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Okay, I have read at least 50 profiles of women here and they all say the sme things. I want someone caring, someone kind, someone who realises my kids come first (the sexiest thing a single mother can say), someone who is real, someone faithful, someone with a personality, and on and on. You get the picture. I haven't checked the guy's, but I'm pretty sure the same thing on our side.
Okay, so we are all looking for about the same general qualities. Check. I am going to assume we are all on the same page still.

So what are the rest of the qualities, the actual criteria for deciding you are attracted to a person. I wish these forums could be anonymous so we could get some uncensored truth, but this will have to do. What specific things make a man/woman stand out from the rest of the pack?

I mean, are the women on here looking for the multi-millionaire, Fabio-look-alike guy that donates his time to a children's hospital and the NY Fire Department? (yeah, like that guy EVER sleeps alone!)

Are all the guys on here looking for the Sandra Bullock-look-alike who works at a vehicle customizing joint, plays tennis to keep fit, and can whip up a home made batch of hot wings in 15 minutes?
(by the way, if you are this girl; my number is 555-yeaah f*#kin right. give me a call tomorrow at 10 am.)

Personally, for me looks don't matter as much as personality does. I'm one ugly guy, so I think it would be shallow to only date "barbies".

She must be soft, warm, sweet smelling, and breathing. Ok! Ok! Breathing is enough. LOL

Personally, I feel that there are several
factors involved:

I believe there has to be a connection between
values, traits, feelings, & work ethics.
Then there is the visual thing going on.
"The Looks.." aaaahhhh! But you see, what I
find sexy and cute may be a turnoff for
someone else..

Most guys I have dated want to bed me the same
night as our first meeting / date.

So then the story goes on..
and now here i am again.

He must be harder than me, smell as good as me,
and enjoy laughing (even at self~ or all by self!)

yea, and he must love Music! Dogs!

Gee, with all these two requirements: breathing and a personality?
I could set you up with my friends Golden Retriever. Hope you like red hair.

Len, lol, still the x, even with picture. Are you brand x, lol? Len, I like the picture, cool. Allen, you are not ugly and cut that stuff out. You will get me downing myself, too. 2b a real person like you stands out from the pack cause you are being yourself. 2b I don't your real name. Evie is a good person and a good friend.

Roy

My problem... my standards far exceed my means. (grins) I have to be physically emotionally and SPIRITUALLY attracted to her... and she has to understand me, and I her, as no one else ever could, has, or will.

And breathing is good too.
Definite perk.

:)

Doesn't seem like much, but by GOD you'd be surprised. I'm more likely to get struck by lightening, live, buy a lotto ticket, win, and then watch the white sox face the cubs in the World Series.

Ever.

(grins, winks) Sorry to anyone from chicago... it was solely a hypothetical illustration, I swear!

- D.

I know I am personally not looking for some rich guy or Fabio guy. To me looks aren't the important thing. Who that person is inside can make that person the most attractive person you have ever laid eyes on. I think most women just name off some of the basics in their profile. But you need to feel a connection with a person. And you have to be able to accept that person for who they are faults, regrets and all.

special...

Deciding to attract someone will kill it right there. what that thought must look like...

gawd~i feel so misunderstood..
When I say connection between values:One thing I
value is Kindness.Therefore,When I see another person having kindness towards self & others I feel a connection.
Traits = quality:one similar trait would be less
judgemental towards self & others, and more accepting of
our mortalness.(mistakes)

That first date is important. It means I gave you a chance
and you gave me a chance. Now lets explore one another's
minds to see if maybe a relationship has a chance. If you
want a one night stand then go down to the strip on main
street.
Now this is for 2good..I'd take that Golden Retriever
in a heartbeat.That way I can breed her with MY friend's
Golden Retriever and make at least a couplea grand..$$
That beats you all ta h** with ya old looken face, ragged
out truck and dump ofa crib in the sticks!
Now isn't that 2bad..

yea..and in my mortalness / humanity
i forgot one:

Work ethics: I work at a job every day,
so my work ethics say that (after work)
I play.
I have a good time.
I have some fun.
Get it?
~~now..
~~back in the box..!

I've got criteria looks-wise. I'm short, 5'4" so it would be weird dating anyone too much taller than myself - my ex-wife was 5'7", and loved to wear 3" heels. Even cutting her feet off wouldn't have helped much.
I'm thin too, so again preference-wise I'd idealistically like to find someone my size; even rail thin is fine to me.
Agewise anything within 10 yrs, just so I'm on the same page mentally/sexually, etc. I couldn't date anyone too much younger than myself because experience to me is key, and I don't see reliving a bunch of adolescent-like mistakes.
I don't care if she's Hot or Not, I've dated/married both; but she's got to walk the walk, not talk the talk. If she claims she doesn't watch much t.v., or she loves biking, she'd better live up to it. I do.

Girlnextdoor, your words: And you have to be able to accept that person for who they are faults, regrets and all.
My reply to those words: Both must share that.

Roy

Actually mustluvtouchinhimself, I was talking about the two replies above you. At least I can show my face. How bad do you look that you hide yourself?????? Anytime you feel froggy enough to jump we can take our squabbles to the middle of the street. Weak minded individual who has to feebily attempt to make himself feel better, by trying to ineffecttually cut me down. About the house, its a friends. And about the truck, it's paid for baby, and that isn't my only ride homeboy. I got titles on all three of my rides, how much are your payments? CAN YOU SAY AS MUCH?

Now for the rest of the people that can conversate without starting sh#t. Very good, we are getting somewhere. The whole point of this was to bring out what we as a whole are looking for in potential mates.

So if the people who try to make up for their inequities would kindly go back into their demented little shells, I'll get on with it.-----------

In my quest, I hope to find someone who understand my love for the arts, and as lonfg as I am dreaming; it would work out great if she had vocal talent and could beat the skins off a full set of drums. I look for ambition, I have an insatiable desire to achieve recognition in my lifetime. Monetary means are well and all, but to be remembered after death is the highest honor. I keep an eye out for females with a good maternal instinct. This means putting the childs welfare above her own materialistic wants. If a woman is a good mother, I'll do whatever necessary to get the paper for her wants. Making money has never been a problem for me.

Above all, I have added good morale fibre to the list. This combined with personality make for an awesome trait. If I had someone who carries my values, ansd could walk into a party and be known by most everyone in the crowd when we leave like I do. Man, could we take this world by storm.

More than anything, I want someone loyal to the cause. Our cause, the whole "US as a Couple" thing. When I eat, all of my peoples are fed. If someone I know is in a fix, they know I will do everything in my power to help them out. I'm just not sure the other gender carries this sense of tribe that I do. All the females I see are catty. Don't none of them work together to accomplish things. Always chasing drama like it makes them feel better to see the other girl suffer.

Mustluv, I'm gonna pray for you. Obviously you have insecurity issues and need it.

I'm not startin' nothin', lol

Wow, you. Very nice. Morals, huh? Yeah, not much of that goin' around, trust me...

It has been brought to my attention that I might have offended people who choose not to display their pictures. Sorry, that was not my intent. Please accept my aplogies.

Mustluv, I let you bait me into an argument once, but I refuse to play anymore. Any further communicade from you will be ignored. Feel free to blast me all you want, show everyone who you really are...............................

ok people... let's play nice.


can't we all just get along!!!!!

this one is easy. She has to like trucks, Harleys, tattoos, and oh yea, rednecks. Seriously, someone that will be honest, not just with me, but herself. Plus, she might wear my cowboy hat to bed. YEE HAAAAAWWWWW!!!

sure tinkerbell, i'll get along with you. But you didn't say what you were looking for........................

Looks like i owe apologies to 2good2bbad. And
I tell you i am sorry for the insult, and for
hurting your feelings..I was wrong. You can
ignore it if you want, but at least i know when
i make a mistake, and ready to admit it in front
of all...You ~jus keep going the way you are and
forget i said anything. won't bother you again.
~Jus let you know I have worked all my life, and
I own alot of stuff outright including my now
four year old car.Alot of people have said things
to hurt my feelings for whatever reasons, and I
was wrong to think you were one of them.Even though
you may ignore this.. I hope you will find the one
who will rock your world (in more ways than one).
You sound like you got your head together.
You know what you want~that's half the battle.
so, here i am with another mistake (regret)..
~gawd..it feels like another pie in my
face..'cept no one's laughing..
sorry mister~
mustluvmusic