Posted: Oct 10, 2007, 4:02 PM CST
Unknowingly initially I was with a violent man and I divorced him after a few years. Would I settle for that kind again? No.
Women want nice guys, but some men pull a great stunt when you are dating and you don't know them until after you say I do. Then, some ladies stay due to insecurities and/or fear. Others have kids, thinking the abuse will stop. Then they stay because of the kids.
It's not that women choose to be beat up or with jerks. Some men have a great sales pitch and good people are then stuck in a situation. They won't leave until they are ready mentally. Women do want nice men - Just doesn't happen that way sometimes.
If you are a nice guy and don't beat women, then you have to learn a ton of patience because some carry that baggage full of fears, mistrust, low self-esteem. If you give them time to trust you, put fears aside and recognize the difference between you and what they left behind, you will have an extraordinary partner.