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...so depressed!

Okay...so lately everyone around me, and those that I pretty much "have" to be around, has been/is majorly bummed out and depressed. I try to be upbeat, positive, and even limit my exposure when I can, but...it's starting to wear on me. Now, I'm finding myself getting all bummed out, depressed, and even irritated - because everyone else around me is!!!!!!!! Is there really anything I can do, besides try to not let it get to me (which isn't working very well)???

i hunni well babe u dont need all that depression


round you ur a bubbly happy lady so just tell em too


b...........y well cheer up if dont go sumwhere else......it does get u down being around those sorta people , give urself a break and go pamper yourself and get around sun lively happy poeples ......hugssss babsxx

Go out to the local park....pop on a ski mask..drag some hunk into the bushes....cuff him.....have your wicked way with him...then write your number on his arm in red lipstick...and say in a sexy voice...."im sending you the bill for that lipstick big boy....call me..."........

aww...

I am sorry you are having a hard time Red. What I had to learn a long time ago, and is still a process I have to work out...is not to let others have control over my emotions.
Easier said than done, however. Breathe girl, just breathe!

Try this: When you find yourself with a depressed person and it's bringing you down, point at their feet and chuckle! After you've done this a few times, it actually gets to the point where you can't HELP but laugh. Then you let them in on the "joke" and go after someone else. The more people who get in on this, the funnier it will become. If someone takes offense, then let them in the "joke" early and explain what you're doing.

The idea behind this is that laughter will always help. Even forced laughter will become genuine after doing it a few times and realizing how silly it is.

Luck to you!

Hmmm...not a bad idea, for a temporary fix, anyway.

Thanks, honey...

Ah, yes...it's the control thing. You are right.


Thank you.

who said it has to be temporary,.....make it a regular Monday....Wednesday...and Friday night thang......

Look at your feet!


I'll try it, but will probably get some very strange looks!



Thanks...

You've done the right thing, come out here and post asking for help. It worked for me yesterday.

Just knowing there are so many people who are willing to make you feel better should lighten your mood...

So...you don't think the ski mask will look too suspicious?

not always.... but it sounded good, eh? I gave you a lousy ass answer...Im sorry.
It is very difficult when those around you are bummed alot...gets really old really fast. The best thing to do is try to limit your exposure to them, but not have them feel you have abandoned them. It is a tough spot to be in...I am sorry. I know it is hard to deal with.

Thank you...


I just feel so... at a loss here. And trying to keep my own mood/state of mind "up" is getting to be extremely difficult.

Nah...you can roll it up into a bob hat...... then when you see your prey....just roll it right down.....

I know what you mean, perhaps you need to remind yourself that you have a good life and you aren't the one who is depressed.. It is great to provide comfort to others, but sometimes you may have to put yourself first.

see...the thought of hunting some unsuspecting bloke down.....that did the trick.....

Yes, that's true. Put myself first... see, I suppose I need to do that much more often...

If he's good write your number with a permaneant marker!!!