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well she's in oklahoma now...that was almost 3 trs ago....as for her....she aint commin back....in the light of divorce # 2 it still kinda hounts me..what she did to those kids....after she left...all she could say to her teen daughters was" well, dont u wantme to be happy?"...as for her future...well...he was 15 yrs younger..shes now 43....it was a sex based relationship but theyve been married for 3 yrs so who knoews...i still dont see it lasting mno matter how it looks.

I hate to be negative here, but I really can't even begin to comprehend the idea of cheating with respect to any relationship I've even been in, or will be in.

I mean, I just don't date people who are that shallow. I only date women who so open you can see to the very foundation of their soul. Not to imply that they aren't still a mystery, or that it's easy to know them in their entirety. Not at all. In fact, women who aren't extremely complex don't even interest me.

But at the same time they open themselves up to me in a way that I can know them like as if we have been lifelong friends. Perhaps it might have something to do with the fact that I also open myself up for them. The idea that someone you know that well would cheat on you is just beyond my comprehension. Some have called my naïve but I've never been burnt and a lack of complete open trust is something that I just can't even begin to deal with.

So I'm at a total loss to understand how any couple could cheat on each other. To me it just implies that they never really knew each other. Either that, or they did KNOW and just refused to move on for whatever reasons. I think if I met a woman that I really cared about and I knew that she wasn't capable of monogamy, instead of trying to pretend that she could be I'd either accept that as the way things are going to be and maybe even arrange for an open relationship so she wouldn't have to lie about it, or I'd have to walk away.

Personally I really don't want a woman who has that kind of nature. To be like that means that she's lacking the ability to really get to know me and share with me on the deepest possible level. Since this is a very important part of what I'm looking for in a partner the type of women who would cheat just don't appeal to me in the first place.

So I can't even begin to comprehend being in a relationship where cheating would even be an issue at all. I hear a lot about it and I even have trouble understanding how it can be such a common thing in the world. It just doesn't even make any sense to me at all.

Though I have never been cheated on. My work place is teaming with people cheating on their spouses. The funny part is they don't even try to hide it. These people really ire me. That's as low as it gets. I also know the spouses of these people. They are good people and they deserve better than this. Boy could I do some damage around there or what ?

Work place affairs. Imagine what these people are going to feel like when these things go south. Some of them actually sit at the next desk to each other.

Twice. It's not only a disgusting thing to do to someone, it's also very dishonourable ,even to those doing it; the worst is arranging it so as to make sure the other person walks in on it while they are going at it...vile and low class...

Never, and if they did, than to hell with um. Yup

i have never cheated on any one and will never cause thats just not me and if my exhubby did i hope he enjoyed it cause now he has been through 2 divorces and never sees his kids and as far as who or whatever is is with now i hope they tear his insides apart(his heart and soul)


laurie

nope not me either...

but i guess i don't count cuz i never wanted a conventional format for my relationships

don't need to cheat when you have freedom and good communication...
and me!!! lmao!!!!

PEOPLE CHEAT BECAUSE WE ALLOW THEM TO CHEAT. LET ME EXPLAIN; IF WE NO LONGER CARE ABOUT A PERSON AND THE RELATIONSHIP IS GOING DOWN HILL OR WE TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED THEN WE ALLOW THEM TO CHEAT OR LOOK FOR SOMETHING ELSE(LIKE THE MARRIED PTA MOM, LIKE MY EX-HUSBAND DID)
ONCE YOU DON'T WORK ON THE RELATIONSHIP IT FLOUNDERS, YOU HAVE TO WANT TO BE WITH THE OTHER PERSON.
PEOPLE ALWAYS THINK THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE OUT THERE SO THEY LOOK AND MOST OF THE TIME TOUCH.

Ive only had 2 boyfriends, the first i was with for 3 1/2 years and throughout that time he cheated on me numorous times, i could never understand why, i mean i did everything i possible could to make him happy and it just never seemed to be enough. needless to say we arent together anymore! lol I just dont understand men sometimes, and why they do the things they do!

Have I ever been cheated on...hahaha! Does a bear shit in the woods?

This whole dating thing is just statring to SUCK!!!!!! Just my jaded opinion.....

Apes

HAHAHAHA I hear ya Apes! Do I need to bring out my Louisville slugger again?

Ya bring out your beater stick Kick some a...ss Lilly

I think sometimes people may cheat because they are with someone who doesn't trust and they get accused and say, "well if I'm going to be accused of it, I might as well". Some people don't even mind if their significant other cheats because they have a good thing (financially) and don't want to lose it or they don't want to be bothered all the time for sex. My ex husband had affairs on me. I should of never married him anyway because I caught him cheating when we were going out (duh), But I was pregnant and young and inexperienced and there were other circumstances I'd rather not get into. I honestly believe that in rare circumstances people only make that mistake once and should be forgiven if they prove they are trustable. I never really did trust him after that...lol. Oh well, live and learn the hard way.

yes i have been cheated on with more than one person and more than once with each of them..........why is that

Maybe you are attracted to the "Bad Boys"?

well maybe it is a self-estem issue if you don't think yourself worthy of loyalty then why would someone else

just a thought

but what do i know

I despise cheaters too. I've had it happen to me by more than one girlfriend. I've never cheated.
The 2 worst was finding out about my recent ex, who was my fiance, and being at a party with an ex. I didn't find out about my ex-fiance untill after we split. I was suspicious, but I don't think I ever let myself believe it could be going on. The ex at the party was messed up. I met her there, at one of her friends house. I was outside with a few people, and went inside to find she was in the bedroom with some guy. I was more than ready to beat the guy's ass, but there was like 5 of his friends there, and I was by myself. I can hold my own, but 6 on 1 isn't good odds.
It's sad to see this happens all the time. I can't believe the lack of commitment out there. I don't give second chances, especially to cheaters.

Alot of times I think we are in denial until we get hit in the face with it. Trust IS suppose to be the basis of a good relationship. As far as beating the guys ass....why? I could see if he was a friend or knew that you two were a couple then...maybe..lol. One day Before we split up for good, my ex husband comes running in the house on his lunch break.Evidentally he had messed around with a co worker and her boyfriend found out. The guy told John he called me and told me but he didn'r. LOL... I ended up finding out from my ex accidentally. Later on I find a note stuck in the door telling me all about it. I got home with all 3 kids from grocery shopping and there is the guy and his girlfriend parked out in the street. I walked upto him and asked him what he was doing. He proceeded to tell me what my husband did and that he needed his a** kicked. I just told him that I already knew and "yes he is am a**hole at times, I agree but I think you better look at your girlfriend too, she's just as guilty". I told him to stop bothering me bothering me and that was that....lol.

i had my exwife cheat on me with my brother ouch but what relly @#@@@# me off was why she did it she hates my brother and always has she did it directly to hurt me over an insegnifecunt [sorry cant spell] argument we had over somthing that relly isnt important the woman hade searious vengance issues the last coupel of years where the worst had to walk on egg shells to keep things calm finlly told her enough is enough and sent her packing and somehow now im the badguy.

Adj, are you sure you are not german? How precise, LOL

Lene shit happens, but it´s always the matter how we deal with it. Great personality.