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I need advice.I met this girl online and we agreed to try this "long distance relationship" till one of us could move.
also,she has a 2 in a half year old daughter.is it wise for me to get into a relationship with someone who has a kid(im only 19)?is it wise for me to try a long distance relationship(im in michigan,shes in oklahoma.)?what do yall think?

Hi long and welcome to the forums. If you are asking then it might mean that you are unsure. Sounds like second thoughts which might be an indication of no.

exactly.if you have to ask you aint ready.

doncha just love her! Jax scores again! so nice make a little trip some weekend or maybe i am crazy is it waaay far?


friendship is something ya don't build overnight and is the best foundation for any relationship....take your time be an artist use imagination hone those romantic skills practice here in Jax's school for the blind and deaf lol just kidding

hey jax!!! maybe we should start a course in courtship!!!

maybe we could get the blind to see and the deaft to listen!!!

NO NO NO!!!! they just plain dont work.

never say never...bad juju

lol

ive been in a few and some work out and some dont rarely do they but if the love is stonrg enuff it can it all depends on how u feel aout her.

andthe kid thing if u dont feel comfortable with the kid its probabaly not a ood idea trust me im 19 i have no kids but i love kids so i can easily get along with a girl who has kids

nicely put...

One hard thing is how the kids react....And, how we show them being human...
There are ways to work with it all, but it is not easy at all. My son is ohhh roughly 7 handfuls...Both my kids have been through alot...Only thing I can say for sure is I've done my best. They see me cry, laugh, get angry...and they see how a real adult deals with tragedy, heartbreak...Not the end...But, if that person did not like kids? No way. Never. Priorities...We all make mistakes. Hopefully we teach them how to handle them for when it's thier turn at life...

shit, lecture again, LOL.

Have you met in person???

If you have never met in person, this is a question????????

Hell, I would hope so. Be sorta pointless to go forward without it...and, kids involved? Adult with no kids are responsible for themselves. Those with, a whole other matter...more to consider...

The thing is guyz,ur right.ive never met this girl in person(though i plan on it).but i feel a connection with her(and her kid).i really like her and she feels the same way about me.im just a little nervous about long distance relationships.how we act in person is sometimes different then what we act like in person.im willin to try,but even the BEST relationships have some uncertainty.i just wanna know what yall think?is it wise 4 me to try?exspecially when im tryin to put my life back together.i made alot of mistakes in my teen years and am now tryin to pick up the peices.is it wise 4 me to try this??

I dunno what your curcumstances are...mistakes as a teen? Not sure what that means, either since you are 19 now...Noone can give you an answer as to whether you should, or not. Up to you. (well, they could tell ya...lol). There are just so many variables...How long have you known each other, how often have to talked...webcams? phone?
Never met? Why not go for a visit or two first.
I don't have the answers...I don't know you or her...
Wish I could help you more.

I met someone (coincidentally from Oklahoma) last winter and she and I met earlier this summer for a few days - no LTR going on, although it's been considered on both sides and I won't say yes or no as it is now.
Considering you're from Michigan, and the entire midwest is of the devil, I say move there, move anywhere, just got out of there - but if in fact you (or she) moves to get closer (and odds are it would be you since she has a kid - who has a dad I'm assuming), don't get too crazy. You're 19. Do yourself and the world around you a favor, and live a little (that's coming from someone who initially married as a teen 40 zillion years ago).

Long distance relationships are one of, if not the toughest type of relationship. If you can survive it, then being together will be a breeze. I know of several couples that have gone the long distance route and are now happily married. Some met in online games and others have met in places like this.
The last long distance relationship I had was over 2 1/2 years before we met in person. The entire week she was here was the best and neither one of us wanted it to end. I've mentioned this a couple times in other threads.
I'm now kicking myself in the ass for not waiting longer when she disappeared for two months after her father died.

i would meet her, and continue talking.i would hope she wont introduce junior until she is sure.Hopefully you dont have a problem with the ex being in her life because if he' a good daddy then you'll see a lot of him. I would do a background check also. it's a long way to move to be f@#$%ked over.As for past mistakes,everybody makes them,just learn from them and dont repeat them.At nineteen you shouldn't be tying yourself down anyway.you should be backpacking around Europe or doing the stuff you want to do while your bones dont creak.lol good luck with this but proceed with caution cause the world is loaded with dog shit and you dont want to step in any,lol

Alex ,your alright girl,lol

Hi! Since you're only 19, believe me...Long distance relationships do not work, unless, you're wealthy! Especially, with the price of gasoline, you'd be crazy to attempt such a venture. And, if you're working, when would you have the time to travcel?
And, to willingly accept another man's child, at your age, would be most foolish. You'll have your whole life ahead of you and, your own children will be enough!
It seems you're too willing to hang on to a woman, no matter the strings attached......Re-think your priorities!

Sydney, you make a good devil's advocate to the voices of reason. :)

well hun looks like you got alot there. in my opinion i dont think its a good idea for you to try a long distance relationship. its too stressful and hard. when it comes to a relationship its not supossed to be that hard. remember this if it doesnt come easy let it go. good luck.

Im gettin a vibe from u guyz.According to some of u,long distance relationships dont work.but,some say they do.ur right.i am young.i got my whle life ahead of me.but i want a nice young ladie to spend some time with.as 4 her kid,i know who its father is.he is a marine stationed in Iraq.the kid thing dosent bother me.ive been in relationships with women who have had kids.most reciently,i broke up with my girlfriend of a year in a half.she had 2 kids(twins).when we broke up,it was hard on them.i grew VERY attached to the kids.im just sorta afraid of the same thing happenin here(by the way,i broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago).and the long distance is something else im worried about..but we both have alot in comman.we like the same music,both r recovering drug addicts,and we like the same things.i plan on going down to oklahoma to see her over spring break.im not really worried about the kid situation,its just the distance im worried about.