing, 3 or 4 times to d.
So nope , it's not just me or a problem of mine , she even has it too and l've also spoken and been through this with 100s of other dads and there ain't too many that like the stuff l've talked about , even after yrs and yrs.much longer than me.
So l do know it's not just me.
l've also spoken to 100s of women in the same club where their kids are going of to ex's and his new gf's and the like and believe me they do not like it one iota either.
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And the other missed point has been what some of the others right here have said about their kids going into this kind of age.
Same.
Same.
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My daughter got a new bf. I checked his FB, and he said, she left him, and called off their wedding.
I felt bad for the guy, and told him she loved him... but I agree they should wait; because, she's so young.
When he saw that I fully supported her position... he deleted what I told him, and accused me of harassing him, and stalking them.
He played my daughter into getting back with him, and avoiding me, and any emotional support I have for her.
Before you can be accused of stalking, you need to release the whole situation, and wait for your daughter to come around.
One mistake you don't want to make, would be to convince you're daughter to judge you and your situation.
The peer pressure she's experiencing means, she's not likely to be very charitable about you checking up on mom, mom's bf, her, and her bf.
My friend tells his son, I heard you were at the mall.
His son asks, "Why are you having me watched?"
When they want their independence, they take any intrusion like it's a total invasion.
Welcome to the real world.
I felt bad for the guy, and told him she loved him... but I agree they should wait; because, she's so young.
When he saw that I fully supported her position... he deleted what I told him, and accused me of harassing him, and stalking them.
He played my daughter into getting back with him, and avoiding me, and any emotional support I have for her.
Before you can be accused of stalking, you need to release the whole situation, and wait for your daughter to come around.
One mistake you don't want to make, would be to convince you're daughter to judge you and your situation.
The peer pressure she's experiencing means, she's not likely to be very charitable about you checking up on mom, mom's bf, her, and her bf.
My friend tells his son, I heard you were at the mall.
His son asks, "Why are you having me watched?"
When they want their independence, they take any intrusion like it's a total invasion.
Welcome to the real world.
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It's been 4 yrs you say. Move on.
Yes you have a daughter luckily she's nearly at adult age, how about you focus on being a good role model for her.
Don't occupy yourself with what the ex and bf are doing it isn't any of your business if you have a good relationship with the daughter don't do anything immature to stuff it up..
It hurts but dwelling on the past won't get you anywhere and will only keep the cut fresh. You got to heal.
Yes you have a daughter luckily she's nearly at adult age, how about you focus on being a good role model for her.
Don't occupy yourself with what the ex and bf are doing it isn't any of your business if you have a good relationship with the daughter don't do anything immature to stuff it up..
It hurts but dwelling on the past won't get you anywhere and will only keep the cut fresh. You got to heal.
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Do you ever hear a small voice in your head? telling you...
"You're not the only man to lose a child." "Get over it!"
I did.
Pay attention to it.
"You're not the only man to lose a child." "Get over it!"
I did.
Pay attention to it.
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Well , he's still on the scene . Matter of fact they might even be married , no ones sure but ex has a big diamond ring yet has gone back to her maiden name, kinda weird if they did get married.
She still has a unit for her and d though and he is hardly there.
l think she spends most of her time over at his place.
My daughter also comes and goes at my place but lately , it's all about friends and now she's got a new bf and they're also together 24/7. lt's her best friends brother so she has her social life all good and wrapped up in one and they live in ex's town so it's pretty hard dragging d away lately. She's 16. My towns 20minutes over.
The bf is also caring for his sick dad and can't get away very often.
But today , l'm not on FB , l frigging despise it but l did go in to see my daughters page today.
From there l see ex in there and decide to look at hers too. l know, stupid move.
But here's pics of my daughter with them , on some trip and there's no doubt been other times too. Ex and her bf, the one that helped break up our family.
And my daughter writes you guys make such a cute couple.
Although l don't know if my daughter realizes that.
Now ex tells me they're going away for a wk , d's going too , which is sorta great bc it's usually me but l can't go away this yr so ex is taking her away for a holiday.
But l think ex's bf or whatever he is is going too. it'll be for a wk and after seeing these pictures today on FB , l feel sick to the stomach at the thought.
How do you cope with your kids around the ex's new partner or whatever ?
l've never said anything to my daughter about this guy bc until recently , unless she needed to talk to me , l just couldn't go there.
But l didn;'t know about these trips they went on , d has hidden it, that's another issue .
And although just recently we have talked about him and him and her mum a bit and broken the ice on it , she never mentioned these trips.
l dunno , the whole thing is making me feel sick.