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or am i fooling myself ?
I used to think that the perfect woman was out there for me. But, man that will discourage ya pretty darn quick. Things take time and patience, but if ya in a race for the rush of the ultimate partner you could be limiting the growth possibilities you need to obtain when things come around full circle. The other part is the understanding of it all...
Some people say that growth comes in time. I think there may be something to that, but it definitely is not necessarily a one way street.
This day and age dating sure is different than in times passed. Man a live it gets kind of wild I think at times. But, the one thing I have had to ask myself, particularly with Internet Dating, is "How do I turn down an offer when it isn't acceptable to me yet don't result in offending the person I don't know very well?" That is not always an easy thing to do, but necessary at times.
I guess you could say that question is great because it considers and shows a desire to treat people with considerate decency. Can't say I see that approach very often though. I guess that question also shows understanding that the best way to get what you want is to make the other person feel good about themselves, as well as about you.
Let's face it, the ego elicits the making of emotional decisions and, if insulted unless they have tremendously high self-esteem, people will often make decisions that aren't good for them.
Sooooooooooooo when I read your question the first thing that comes to mind for me is "Hey man I used to ask myself the same thing!", but ya know it may not be a case of what is necessarily out there for you as it may be a case of you there for them too!
