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Why is it so very hard to admit, you are looking for love??? Though I do believe some people in here really are looking for friendship, I find it difficult to believe that so many people choose to sign up at a dating site with the intention to find friends. Furthermore I find it strange that you would go online to find friends. When I receive a flower or a message from someone claiming to be looking for "Friends/hang outs" only, I can't help but wander if she is socially disabled in some way. Also, could one of you guys claiming to be looking for friends first and foremost please be as kind as to tell me, why you take the time to describe what you are looking for in the opposite sex?? And perhaps tell me, why you don't go out IRL to find friends.
I've been signed up in here for more than 6 months, but have only been reading in the forums for a few weeks. I really don't mean to be judgemental or tell people how they should live their lives, but seriously.....some of you spend an amazingly large part of your life in here. By any standards that can't be healthy. Especially not if you are in lack of friends. I regard it a warning sign, when someone claims to have friends in here, which they've never met IRL. At least your definition of the word "friend" is very different from mine. Most of you living in the Western world would most likely find it very strange, if you saw somebody claiming to have a serious relationship with another person of the opposite in here, though they've never met. I don't really see the difference between that and claiming to have a friend in here, you've never met. Though I'm absolutely sure it'll make me very unpopular, my advice to a lot of you guys posting hundreds of postings in here each day, would be to turn off your computer and go out and meet people IRL. It's so much more fulfilling than spending time on virtual friends in here.
For those of you already in a relationship, who are truely looking for friends only, I'd like to mention, that I believe most people would be a bit frustrated if their better half is spending a lot of time on a singles dating site. Personally I would never accept it, if my girlfriend was spending a lot of spare time on a dating site, and I'm the kind of person who feel very secure in the realtionships I'm in, because otherwise I'm not in a relationship.
I'm sure a few of you might be wandering, why I'm signed up in here, and let me answer that on beforehand. First of all I'm sick of Scandinavian women. In general they are so full of them selves it makes me want to throw up. However I still go out a lot, and it doesn't stop me from trying to find someone to love and be loved by in Denmark. Secondly I travel a lot, and I don't see myself living in Denmark the rest of my life. Hence finding love outside the Danish borders could just happen to be the thing kicking me on my out of Denmark (just for the record, I love you Americans and your country, but I'd never ever want to live in the US permantly). Thirdly, I love to get the opportunity to know other cultures, and writing with people in here gives me a lot of insight as to what goes on in the heads of people around the world.
To me it seems that long posts rarely get read in the American forums - or at least rarely get commented upon, when they are from non US/Canadian members. I'd genuinely appreciate answers to my questions or just comments that'll help me understand, why you choose to join a dating site to find friends. Thanks in advance
Some of us came here looking for a partner in life...but have come to the realization that isn't likely to happen. So now we are looking for "friends", for lack of a better word!
As far as spending too much time here....that's not your call! I feel safer here chatting than going to a bar and getting drunk or be around drunks.
You said you haven't spent much time in the threads...but you didn't waste much time criticizing the people in it!!!
I realize that I will never meet a mate in these rooms, but what I do with my spare time....is my business