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Royston772 East Yorkshire, West Yorkshire, England UK

Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:24 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Hi Royston,

I just wanted to drop you a note to explain my rubbishness because I really want you to know about some stuff before it hits the ******* grapevine and spreads like wildfire.

Since we finished I’ve had some contact with (ex, who is now stopping her from talking to me!) and as a result we’ve decided to give things another go, which probably sounds like madness but I know it’s the right thing for us to do.

I know it’s probably not what you want to hear, but I want to be honest with you because you’re a really fantastic person and I had a great time with you….it just wasn’t right in the end. I remain sure that out there somewhere is the girl of your dreams…..and she’s a very lucky girl indeed.

I’ve found quite a few things of yours around the flat so I’ll aim to get them to *** when he’s back from Oz if that’s OK?

Sorry again, take good care, and I wish you lots of fun looking for that soulmate…..you absolutely deserve the best.

Take Care,

What does guy have to do? Obviously being nice don't help!

longingformyluv Pittsburgh USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:29 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

In response to:

Hi Royston,

I just wanted to drop you a note to explain my rubbishness because I really want you to know about some stuff before it hits the ******* grapevine and spreads like wildfire.

Since we finished I’ve had some contact with (ex, who is now stopping her from talking to me!) and as a result we’ve decided to give things another go, which probably sounds like madness but I know it’s the right thing for us to do.

I know it’s probably not what you want to hear, but I want to be honest with you because you’re a really fantastic person and I had a great time with you….it just wasn’t right in the end. I remain sure that out there somewhere is the girl of your dreams…..and she’s a very lucky girl indeed.

I’ve found quite a few things of yours around the flat so I’ll aim to get them to *** when he’s back from Oz if that’s OK?

Sorry again, take good care, and I wish you lots of fun looking for that soulmate…..you absolutely deserve the best.

Take Care,

What does guy have to do? Obviously being nice don't help!

Obviously she wasn't the right one for you or you would still be together. As hard as it may be to hear this, you just have to move on. You're a great looking guy - stay nice!! Stick around the forums too - ya never know! Not to mention it is alot of fun!

RedHeadedTaurus Here, Michigan USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:33 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Apparently, you were taken for granted...never a good thing to have happen, in any relationship. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Be welcome, best wishes, & enjoy your stay here

alada Panama city Panama

Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:51 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

You'll be fine, in time. You have honest eyes.

Welcome to the site.

o0shorty0o near Berlin Germany

Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:54 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

welcome

enjoy

have fun

bamabeecee Banks of the Warrior River USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:59 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

What does a guy have to do? Keep being nice, and keep looking.

A little understanding on your part for her situation would be nice.

Just because she wasn't the right one for you doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Just the combination was apparently. Move on.

FindMe1113 Bronx USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 2:42 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

You will never be "Lonely" here......

Jess642 Agnes Water Australia

Fri Mar 23, 2007 5:22 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Hi Royston,

Ouch.

To have had a relationship where your things are still hanging around in her flat, says you had some history there.

So your relationship had ended, she decided to look at her ex, and their relationship, and perhaps work through it with him, (ie hook up).

May I ask, was your relationship with this woman a very long one? Was there much time between her ending her relationship with her ex, and starting one with you?

I suspect that you are looking at the whole thing the wrong way...you were you, and gave what you did to the relationship, and only you know the depth and sincerity that you gave to it.

Perhaps this woman did not give the same depth and sincerity, and so the whole thing was unbalanced.

I suspect you were giving more to this relationship the two of you had, than she was.

Why did it end between you two?

And as to what can you do differently in your next relationship, work through this one, own your part in it, and heal, first.

Then be all of you, honest and clear, and remain true to yourself.

TabooN Claremont USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 5:30 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

huh

since I've notseen you around cs, not sure what grapevine is mentioned...

coming to forum with a supposed letter?

blah blah

next

Who says you've been nice?

BoyScout Houston USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 5:41 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Hey Bro,

Just continue to be who you are. It looks like she just wasn't the right one for you.

Heal and just be yourself, one will come along, that will love you for who you are.

It has taken me a half a century of being nice, and now I've been blessed with an angel.

The magic key, be true to yourself, you'll like yourself a lot more.

mbcasey North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 5:44 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Keep posting to forums...you will meet someone else...good luck and sorry things didn't work out. Hang in there..

Royston772 East Yorkshire, West Yorkshire, England UK

Fri Mar 23, 2007 7:40 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Cheers guys for all the kind words, probably not the right forum (broken hearts) to post on simply because my heart was/is not broken!
It was only a short lived romance, I think I'm just more pissed off with the lack of contact, we split up very amicablly and I hoped we would still be friends, trouble is she was back with her ex a week later, I've not spoken to her since. I'm well and truly over it, I just hate to loose someone I care about as a friend for no reason.

As for Taboo, there's always one!

deborah12 wolverhampton UK

Fri Mar 23, 2007 7:48 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

In response to:

Hi Royston,

I just wanted to drop you a note to explain my rubbishness because I really want you to know about some stuff before it hits the ******* grapevine and spreads like wildfire.

Since we finished I’ve had some contact with (ex, who is now stopping her from talking to me!) and as a result we’ve decided to give things another go, which probably sounds like madness but I know it’s the right thing for us to do.

I know it’s probably not what you want to hear, but I want to be honest with you because you’re a really fantastic person and I had a great time with you….it just wasn’t right in the end. I remain sure that out there somewhere is the girl of your dreams…..and she’s a very lucky girl indeed.

I’ve found quite a few things of yours around the flat so I’ll aim to get them to *** when he’s back from Oz if that’s OK?

Sorry again, take good care, and I wish you lots of fun looking for that soulmate…..you absolutely deserve the best.

Take Care,

What does guy have to do? Obviously being nice don't help!

peachylisa anton USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 7:59 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

my ex brother-inlaw wanted to break up with this girl one time so he asked me for some advice cause he did not want to hurt her feelings
i suggested a "dear Jane letter" so he wrote his good bye to her and asked me to give it to her the next time she came by, so i did
as she stood at my door and read the letter she said who the hell is Jane my name is Susy... so much for feelings not getting hurt they are always going to be hurt any way you look at it

TabooN Claremont USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 8:11 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

In response to:

Cheers guys for all the kind words, probably not the right forum (broken hearts) to post on simply because my heart was/is not broken!
It was only a short lived romance, I think I'm just more pissed off with the lack of contact, we split up very amicablly and I hoped we would still be friends, trouble is she was back with her ex a week later, I've not spoken to her since. I'm well and truly over it, I just hate to loose someone I care about as a friend for no reason.

As for Taboo, there's always one!

one what?

asking if your nice? lol

how the heck do I know you've been nice?
out of the blue someone comes in and post a dear john letter?
ppaaalllease!

Royston772 East Yorkshire, West Yorkshire, England UK

Fri Mar 23, 2007 8:29 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Should I have built up to it lol? Admittidly you only have my word for it and you should never always belive what you read on the net!

TabooN Claremont USA

Fri Mar 23, 2007 8:37 PM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

In response to:

Should I have built up to it lol? Admittidly you only have my word for it and you should never always belive what you read on the net!

lol

usually at least doing an intro... saying hello to folks...

No, not never... just folks out of nowhere...

I'm a pain, I know...

We'll see.

spiceygamble Nola, Louisiana USA

Wed Jun 27, 2007 11:59 AM CST : New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John

Someone left this in the hall with your name on it...

I just thought you might need it.

:)

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