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Well, I say this because I have a disability to where I cannot work...and who really wants a women who can't work and is in pain everyday?!?! NOT TOO MANY!
Believe me, AZGirl, the man who is right for you won't care whether or not you can work. And while it probably will upset him that you're in pain, he'll want to be there to do everything he can for you.
I agree, the man I'm describing is rather rare - but you only need one, right?