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I'm very upset and curious. I need to know why men freeze at the most inconvenant times. Get ya all hot and bothered, get ya undressed and then say sorry I can't, it's not you but you make me so nervous. I honestly don't think I did anything wrong, as a matter of fact I know I did everything right. He was all ready to go until it came down to it. My problem is he's not the first that this has happened too. And ppl wonder why I only date younger men.

You just have to remember that some men like foreplay and some things you just can't rush.

Dear O.H.

I really don't catch the younger men thing?
Is it the first date where the heat in the kitchen began climbing and if so, perhaps the guy got nervous about getting down to the nitty-gritty so fast and asked himself if this was the norm ?!?!

Openhonest,

Baby, I don't know where you find those guys. I've never had that problem. If I get that far, game on!!!

It's nothing wrong with you, they must have something wrong with them.

Hey, I'm a younger man....wink, wink....LOL

we are not all like that.the opposite if anything.like white on rice.or flys on shit.

They say "it's NOT you, but YOU make me so nervous." Tell them that you want to understand what they mean, but first
put the whip down. lol...Maybe they feel intimidated because you are taking the lead??? Maybe they think they will disappoint you??? OR maybe they were so excited, they already...were they undressed as well? What happens after they say this? I mean, do they stay, or do you ask them to leave? Maybe they are in a break up, and you are their rebound, and they have last minute convictions??? You never said how well you knew them. You can drive yourself crazy with this. Tell them no one else can answer this for you, but them, and you really NEED to know. Reassure them that if they are honest, you will not freak out if they tell you. Then please keep your word.

Why can't I find a woman who wants to get down to buisness!? Down here in Kentucky, us guys gotta buy flowers and stuff and be all nice...lol jking! I think my reputation as a nice guy just went down in flames lol.

Allen

Open I think you are just having some bad luck...I can honestly say I have never done that to a woman..And quite frankly I can't understand what man would..


Pete

good way 2 put it

Maybe he grew some manners?

Awww shit, sorry Laurie.

xoxoxo

I agree with SpiceAngel...perhaps they are intimidated by you...Men are strange sometimes.

I have come up with the same problem with men. They say things such as "your so different than anyone I've known before" or "we just can't right now. I'm afraid I'll disappoint you, or hurt you". Or, "I have feelings for you, I just can't committ now". Believe me I've heard it all. I even went to a counselor because I thought there was something wrong with me. By looking at your picture, you seem to be a very pretty woman. I was told that it's hard for pretty women to land a GOOD, HANDSOME man. They feel intimidated. Men find me attractive. I wonder if there is some truth in this because I've heard other pretty women say the same thing. I guess they're afraid they can't live up to what we would expect. Who knows? I'm still trying to figure it out myself. I would like for a man to answer that one.

Well, when I was with a woman "in that way", my erm..."tool" didn't work right. And I was embarrassed as heck, and if some woman showed up on my door naked I'd have to do some erm..."motivating" for the "troops". So maybe they are afriad that they won't be as good as they boast or somthing?

Allen

The fact you are a strong woman and good looking maybe intimidating to some men.Also laughing at them when they reveal their manhood is not good ,ol.

Maybe thats why lots of guys like doing it when the lights are out...? lol


Allen

I seriously that it's any woman's "fault" or any concoctionn of "intimidating sexuality" on the part of a woman, as according to the American Institute of Health findings for the last several years, male "performance failure is from 40 to 60% of the population; main causes are the stress levels brought on by job and home which translates as "economic" and "social" ; family(ies), job performance, friends (trying to "keep up with the Jones's scenarios....all these and more are the real culprits, not the women for the majority of cases in impotence and "penile dysfunction".....the Health Dept. keeps saying for males to change their lifestyles and diets...the stats in Canada, especially on the Eas coast, for these same problems is going up also with the exception of Quebec,(they are more laid back) and here on the west coast with British Columbia having the least problems because of both lifestyle and diet....now that is surprising due to all the stress this Govt. is causing people....:)

I am not intimidated by any beautiful woman.If she wants to get it on , then lets get it on.

I don't think we're necessarily talking about a man not being able to get it up here as the one person wrote. I think there is much more involved. We can tell if it's up or not and the ones I've been with are not having a problem in that area.

If a man or woman has a problem with intimidation with the opposite sex, then they would seem to have a lack of self confedence within themselves.

The fear of all that ,or some what feels good,being afraid to touch what is real,it is there emotions of not being able to deal what is real,and when you are not in touch with you,what feels good or comfortable becomes fearful,strange ,but true.
To be physical and emotional is lethal,but in a good way,the combination is not one all can comprehend,however ,ALWAYS,reahh for the stars,never settleing for what is less than,ofcourse,just my opion.