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I mean, if she had been faithful and nice she would still be "my girl". Welcome to both sides of this coin. I just wanna hear some opinions.
Don't women realise we are just protecting ourselves?

Your a brave little soul.....hold on okay, we got lot's of fiesty chicks in here!! LOL!!

BTW....i agree, she should have been faithful.....doesnt happen much anymore you know!

I some what agree...one me be able to justify what's still true in what was left of the relationship...you don't wanna find out 3 yrs later that the child isn't yours!!!

oh, I know y'all gonna rip me apart. I just ask that after the fur flies, you try and help me understand why. So go ahead ladies, let me have it. You know it would be nice if a guy or two said something for our side of the gene pool

I don't want to make $300 a month payments on someone else's baby either.
And if the baby isn't mine, I don't EVER have to talk to her AGAIN

I dedicate this from mario to ya homie...its called "how could you" heres a part in the song you might like...

Song: but I guess my all wasn't good enough for you....I accepted and aint gon trip-girl I'm moving, sometimes I can't help but think that another man-is get the girl made me....yeeaah...

well that is true if she was faithful I could see being upset over having a paternity test but if she was not in all honesty she has no reason to be mad


I am going through that shit now sons dad is a dead beat and after doing paternity papers in court 9 years later he wants a paternity test thats just a ploy so he can stall on paying child support what a jerk

Yeah he is a jerk...I'll beat him up for lol...

sweet I hold his ASS down you just have fun beating him

My pleasure, I know what its like up growin up without a dad but with my mothers love, this is one guy who will be the best for his women....

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I would sure as hell get one done if I was her. Dunno what the laws are there, but with you can request it by law. She's already proven unfaithful, right?
Sad as it is, there are women that do this to men. F***ing stupid, but there ya go.

I have loved children that were not mine but would still like to know. There was a questionable doubt on my daughter Vanessa and a friend thought it was his and could of been some other guy beside us two according to him. But when I saw her there was no question in my mind she was mine. For each case an unique viewpoint.

truth is I feel guilty about it. The baby doesn't know what a W#*~re his mom is. I have wanted a child for a long time, just want to make sure it's mine. The courts hardly ever side with the father getting custody, and her parents have plenty of cash to front for a lawyer. I'm a broke college student struggling through recovery. She just got a DUI last month with both kids in the back seat. Of course, the courts are dropping the child neglect/abuse charges so she can just keep on going. Unfair, she resents parenthood; wants to [party, and I just want to be dad again. Should I feel guilty?

Feel guilt about what? Wanting the child to have a home, and sense of family? No, that is what kids have to have. You can only try, hon. If this is what you want, try. You do have a right to paternity testing.

If she was unfaithful she has not right to be angry, my ex partner was screwing behind my back but he had the CHEEK to say that I was the one who was unfaithful.

I dont agree with anyone who is unfaithful getting on their high horse, they want to be unfaithful they should be prepared for the fall out.

THere are many cases that I would agree that the man took the kids if they are his, if not then its up to the mother to find the real father (IF they know who it was).

Dont feel guilty about wanting to provide the kids a stable home, and love that you can give them. If they had stuck with the DUI, and stuck with all the other cases brought before them then more justice would be done.

ALright man here goes nothing.....I had the same thoughts myself when my first son was born his mom was the town WH*RE and i denied that he was mine up until the day he was born and as soon as i saw his face I knew deep in my heart that he was mine. You should be able to tell no matter what if that baby is yours. even if it doesnt look exactly like you, you should know, its nature. But If you have one doubt in your mind that it might not be yours. Do what would be best for you and the child. I dont care what the mom done to you. that baby deserves a dad and if you are the best that he has to a father then so be it. Thats just my opinion. I love kids and would take in anyones kids if i knew that i would have a greater impact on their life then their own parents.

Well said Etehndad, but here is the thing. I am about to move almost 1000 miles away. I raised her first baby as though it was mine. So I feel the same about kids, but I won,t be in the area again. I don't like this part of the world. So I hope to get the test before I leave in three weeks. Thanks for commenting though bro.