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Ok, this is probably totally none of my business, but I am wondering.
What if she met her soulmate? And they were deeply in love and he wanted her to come be with him. Would she leave then?
And if not, then what would be the point in finding someone new?
Does she only want/need an online relationship, someone to fill the emptiness?
Or would it be a lengthy distance relationship allowing her to be with him one day when the kids are older?
I am not trying to "judge" but trying to understand.

Yes she would leave him. What would the point be in finding love?
No I don't think you are judging.
Yes she would leave in a heartbeat if she knew this other person truly loved her.

Yes, it does. Especially if one is with a control freak. They make it so you have no family or friends to turn to for help, they make it impossible for you to work and have your own money, and in many cases they make it so you can not even leave the house (by making sure you have no car).
So, you end up stuck.
I've been there and it does take time to get out. It took me probably 5 years to finally pull myself up by my boot straps and get out.
It's very difficult, but not impossible.
The hardest part is learning to believe in yourself again, and believing that you can do make it. They make you feel like you can not.
For people that don't understand how these people work, and how you can fall into this pit, it's hard to make them understand.
Mine treated me like a princess, bought me anything, took me out all the time, made sure I had everything I needed and only wanted me to take care of the house and my daughter (such a sweetie right?). Well, that unknowing to me was just the beginning of becoming "controlled".
Years later, when things began to go South, I suddenly found myself in a bad relationship with no way out.

I am sorry you had to go through with that.
I am glad you are no longer in it.
Yes it does take time.
Thanks

Thanks :)
I know I poured a lot of my past out there, but just making a point that I know how she feels, and I hope that she can find happiness one day.

You already have the answers to all your questions. truly is it really about being a "player", I would bet not. If for one minute you think your child or children are okay with this and arent being harmed, your sadly mistaken. I can say this because I lived it. Theres contradictions in this story, but I wont go there. Several things to think about, again your kids are suffering whether you choose to see it or not...they soak it all up. to say leave mommy alone, thats your first clue. By them watching your relationship with their dad is teaching them its ok, its ok to hurt or language in a poor manner or its ok for a man to treat them that way. Children learn what they live, dont be fooled. I thought mine didnt see a thing, I was wrong. In regards to not having any money, a place to go, or not being able to work...only excuses all things are possible. you set your mind to it and you do it. You have to want to leave and move on, just as much as you appear here to want to find a true love. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy, its the hard things one has to endure to make life worth living. Theres churches, agencies, government assistance, it can be done to leave with nothing. I know cuz I did it. No I didnt have a sick child, I had 3 healthy ones. I stayed for a long time, cuz i thought my kids needed 2 parents, turns out I can be both and they are better for it. And how in the hell cares what people think of you, there not living your life. Let them judge, should be nothing to you. I'm gonna quit cuz I dont remember what all other reasons you stated for staying. Im so sorry if i said anything that offended you, wasnt my intention. I only say this is because I had it in my mind, if I chose to stay in a bad situation and wasnt willing to solve it, I had no reason to dwell on it or complain. However, as soon as I left then I could complain and say how lousy it was. Your in a crappy situation and im sorry, but it is only you and you alone that can get you and your children of it. No one can or will get you out. Had i not been in your shoes i wouldnt say a word. but know if you do leave and move on with you life... it will be hard, maybe hardest thing you've done. but it wil be worth it in the end. I didnt know life could be so beautiful until i left and was set free. I learned what love was and I learned more importantly who I was. Life is a precious gift dont waste it, you only get it once. Show your children there mother is a fighter, show them how to be strong..show the how beautiful the world really is... best wishes always...

Just in case this is your friend your talking about...well the best to her as well.

hey lots of players on here i know i met one and she done my head in.

She is working on getting out. Yes the children see all, but she talks to them and teaches them what is right and wrong. They are good children and they don't pay it any mind. They know their parents do not love one another and have been fussing before they were born. They understand. Happy children. Very. She does not want to leave because she has it made, but if she can find love, then leaving is no problem. She is content to stay until she can get on her feet. If she thought her children were in any danger she would leave in a heartbeat. The children are fine. She has dealt with this man for 15 years. She is use to his ways. She does not pay him any mind. She is working on getting out. It takes time even when someone has to go through an agency.
Thanks for your input friend.

Hey Digger
How are you?
I know and I am sorry.
I met someone on here and they did me to.
I'm sorry you got played. I can sympathize with you.

I hope in your journey you can find your peace..its worth fighting for. Pls dont let love or falling in love be your guide...leaving one relationship whether good are bad and then get into another isnt fair to yourself or for the new person you bring into your life. Love can be wonderful, loving and being loved is something that so many want and long for. But love isnt the answer, you cant be happy with just love alone it just isnt enough. You have to be happy with yourself and love yourself before anyone else can, they cant do it for you. Again, take care, may love, peace, grace, and joy be on your side..

Thank you
You are correct.

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Hello Alex
How are you?
Thanks for asking.
I'm fine.

i see you have a new pic

Yes and a couple of more pictures.
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you look wonderful

Thank you
You look good yourself.

you are too kind.

And you are very kind.
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