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If you can wait til spring break to meet her, more power too you; by then if you're still both thinking the same thoughts, go for it. Just remember if you commit to moving there you'll be starting over again (not that that can be too difficult at 19). On a positive note, you'll be getting out of the midwest, and I'd applaud you for that.

the greatest thing about being young is the crazy energy. It lets you drive the miles, build up the bank to pay the airfare.....

If it feels good, do it. But I can tell you from experience that you best have a firm common ground, great communication and a goal for further on down the road or else the "spell" fades....

As Jackie puts it too, if you're questioning your own motives....then that should be an indicator of yeh or ney...

hi guys, i think long distance relationships work if you both compromize and if all goes well then arrrange to meet then see what happens, if you click straight away then your onto a winner if not then well you move on, but i believe they can work iven time and money to see each other if your that much into eqach other

"Hello, long distance. How is Mrs. Long Distance and all those little distances between?" Barry Sherman

well with the gas prices the way they are ,a close man is my aim unless someone is willing to come here.

I must interject. Ok, I did. :)

Hey there, from expertice, long distance relationships don't work. They will for a bit until one partner has had enough. I was engaged to a German whom lived in my town at the time. He later moved back to Germany to quit the army and ended up cheating on my 7 days later. Now believe it or not, we talk to this day, and pulls the same crap with me ( flirting, wanting to come see me, sending me pics ) that he pulled before. So now he's being unfaithful to his girlfriend now that broke us up!!!

Well, I do believe that long distance relationships have as good of a chance as close distance relationships. I know of several people who had long distance relationships work out beautifully. People who met as pen pals from different states. Many of these individuals went on to get married are still married to date. So long as you are cautious and use care and common sense… as with any new relationship. You may find it woks out just fine.

whoa, wait a minute. You had a girl two weeks ago, broke up with her and now your in love again. Oh, wait a minute again; you are 19. All right perritzo reign in that wild heart a little bit. First of all REBOUND, need I say more.(I will!) You hardly know this chick, and your willing to turn everything upside down for her. Well, you lack nothing in passion. On one hand your 19, go live a little; explore, and if it doesn't work out. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Unless she is a bunny cooking, ankle breaking freak. Which you might wanna get to know her. For instance, what is her fav color, or movie, or meal, song, etc. If you just got out of a relationship, your heart is lonely, you have the overwhelming feeling that something wrong with you, you feel like you will be alone forever, blah, blah blah blaaaaaaaah. Chill out. Don't get all caught up in something to quick, because even foolish love is blind (more so in my experience) and you might not be a "fit". But to keep from being lonely you will ignore all the warning signs that you might normally see. Spring Break is a great idea, get to know her more first. Then go see her if all is well.


Oh yeah, you mentioned being former drug addicts. Being 19 I'll guess you stopped recently. Find something that alcoholics refer to as "the big book" and read page 69. It will help in your decision making.

Any sort of long distant relationships are tough! Rather it be a friend or potential mate.....the distance SUCKS and it's hard in times of need for both people. Good luck to you....follow your heart, if you don't, you will always wonder what might have been....

Thanks 2 good. I have big book in front of me.

Wishes and dreams, hopes...yup.
I donno anymore, really. Remains to be seen...literaly

i think you need to take it slow. having just gotten out of a relationship, i think you're still vunerable. i pray to god long distance relationships work, because i'm going through the same thing you are, but i'm not really in a rush to meet the guy. it's nice talking to him online and "talking" to him on the phone. but i'm gonna wait until there's no doubt in my mind before i make the move. i'll repeat that. i'm gonna wait until there's NO DOUBT IN MY MIND!!!!!! if you're second guessing yourself, you probably should wait awhile. i know for a fact i'm gonna wait AT LEAST a month!*lol*

I hope to hell so, too. Because NH is on the edge of freakin' nowhere, lmaooo.

I hear what you said. Gave a month myself...dunno. Ya find out much in that time. But, not always.

So how is the Midwest "of the devil"??

anyway, I haven't had any relationships work, close or far, so I couldn't tell ya one way or the other.

Of course, my definiton of "working" is that it doesn't end, so your mileage may vary...

yeah, right...talk, talk...:P

ok.yall wre right.long distance relationships dont work out.last weekend i went down to meet her in person,and ended comin back home the same day.i wont go into details,but i will tell yall this,she acted like she didnt know me.i was in oklahoma for only as long as it took me to find her house and drive away from it.yall were right(that sucks,i hate being wrong)LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS DONT WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, hon.

That one didn't work...It takes alot ofwork, communication (and, we do f*** up, make mistakes...just like any relationship - just harder with distance between), communication, and more communication.
You're young...Lots of milage left in ya...Gotta vent, go for it...

Wow man; tough decision for you to make. I have tried to do the long distance thing before, and it didn't go well for me. Ultimately you will take alot of advice from alot of people, but you will end up listening to your heart. How strong are your feelings for her?

Her daughter has a father, and grandparents?? If so, you would probably be the one to move?? You are VERY young, and just learning about life, and what you want to do with your life. Do you want to go to college... Good relationships start with friendships. You can get to know eachother without labeling it. How old is she? Did she have a child at a young age? If so, why? Think before you act. I had a long distance relationship for about two years. It all depends on the individuals. Does she have a support system at home? Does she need a relationship because she has a child. Having a child changes your world, and hopefully your outlook. You will meet many people in your life. I am 41, and still single, but I don't just want someone-I want "the one". Think about it, while you still have time.