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Do you date more than one person at a time? If so, how many at a time do you date?

If you are dating more than one, do you have sex with all dating partners? (not at the same time..I know what you were thinking..)

I only date one person at a time, and need feedback on what other people do. Thanks.

when i was younger, when i was 16 or so, i was seeing a few guys at once, but i never slept with any of them. ive grown up now and theres only 1 person i want to be with.

Thanks for the input Deb.

This sounds like a problem one of my dear friends had recently. I explained that dating more than 1 person IS good. You get a feel for different people and narrow down your choices. As long as you are honest with them and let them know you are "seeing" other people...when you both know the time is right, you can declare you are "exclusive".

I only dated one man at a time and it limited my "choices". I recently scrapped that idea and I'm glad I did. I met a wonderful man and yes...we are not exclusive.

Everyone is different in what they want and feel comfortable with. What's right for one is not always for the next person.

I wish you all the best in determining what you want....and WHO!

Oooooops! I hope he doesn't read this! We ARE exclusive....as far as I know.

Thanks Rebecca--great advice!!!

This is a tough one. There are lots of serial daters out there and that's ok as long as the people they are dating don't get hurt. Most serial daters are either players, or really socialable, or they just haven't found the right one to committ too. If the people they date aren't into that, they should be told up front that it's open, no strings attached....

That is true..you have to be up front with the people involved--thanks Jane.

I am going to have to choose my words carefully on this topic....

I don't see a problem with dating more than one person at a time as long as everyone knows about the other person. As long as everyone acts like adults and not psycho stalkers, should be ok. I really don't want a serious relationship now so I don't want that commitment.

As for the sex...well if they are mature enough and we both want it, why not? It doesnt mean I will sleep with every man that I date, but if happens, it happens.

When I am in a serious relationship, then ofcourse I will only date and sleep with him.

no problem

It seems alot of people don't have a problem with it as long as all parties know and nothing is serious yet.

Scarlett--after it gets serious with someone and you are dating another, how do you tell them they are out?

If it is exclusive, Just him then.

I only date one woman at a time, I just don't like splitting my energy in these matters. I do not expect every woman I date to stop seeing other people immediately, but I do admit to having a very low tolerance for "standing in line".


As for sex,

I find the idea of having sex with a woman that has other partners...

distastefull.

Let me see if I can make this make sense.....If I am dating two men at once, and they both don't care about it, then I would not want to be serious with them. It would just be dating, going out, etc.

It has happened...when I meet someone and fall in love. When that happens I stop seeing others before I see the man I love. I stop things with my 'dates' before I become serious with the one I love because I would not want to hurt him.

I could not love a man who does not love me enough to care if I am with another man.

Thanks Ocee, Kellydenise and Scarlett for your opinions. Some say it is acceptable as long as it isn't too serious. A couple only date one at a time like me.

I think there is a difference in going out on a date and dating somebody. If I meet someody that I would like to go out with again, I will give that person the respect of concentrating on him solely.

This is a new era--internet dating. We all have met someone online and took time and chatted with them for a while before actually meeting them. If you chat for a month Stacy, and then go out on a date, is it just a date, or are you dating?

I only date one at a time, there is only one person for me!

wow. i find that hard to believe. if its true then you are on the few left...thats good thou!

any luck yet?