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she got lonely
one to many times...
and I wasn't there one too many times.

Or

Do want the long version?

I would have rather cut off my arm than get divorced. I loved him with all my heart, but I didnt realize how selfish and immature he was. He decided he would be happier with a woman he worked with. Even after I found out he was cheating, I tried to get him to work everything out with me, but in Tennessee you dont need your spouses cooperation to divorce them, so he got everything he wanted. I will choose better next time..

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thats how I lost my mother but the driver of the other car was stoned on marijuana.

I could have 4 women at the same time.So one them would be good anyway!

one was enough, and she preferred my mate to me

Well yes does sound about the same...
But I wasn't and he was. I respected
his up bringing and waited...
Yes I agree completely.

4 is better, they fight with each other and forget you! believe me!

What is the deal with all the cheating? Is monogomy so hard? What is it about committment that people dont understand? What is wrong with people that they find it so hard to be faithful to the one that they by their own will CHOSE to be faithful to? These people were so lucky that someone loved them enough to commit to them and spend the rest of their lives devoted to them, and they throw it away like it means nothing. It truely disgusts me.

he had a elbow problem..... bent it too much

I'm with you bonnie... It's really sad that words no longer have any meaning to them for some people.
Shoot I'm even finding it hard to swallow the fact that alot of people choose to lead someone one or drag it out instead of just saying..."hey I'm not interested in you anymore". Yea, it hurts but I'll get over it but be less hurt than not telling me the truth. I'd have much more respect for someone that had the ba**s to tell me that rather than lead me on or drag it out for God knows how long... shew... relationships are starting to disgust me!

You are absolutely right. That's the whole reason behind my first marriage. We really were not emotionally prepared & responsible. We grew up and really were very incompatible. A tradgic event ended the marriage. We were just not strong enough to move forward. I did take the time to grew up alittle more. Second (most resent marriage) ended as it was suppose to. Death really does end a marriage. During those 16 years, we worked at changing our own personal beliefs with the help of each other. Really shocked others because I was his 3rd wife. So, I hold onto the belief that the 3rd one is the magical one, the one where you put all hindsight into proper perspective.

Gentlepaws!! I been married 1 time,and i guess i was still wet behind the ears,when it came to understanding.Ithought a wife was to be seen and not heard, unless she was addressed.My Ex,was very posessive and dominating.We had 3 children,and I married him,back in december of 69,Had our first child,in 70,
Waited awhile,had our 2nd child,born in 74,and then our youngest child was born a year later,in 75,She was born June 20th 1975,
within 3 weeks of her birth,he flew the coop!!!!Left me with the three kids,while he moved in with his first wife.So as i hear,he was with her onand off,our whole marriage. So,GentlePaws!!! I was a dumb as a MudBrick.Iam not stupid anymore.Ihave been totally single,since our divorce,in July 14th 1974.

TypingError OOOPS!!!! July 14th,1975

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DANG!!!!!! Whats his Username,justin case? He sounds like BadBerries!!!!

NOT!!!!!!!

Sometimes, Bonnie, you discover that the way they love you isn't the same way you thought they loved you.

I wrote a quip awhile back. I said, "When they tell you that they don't think you feel about them the way they want you to, don't tell them they're stupid if they can't tell. It validates their point."

I tried a lot of things to work on my marriage, but when I hit the point I honestly said I'd rather be dead than spend another 20 years like that, I knew it was time to leave, to save my own life. I was that unhappy.

well maybe Im naive, but I think if you make a commitment like marriage to somebody, you should honor it until death. Otherwise, dont make the commitment. If you find yourself unhappy, do what you can to make yourself happy in the marriage. Work it out WITH your spouse. Marriage is holy and should not be taken lightly.

I was married for over 25 years, Bonnie. I didn't take it lightly. I took it seriously enough that I really DID consider ending my life before ending the marriage. It would take a small book to describe everything that was wrong, and all the things I tried to do to make it work. But it all boils down to we couldn't meet each other's needs. Period. And there was no point in two unhappy people in the world, when they could search for happiness.

I dont know what happened in your marriage, but I do know what I believe. God gives no excuse for divorce other than adultery. Im not trying to impose my beliefs on anyone. Maybe I know nothing, but I truely believe any marriage can be saved with Gods help. That doesnt mean it will be, because both people have to trust God and let Him lead them for it to work.

sorry havent been married...kinda want to get my life stable first
dating dont mind....