In response to:
Well I'm supposed to hot headed, impatient etc etc and I'm none of those things....hmmmmmm

Scorpio
The bright side
Scorpios often get a bad press! They have very intense personalities with hidden depths, though they have great compassion being able to reach out to troubled people.
Being deeply emotional themselves, Scorpios understand and accept the feelings that other signs cannot handle. Scorpio is not afraid in the dark, this sign often makes an ideal therapist. Many doctors and surgeons are Scorpios. They have incredible personal magnetism and often make loyal, devoted, friends and lovers.
Powerful feelings and emotions, committed, loyal, imaginative, discerning, subtle, persistent, determined.
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The dark side
Scorpios have a hidden and secretive side. They are not averse to using their deep understanding of others to gain power over them for their own ends. Scorpio has a fascination for power, how it is used and how to hold other people with it.
Sometimes this can extend to cruelty, Scorpio is vindictive and brooding, a sign that never forgets a grudge. Scorpio is prone to having an inner self destruct button, which they push compulsively from time to time.
over emotional, hypersensitive, moody, devious, changeable, self-pitying, unforgiving, unstable, gullible, untidy.
Ailments
Bladder disorders, cystitis, genito-urinary diseases, piles, prostate trouble, PMT.
Beneficial foods
Prunes and hops.
You are most compatible with
Pisces - absolutely superb,
Taurus - a rewarding relationship,
Aries - long lasting,
Cancer - paradise,
Libra - heady stuff,
Leo - a powerful attraction.
Absolutely no chance!
Scorpio - nuclear explosion,
Gemini - volatile,
Sagittarius - can be strained,
Aquarius - up and then down.
Your opposite sign
is Taurus