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Im some ways, developing a LDR is a good thing. There is a built in governor to the pace that things can actually happen.

Personally, I think sex is the biggest reason for failure in most budding relationships. That may sound prudish, It's not. I love an afternoon in bed as much as the next person. Maybe even more than most.

We all have an inherent need for intimacy. It's the reason most of us are here. A strong sexual relationship is the purest form of communication with somebody. An oppportunity to express to one person, that special person, all that you feel about them. It is only natural to associate sex and intimacy with that kind of communication attached to it.

While stereotyping has put men into a "looking for sex" light and women into a "looking for a relationship" light, the reality is that we are searching for the same thing. We just have different emotions defining our viewpoints of it. Mars vs. Venus.

Most people have been in the boat of meeting someone and finding them interesting. Nature takes over, you jump into the sack. Unless one of you two is a cold fish, a good time is had. It also triggers an event.
A hidden acid test of a sort. The true relationship clock starts ticking down to zero hour....decision time.

There is an underlying commitment made when you have relations with somebody. The roller coaster has left the platform. But you can really only hope that the ride is a good one.

Good times are had, the sex is great. But soon thereafter, the nagging "where is the magic" feeling creeps in. The natural assumption is that the problem is who you are with. Therein lies the problem.

The intimacy that we are really seeking hasn't had time to develop. You can try and nut it out until it does, but that brings on a whole different set of problems. Good fodder for another post, but too long for this one.

Before you know it, things stagnate. The relationship withers.

So, is being forced to go slow, taking your time, letting the distance to that crucial milepost remain, really such a bad thing?

Just my two cents...

That was well said I could not have put it better myself

I believe they can work.. when you really care about someone it can be hard but I'd rather be in a long distance relationship with someone I care about than not be with them at all.. and most often couples do make plans for someone to move in the future. For me to pack up and move my life the man would have to be pretty special but he would prove to me just how special he is when he wants to make a long distance relationship work.
How do you all feel about long distance relationships?

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and they love us Aussie girls......

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